Please pray, I can't be everyone's anchor at 24...

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Tom_Is_Second

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I'm only 24, and I went through trial by fire to catapult into running a multi-million dollar operation all by myself. I wrote a few algorithms and now I've got Fortune 500 executives swearing up and down how brilliant I am... which is not true, I just didn't sleep for months : ). And next week 30 coworkers are throwing a party to thank me for my work (which is unheard of!). I know, its silly I'm complaining and I'm sure nobody is feeling sorry for me, but all this sudden wild success and blessings has me overwhelmed. Everybody in my personal life is looking to me since I'm the only stable one (but I'm still starting out and trying to get my life together). My mom last year kept asking me for money to the point it got out of control. Then my older brother married a jezebel and had a sickly child who probably won't make it, and my mom wanted me to give him money to help him out. When my financial resources started to get strained, I finally told my mom no more, and while she got very mad she accepted the boundaries I laid out. Now Mom is asking me to help my dad get a job and get my younger brother an internship. I'm going crazy, I can't be everyone's keeper. i've only worked fulltime for 8 months and despite things going well I'm still starting out! I feel bad I've been harsh at times to my mom, but I can't let her use me anymore.

On top of that, most of my unemployed friends are jealous of me and stopped talking to me, and it hurts. I've tried reaching out but with no success. So many of them feel my blessings are undeserved, even though I spent my joyless childhood, high school, and college years buried in calculus, business statistics, and computer science deliberately planning for my own job security while everyone else partied. My remaining friends are all girls, because unlike guys my age they don't feel threatened by me. But even they have all become dysfunctional with difficult times. My best friend became really depressed and she is becoming emotionally detached from everything, and it hurts she is shutting me out. For all my friends that are girls, it's been awfully hard to find one stable enough to be my girlfriend.

Please just pray for my family and friends. Everybody in my personal life seems to be going through a catastrophe and coming to me for help. The rest are just shutting me out in anger or embarassment. I wish I could help everyone out but I'm still only 24.
 

7angels

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it is difficult isn't it. i know it is not easy but if you do not have boundaries everyone will walk all over you. it is sad but true that family and close friends will have more of an impact on you then anyone else probably because your relationship with them is so close. i am sorry you are having such problems but the devil will get to us any way he can if we don't keep our guard up. the rich have just as many problems as the poor. the only thing is the rich seem to stuggle with many of the problems you stated above and more. if you take the time each day to be with God and ask for guidance and direction you will find that for some reason things will turn out better then you expected and your big problems you were dealing with will look small and inconsequential.

i will be praying for you.

God bless
 

Arnie Manitoba

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It's called "new money"

You obviously do not come from a wealthy family , so now that you have acquired a bit ..... all the redneck peasants around you are trying to get rid of it for you

They also feel they are entitled to share in your success.

Trouble is it will not work in the end , they will squander it

The end result is they will drag you back down into poverty right along side of them.

Wealthy people who come from families with "Old Money" never have those issues .

From now on just say NO ,

Save your money and become secure , your high income may vanish in the future if somebody else invents a better algorithm than yours.

Once you are truly financially secure it is nice to help family a bit , but not because they are entitled to it.

You are the only person truly entitled to your success .... either because you worked hard for it , or you used your brains to invent or develop something.

If you had friends or family make sacrifices for you or your education to get you where you are today ..... then yes .... dont ever forget them , and reward them.

But if they have not , they are not entitled to anything simply because they are friends and family.