I was thinking yesterday that our emotional foundations are a real as foundations in our houses.
The most fundamental ones are love for our mother and father. This love is not personal, ie for individuals as such but for the role.
The truth is parents always fail, and we always need to implicitly trust them to survive.
But shut this down, deny it, destroy it, and we destroy ourselves.
Or take our sexuality or gender. So fundamental to who we are. If we deny it, and imagine something different, we undermine basic emotional foundations that then go chaotic. Little wonder folk who open up sexually and define themselves in fluid terms are actually denying themselves and letting emotional tensions create mental illness. Our limitations are truly difficult, but also a privilege, because all humans have them.
Jesus talks about getting our foundations in Him and being real in private, in the closed room, where it is not to an audience, it is literally who we are.
Once Jesus is established everything has a place and order and peace can reign. Nothing needs to get out of proportion, because each emotion triggers an appropriate response, because Jesus is our anchor. In some ways the weaker one is, the easier it is to establish and learn to know what is going on.
Someone very close to me has no anchor, and so lives on the emotions she thinks others are having, which then defines what she should feel.
So painting your front door is not because it needs doing but to show off, for impact etc. For me a front door is that, and if it looks nice that is a plus. I hope my neighbours know me and not the front door, because I am so much more than a front door.
But if you do not know yourself and you are your front door, just an impression, then things get turned upside down.
It used to be poverty broke the poor down to rely on others, and the rich do not care, so go so off the rails it cannot be hidden, but the middle class can pretend and lie, and be hidden enough to never find out reality. And sadly this is the biggest growth in society, so little wonder lostness and silence is spreading.
For some christians are just the statements of faith, and that defines them. A little wealth and they are the front door people, and you will never know them beyond the front door, because they literally have no clue who they are, and are terrified someone else might find out.
So emotional foundations are essential as well as being able to talk to them. God bless you