I realize that I'm not a perfect person. In fact nobody is. I have always tried to be a good guy, respectful of others etc. And yet both in real life and online, I have often been on the short end of the stick. I can tell you first hand, that it feels awful when you get discarded as if you don't matter.
From the time I was little to current times, I have lost every so called friend this way.
There is something else that really bothers me. Whenever a woman gets a boyfriend or gets married, she feels that she needs to cut ties with all other men. The idea is to be devoted to just one man. And yet sooner or later, keeping this in practice doesn't last. What I mean by this is, if she is involved in work, church, or even online, there will be times when interaction with other men will happen. In fact it's unavoidable, and it should be ok, as long these are not romantic relationships. A controlling jealous boyfriend or husband has got to be a terrible thing to live with! The key is just don't be romantic, save that stuff for your husband only.
You might be wondering, "how come that upset you so bad?" Answer: It has always been very difficult for me to find people online to click with. In the early days, I was trying to get a girlfriend. But the problem I kept running into was that the women I would meet lived a long distance away. Therefor the relationship couldn't go into the romantic realm.
I don't consider, that so called "romantic stuff online" as truly real. It's more like pretend. Sure it can lead to sin! I'm not going to debate that truth, all I'm saying is, anything you do online is only held together by a thread. The internet is a good place to meet people, but it's not a good environment to keep things going forever.
Considering how hard it is to make friends online, and how hard it is to keep friends online, it really stunk whenever a girl friend, would get a boyfriend, and then abandon me. At first it would take me days to find someone else. Then it started taking months. Now it takes years. I'm almost 44 years old, and I'm sick of going through this kind of cycle. That is why I would prefer to find male friends, and talk about real life situations.
I guess I'm hoping that if you people read this, it will help you to better understand why I feel the way I do.