(Kimshi42;51163)
Outright leaving your spouse is abandonment. But what about not fulfilling your sexual duties as a husband or wife...for years on end? Let's say there's no medical reason for the inability to perform... Some would say this is abandonment. What say you?
It really depends on the person(s). Some are just downright not interested in sex. I once watched a documentary about an older archaeologist couple that made it their passion to search out things and their lives were basically celibate, yet they were inseparable. And this assumes a consensus on both sides. Then it probably does not indicate a problem.Along that subject line, I have yet to see any marriage that one or the other did not do something often enough, or did something too much that bothered the other spouse. I suppose I could say the same about my wife, but when I see my own shortcomings, I outrank her 2:1. So anything she does or doesn't do that bothers me I shut up and adjust. Divorce is not an option. That's only an option when the person is not willing to adjust because when one thinks about it, if the spouse changed their behavior to suit the other, then the one that changed is now out of their comfort zone. So, there's still one unhappy. In my case, I'd rather be the one unhappy. As long as my wife is happy. That's love. But if she changed to meet my needs and then she was unhappy and I'd be blissfully ignorant (and selfish), then that's when trouble comes along. Unfortunately, most people choose the latter and that's why the divorce rates are through the roof. And the grass is never greener with the next one. Ever notice that? Divorce is oftentimes like smoking: chain events.