Respect For The Groom

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Matthew 25:1, in the modern world, weddings are usually a single event planned for a specific afternoon, ancient Jewish weddings, however, were complex, multi-stage events central to the social fabric of the community, understanding these historical customs is vital for unlocking the deeper of this passage, an ancient Jewish wedding had three distinct parts. The first part was the matchmaking and the legal contract where the fathers of the bride and groom would come to an agreement, a price would be paid and a binding covenant would be established. The second part was the betrothal period, during this time, the couple was legally considered married, but they lived apart, the groom used this time to prepare a place for them to live, often building an addition onto his family home.

This period of waiting could last for an entire year and the bride never knew the exact day or hour when the groom would finally finish his preparations and come for her. The third part was the wedding feast itself, which is the stage Jesus describes in the parable, the feast officially began when the groom, accompanied by his friends, went to the house of the bride to bring her back to his own home for the grand celebration. This procession through the streets almost always happened at night, because it was night, the procession required light, bridesmaids or young women from the community waited to join the procession and light the way for the couple. In this ancient culture, it was deeply offensive and profoundly shameful to show up to a wedding procession in the dark without a lit torch, the light was a symbol of honor, celebration and respect for the groom.

Once the groom arrived, the illuminated procession would dance and sing its way back to the celebration house, once everyone was safely inside, the doors were locked securely to keep out uninvited guests, strangers and thieves. There is a lesser-known detail about the historical background of this story that completely changes how you view the actions of the 10 women. When you read the word lamps in English, you often picture small, delicate clay lamps that sit on a table inside a house, burning a tiny, flickering flame on a spoonful of oil. But the Greek word used for lamps in this specific passage paints a very different picture, the word usually describes a blazing torch meant for outdoor use. These torches were essentially wooden sticks wrapped at the top with thick rags or cloth, these rags had to be heavily soaked in olive oil to catch fire and burn brightly in the open air, because the fire was burning on exposed cloth in the night wind, these torches burned out very quickly, consuming oil at a rapid pace.

Carrying a torch was only half the preparation, a torch by itself was entirely useless for a long journey, to keep the flame alive, a person was required to carry a separate flask of extra oil, when the flame began to dim and the cloth began to smoke, you had to pour more oil from your flask directly onto the rags to revive the fire, a dry torch in the night wind would quickly smolder and go out completely, without a flask of extra oil, the stick of wood was nothing more than a decoration. This is the crucial physical reality that drives the spiritual lesson of the entire parable, the extra oil was not a luxury, it was the absolute fundamental requirement for surviving the night and completing the journey.