Hi Lala, hope all is well with you and your partner, and that God is working in your life and helping you to make those right choices. You are certainly in my prayers and will continue to be. As far as have you made the right choice by living with this person before marriage? Personally, I wouldn't, this coming from a man who has had 5 common-law relationships im my past , all for different lengths of time, and not one of them worked out, and for more than just the reason that we lived together, it was because I was running away from God and not doing what I was taught as I was growing up. If I would have had God in my life back then , I would have had to marry if I was going to make it right in Gods eye's and in my own heart, this I know now, only took 46 years to learn that one, lol. Well better later than not at all. When we are saved by God's grace, we have a new friend that comes along for the ride, and he's there for the rest of your life, whether you backslide or not, and his name is the Holy Spirit, and he is our conscience and our guide. When I'm looking for God to guide me, I ask God to use the holy spirit to work in my life in a way that I can understand. This is the personal relationship I have with God, but I believe he expects us to use our resourses around us as well, like finding a church where you feel comfortable taking to the pastor and parishisners and ask them what they think, trust the people who give advice or suggestions out of love , not condemnation. Most of all , find yourself a good bible that you can understand his word from, most important. We can know how to live our lifes to our fullest with his word as our guide.Once again Lala, I'm hoping if this is God's will for you to get this job, then its yours already, but if its not , give thanks and look out down the road , because he's got an even better job waiting for you, I know because he did it for me. I was given a very good job for, went through the interviews, but need it to go in front of the board where they would look at my application and my police record as well. I had a possesion charge from over 12 years ago on my record and because of that I was refused the position, I felt pretty hurt as I had changed my life, I think I even looked up and as God "Why me", but after thinking about it and talking to my family and friends, I prayed and thank God for not getting the job, sounds pretty crazy eh, lol, but God says to give thanks in all we do, not just the good stuff. Well needless to say soon after I was offered a Job at a major telecommunications company that I never thought I would have gotten, this job started me out at about 5 dollars an hour more, more room for advancement, and a work atmophere that is just great. So to make a short story longer, lol, God bless me and my family (kids), he doesn't close a door without openning a window, but always be thankful for what we have and to be thankful for the bad times as well, those are usually the times that we learn the most anyways.God bless Lala and I know you'll do whats right , with the right people around you giving you the support you need. Keep coming back here, nothing but friendly's around here, lol.Topcat