Only one from church small group not invited to wedding

[poehlerfan]

I am so upset, a couple at my church and in my small group got married and had this wedding and invited everyone from my small group except me. I know this because I saw pictures of everyone from my small group at the wedding. This was after I talked to my pastor about whether it was open invite bc I didnt get an invitation and he said it was invitation only and that I wasnt the only one not invited. But looking at the pictures I see that isnt true. So then I messaged him and told him I saw everyone from small group that goes regurarly there. He listed a few names of people that weren't invited, but they don't come very often (with the exception of this one guy and this girl who just started coming a few few months ago). That doesnt matter to me because I have been going regularly, Im a girl and have been going for a long time and I was the only one out of the group of girls that goes regurarly that isnt new that was not invited. That is what makes me feel like there is something wrong with me because I was the only girlone out of the core group not invited, like do they have something against me or does somebody else in the group have something against me and they wanted them there and didnt want them feeling uncomfortable around me? I dont know. But I was the only girl who has been coming a year that attends regurarly that wasn't invited. I had specifically asked him before the wedding if there were other people that go regurarly to small group that weren't invited and he said a whole bunch. One guy and one new person isn't a whole bunch. Why would he say this? And why was I the only girl that attends regurarly not invited? And he had access to the guest list to know who was invited? Why would he know the guest list? He was officiating the wedding, but still, does the officiant usually know the guest list?

 

[Angelina]

Hi poehlerfan, I'm sorry that you are upset about not being invited to the wedding along with all the other folks who go to your small group. :unsure: That kinda sucks but you need to let it go and be the better person about it. Perhaps they only had a specific amount of people they could invite because it was a small wedding, I don't know...You could [and I am being a little forward thinking here] give them a small gift as a wedding present which may just help you get over the offense...Just a thought. :embarrassed-smiley53:

We have a saying in my country when we get upset about situations like this "Let it roll over your head" meaning ~ let it go past you, don't bring it up again and just move on. Onward and Upward! Bless you! :2ztacrk: