I heard a preacher once say that you cannot marry the wrong person and that all you have to do is work on it like you would any marriage. I disagree, I think you can marry the wrong person. What do you think ?
Can You Marry The Wrong Person ?
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Absolutely one can marry the wrong person, and people are doing that every day! God gives His children a command about that:
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
When a believer disregards God's recipe for marriage, then one can expect trouble.
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
When a believer disregards God's recipe for marriage, then one can expect trouble.
Can one marry the wrong person. hang on I'll have to ask my wife.
In fact a preacher once said to an audience that his wife was asked what the secret was to their long and happy marriage. She said that it was because they were both in love with the same man. Of course the Christian audience applauded oh yes very good, Jesus of course. But thats not who she meant
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In fact a preacher once said to an audience that his wife was asked what the secret was to their long and happy marriage. She said that it was because they were both in love with the same man. Of course the Christian audience applauded oh yes very good, Jesus of course. But thats not who she meant
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We can marry the wrong Christian as well. Just because a person is saved, does'nt mean they are the one for us.
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Everyone is the wrong person. Seriously think about it.
A Jewish proverb says, "Being in love is not all the butterflies, and good feelings, and happiness. Being in love is putting up with all the other stuff that's left over."
In other words, It doesn't matter who it is you marry, you will eventually get over the honey moon phase, and begin to get on eachothers nerves. Somedays you wont be able to stand to look at them. Some days you'll have no feelings one way or the other. Some days you'll argue, or fight. Years later you may look at them and wonder, "Who are you?" you might even say, "You're not the person I married." Some days you'll wish you were single. It goes on and on and on, and has for thousands of years.
Marriage isn't easy. It takes patience, and work, and sacrifice.
A time will come, when you finish going through the changes of youth, and become comfortable in your own skin. A time will come when you realize that it's not the other persons hobbies, clothing, hairstyle, music, interests or any of that you fell in love with. You will come to realize that it's the Character and the Quality of the person. You will begin to see, that the best traits and qualities are still there after all these years. And, one day after all the hard work, and labor, and squabbles, and sacrifice, you'll realize, "Yes! You are that person I married! I love you!".
The problem is, people don't understand what changes are in people. People don't understand that it's not your interests, friends, clothes, hair, makeup, cars, hobbies, jobs, or any of these, that make you who you are. People don't understand that paying attention to these things makes you a little selfish. You want them to be just the same forever, and not give room or lead way for them to become or do something else. It's from fear that you wont have what you think you wanted, and what you think they are. Even though, changing all things around them, they're still the same PERSON.
Hmmm, that sounds like a rant from the Fight Club movie. LOL< but there it is.
(Edited to add: I've been married since I was 18. We will celebrate our 17th anniversary next month.)
A Jewish proverb says, "Being in love is not all the butterflies, and good feelings, and happiness. Being in love is putting up with all the other stuff that's left over."
In other words, It doesn't matter who it is you marry, you will eventually get over the honey moon phase, and begin to get on eachothers nerves. Somedays you wont be able to stand to look at them. Some days you'll have no feelings one way or the other. Some days you'll argue, or fight. Years later you may look at them and wonder, "Who are you?" you might even say, "You're not the person I married." Some days you'll wish you were single. It goes on and on and on, and has for thousands of years.
Marriage isn't easy. It takes patience, and work, and sacrifice.
A time will come, when you finish going through the changes of youth, and become comfortable in your own skin. A time will come when you realize that it's not the other persons hobbies, clothing, hairstyle, music, interests or any of that you fell in love with. You will come to realize that it's the Character and the Quality of the person. You will begin to see, that the best traits and qualities are still there after all these years. And, one day after all the hard work, and labor, and squabbles, and sacrifice, you'll realize, "Yes! You are that person I married! I love you!".
The problem is, people don't understand what changes are in people. People don't understand that it's not your interests, friends, clothes, hair, makeup, cars, hobbies, jobs, or any of these, that make you who you are. People don't understand that paying attention to these things makes you a little selfish. You want them to be just the same forever, and not give room or lead way for them to become or do something else. It's from fear that you wont have what you think you wanted, and what you think they are. Even though, changing all things around them, they're still the same PERSON.
Hmmm, that sounds like a rant from the Fight Club movie. LOL< but there it is.
(Edited to add: I've been married since I was 18. We will celebrate our 17th anniversary next month.)
I absolutely loved reading your post, it gave me huge cause for pause in my thinking about marriage.Unfortunately my husband died within our first year of our marriage so I did'nt get to see much of the twists and turns that you speak of ...however, I did get annoyed when he would leave the toilet seat up LOL. Thank you for your post and congratulations on your up-coming 17th anniversary !!!
This is SO spot on, if only that other 50% in America would absorb this info. Excellent post! :lol:
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