Devastated Lost and Confused

[Lordhelpme15]

Hello my fellow christians,

As I'm seating here writing this I have a stream of tears running down on my face. I'm in this situation where I can not turn to no one only the Lord can help me. You see I used to date this man a while back I fell in love with him and we broke up because my parents didn't like him. Per their suggestion, I broke up with him. The reason why I broke up with him is that I know deep down they were right as they've always been before and I didn't want to get hurt. Now that i'm in a new relationship with an amazing christian guy who treats me way better but I don't love him the way he loves me. I find myself constantly thinking about my ex, i dream about him and I just can't stop. I found out that my ex is with someone else now and it just devastates me. It's been two years, I've prayed to God that I can forget about my ex and move on but it's still not happening. I've fasted and prayed and prayed but I still feel sad and find myself being jealous of his new girlfriend. I'm so lost, I feel angry and hurt I can't talk to anyone about this. I have all of these mixed emotions. The last time I talked to my ex, he was so angry that he told me he didn't want to be with me, he didn't love me and that I should've not listened to my parents. My heart is heavy and broken. I've asked the Lord for guidance but I just can't seem to shake this. I don't know what to do anymore...... I just want to give up on everything. Please Help me !!! I'm so heartbroken. Can God help me move on? I feel so alone.....

 

[rockytopva]

It is hard to fight against passion, for whatever it wants it buys at the expense of the soul. –Heraclitus

Our human hearts lay hold on the things of the earth to our own disadvantage. Unfortunately it will take time for the hurt to go away. There are times when a dog will chew on an old bone with great delight. Try to take that bone away and he will growl at you. He will only leave the bone for something better. Throw out a T-Bone steak and he will leave that old bone for it in an instant. God does have better things than that old bone for you. Take time to seek him and to let him guide you in the best directions.

 

[Angelina]

Hey dear sister!
I think that you may be needing some kind of closure, so perhaps I could suggest something that may help. Write down exactly how you are feeling about the whole past situation and then burn it....kinda like giving it all up to God. Then if it ever comes back in your mind again, ask God to remove it and place it back in his hands again. He has a plan for your life but you need to allow him to help you move on by giving him permission to do so...

Blessings!!!

 

[Wini]

Hello my fellow christians,

As I'm seating here writing this I have a stream of tears running down on my face. I'm in this situation where I can not turn to no one only the Lord can help me. You see I used to date this man a while back I fell in love with him and we broke up because my parents didn't like him. Per their suggestion, I broke up with him. The reason why I broke up with him is that I know deep down they were right as they've always been before and I didn't want to get hurt. Now that i'm in a new relationship with an amazing christian guy who treats me way better but I don't love him the way he loves me. I find myself constantly thinking about my ex, i dream about him and I just can't stop. I found out that my ex is with someone else now and it just devastates me. It's been two years, I've prayed to God that I can forget about my ex and move on but it's still not happening. I've fasted and prayed and prayed but I still feel sad and find myself being jealous of his new girlfriend. I'm so lost, I feel angry and hurt I can't talk to anyone about this. I have all of these mixed emotions. The last time I talked to my ex, he was so angry that he told me he didn't want to be with me, he didn't love me and that I should've not listened to my parents. My heart is heavy and broken. I've asked the Lord for guidance but I just can't seem to shake this. I don't know what to do anymore...... I just want to give up on everything. Please Help me !!! I'm so heartbroken. Can God help me move on? I feel so alone.....

Praying is good. Reading Jesus' letter to you (the Bible) is much better ... especially when an obsessive thoughts of your ex keeps returning. Open the Bible to any page and start reading. I guarentee you, your thoughts will be on Jesus' truth. Peace.

I responed in the wrong location. I'm new on this board. Please be patient with me.

This is in response to Lordhelpme15. Whenever you find your thoughts being hijacked (whether it's this courant situation or a future one) open up the Bible and read Jesus' truth. No matter what page you turn to, your attention will be focused on what Jesus is telling us and low and behold, you forget you had these obssessive thoughts.