Struggling with same-sex attraction (I need help)...

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Why would God make you gay then force you to be straight.
Why did God make people with so many different measures of intelligence, skill and ambition; or the lack thereof?

Why did God place people in so many settings, with plenty of money, lots of opportunity, with struggling parents, with evil parents, etc.; or the opposite of those indicated?
 
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Hi Darya24

There is a solution to your struggle.. and it's this, reconcile yourself back to God having faith in Jesus, by confessing all sins and repenting of those sins, it won't happen over night.. but if your sincere in doing this, you'll receive the holy spirit who will convict you of this sin, and free you from it.. in Jesus's name.
 

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Hello everyone!
*I apologize for the length of my text I'm going to write and for the eventual grammar mistakes*
I've been experiencing same-sex attraction since I first learned about sex. At first I didn't want to acknowledge the fact that I may be a lesbian but as time went by, I began to understand and accept the way I am (I didn't really believe in God back then, even though my parents have always been very faithful).
Now that I sort of believe in God I know that homosexuality is a sin (difficult to accept tho, since I can't see what's so wrong about it), but I'm stuck between wanting and not wanting to get rid of it. On the one hand, men are so not my type! I can't even picture myself holding hands with one, let alone kissing him or having intercourse with him...
However, girls are so soft! I REALLY wish I were a man, I'd be the best boyfriend ever and she'd be the happiest woman!
One the other hand, I am aware of the impossibility of me becoming I man, so I must stop fantasizing! Sometimes life feels so unfair it makes me cry (and I am the type who rarely cries). Why?? Why did I have to be born a woman?? This body from which I can't escape makes me unable to express myself!! I will need love in my life and I won't be able to get it...
I wish I woud become aromantic and asexual! That's one of my biggest desires! What should I do? :((
I will appreciate every piece of advice from anyone!
Just know that there is nothing wrong with you. Attractions to other females is how you were made and is as natural as being heterosexual. Maybe a secular counselor would be a good start to talk about your emotions etc. Just a thought.
 
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Just know that there is nothing wrong with you. Attractions to other females is how you were made and is as natural as being heterosexual. Maybe a secular counselor would be a good start to talk about your emotions etc. Just a thought.

There is something wrong and she knows it. Which is why she came here in the first place. It is a shame she is met with people like you who encourage her to remain in her condition when she is seeking Jesus Christ.

May the Lord reward you for your advice. (Matt. 18:3-6)

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I’m a man that is at times attracted to women other than my wife. Do I act on the those attractions? Oh hell no. I throw those thoughts down on the ground. Give your heart and life to Christ first and then with his help work on your sins.
 

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' Seek the Lord while He may be found, call you upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord , and He will have mercy upon him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon.' Isaiah 55:6-7

You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. What is impossible for man and woman is possible with God.

 

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Hello everyone!
*I apologize for the length of my text I'm going to write and for the eventual grammar mistakes*
I've been experiencing same-sex attraction since I first learned about sex. At first I didn't want to acknowledge the fact that I may be a lesbian but as time went by, I began to understand and accept the way I am (I didn't really believe in God back then, even though my parents have always been very faithful).
Now that I sort of believe in God I know that homosexuality is a sin (difficult to accept tho, since I can't see what's so wrong about it), but I'm stuck between wanting and not wanting to get rid of it. On the one hand, men are so not my type! I can't even picture myself holding hands with one, let alone kissing him or having intercourse with him...
However, girls are so soft! I REALLY wish I were a man, I'd be the best boyfriend ever and she'd be the happiest woman!
One the other hand, I am aware of the impossibility of me becoming I man, so I must stop fantasizing! Sometimes life feels so unfair it makes me cry (and I am the type who rarely cries). Why?? Why did I have to be born a woman?? This body from which I can't escape makes me unable to express myself!! I will need love in my life and I won't be able to get it...
I wish I woud become aromantic and asexual! That's one of my biggest desires! What should I do? :((
I will appreciate every piece of advice from anyone!

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I don’t think the writer of the OP has been on the forum since March 2019 …..I wonder how they are getting on.
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Hi @Rita the thread is still open and has never been closed. Sometimes people will do a Google search relating to a specific topic and if there are any threads here about they can join in that discussion.
Until it is deleted or closed it remains open for a long time. I don't know if the owner has a set program that archives or deletes threads after a certain time. I can still open and read threads as far back as 2014.
 

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Hi @Rita the thread is still open and has never been closed. Sometimes people will do a Google search relating to a specific topic and if there are any threads here about they can join in that discussion.
Until it is deleted or closed it remains open for a long time. I don't know if the owner has a set program that archives or deletes threads after a certain time. I can still open and read threads as far back as 2014.
Oh how sad , I have just noticed that they are from the Ukraine. X
 
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