What's So Bad About Cussing?

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Hopefully this isn't against the rules because I'm not going to actually write anything out, but I can see there being a problem with calling somebody the B word or flipping a person off,.. but saying f off to somebody and saying something is fing hilarious are two entirely different things. Or saying the other word for butt when you're laughing your butt off. It doesn't hurt anybody in that case, so why do a lot of Christians make such a big deal over it?
 
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Hopefully this isn't against the rules because I'm not going to actually write anything out, but I can see there being a problem with calling somebody the B word or flipping a person off,.. but saying f off to somebody and saying something is fing hilarious are two entirely different things. Or saying the other word for butt when you're laughing your butt off. It doesn't hurt anybody in that case, so why do a lot of Christians make such a big deal over it?
It’s not just Christians. Society as a whole has moral codes pertaining to profanity. If you don’t think so, try cussing out your boss or a policeman, and see how that goes.

As Christians, we are told not to let any unwholesome words come out of our mouths.... Of course, this doesn’t only pertain to profanity.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but if there is any good word for edification according to the need of the moment, say that, so that it will give grace to those who hear. 30 Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.
 
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It’s not just Christians. Society as a whole has moral codes pertaining to profanity. If you don’t think so, try cussing out your boss or a policeman, and see how that goes.






Obviously you didn't read my OP in its entirety because I specifically stated that isn't what I was talking about. I don't think it's the words themselves that matters it's the context of how you use them. (Except I never say oh my God or Jesus anymore when it's done in vain. I stopped doing that shortly after I got saved. Well with the oh my God thing,.. the Jesus thing stopped instantly.)
 

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Hopefully this isn't against the rules because I'm not going to actually write anything out, but I can see there being a problem with calling somebody the B word or flipping a person off,.. but saying f off to somebody and saying something is fing hilarious are two entirely different things. Or saying the other word for butt when you're laughing your butt off. It doesn't hurt anybody in that case, so why do a lot of Christians make such a big deal over it?
AR: I'm speaking to the really foul language folks use in the world here, and not the harmless cultural accepted language or jargon that is not intended to harm or create discord. ....

From the mouth reveals the condition of one's spirit and how it affects our new common spirit of life within us. We must remember we are not alone anymore. We are bought and paid for, and now are united with the spirit of Christ. I would say that the new spirit would not allow a believer to habitually cuss/curse in public even with a loved one, as a habit or way of life. Again, I mean especially the most foul language used with the intent animate with gestures, to inflict hurt.

Let me be an example then....I was raised never to curse/ cuss, maybe because my Dad used his own native tongue when he got really mad....so that kept me extra sheltered I guess. When I came to the Lord I was more sensitive in what I thought and what came out of my mouth/lips.

After years around many other folks I did curse in private, and never in public, later in life remarkably....I really cannot think of a time I did in public. And when I did I was very self conscious of it....I regretted it.....seriously...

I've managed to control this tongue of mine and not curse except in a few rare times.
I have to admit with my mate, I've cursed because of a few heated arguments over time. I blamed her for bringing it into the house, although I have to be honest, I still succumbed to it. It is not a problem for me today....

As PW quoted from Ephesians, do not grieve the Spirit by using unwholesome words. By cussing and even regretting it the instant it is voiced, saddens the new spirit within you. It is saying, please do not do that, you are not providing any edification or grace to others who hear you using these words..

Of course cussing does not bar us form salvation although it must not consume our thoughts, else we have a problem, IMO....pray about it if real cursing is a problem for you, as my suggestion.

I usually pray/ conscious of my desire to maintain my self-control, to not even use unkind and hurtful words to others, let alone using foul language that is very rare for me today...The Spirit will let you know when you step over the line///

To answer the 'context' whilst using foul language..I would personally allow the Spirit to express itself on the matter to you in your heart....
 

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Obviously you didn't read my OP in its entirety because I specifically stated that isn't what I was talking about. I don't think it's the words themselves that matters it's the context of how you use them. (Except I never say oh my God or Jesus anymore when it's done in vain. I stopped doing that shortly after I got saved. Well with the oh my God thing,.. the Jesus thing stopped instantly.)
Please, forgive me, sister. I should have refrained from pontificating.
 

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Hopefully this isn't against the rules because I'm not going to actually write anything out, but I can see there being a problem with calling somebody the B word or flipping a person off,.. but saying f off to somebody and saying something is fing hilarious are two entirely different things. Or saying the other word for butt when you're laughing your butt off. It doesn't hurt anybody in that case, so why do a lot of Christians make such a big deal over it?

This Christian doesn't make a big deal over it. Though I will say being in the vicinity of someone who is unable to speak a cogent sentence and to remedy their disability interject expletive after expletive is grating.
I take things into context. For instance, and older women may know of what I speak, years ago someone referred to me by the dread C word.
Ewwww! I know women that will throw a punch in a heartbeat if someone says that to them.
Me? I laughed by backside off. ( I say the A word but not here).
Here's why.
I'm female. (Context, remember? ;) ) That C word is what makes me uniquely empowered as the giver of life! And that positions me and that C word of mine in a place of honor and by God himself. Were it not for me and my sisters of the C word there would be no M words to make such absurd remarks they're of that wrong headed opinion should offend us.
BTW, I was asked why the H word I was laughing so hard by the M word that used the C word intending it as an insult. (I can't be insulted. I give no one the power to take me out of my peace of mind and sense of assurance in Christ through the use of their hatred spoken aloud).
I explained to him what I posted here.

As for the other expletives? Used them all. When I get mad over something I get over rather quickly when I vent in that way. No, not in public. To myself, or aloud alone in my car.
God inspired the invention of the "Dammit Doll". That poor little thing wishes it had never seen me coming. LOL!
Can't be offended by the B word either. I take it as an acronym of self assurance. Blessed In The Christ Holy. :D


Want to see someone really get mad when they're making a concerted effort to make you mad through their words or actions? Strip their hate filled words of their power. What are words anyway but that which we give meaning to in the utterance of them?
Here's a great solution if someone flips you the bird. I did this. I had a woman in Florida years ago chase me for 8 blocks waving her little bird, trying to get me to respond in an angry way so that she'd be satisfied for having flipped me off. In the course of her pursuit she almost rear ended two cars and nearly sideswiped a bus in order that she and her little birdie could continue to wave and say "hi".
What did I do to garner such attention?

I applauded, then waved, all the while smiling as broad as my cheeks would allow.

Besides, when I see someone flip me off I hear this little kid voice comedian Robin Williams (God rest you sir) used when he'd say, "I'm this many!"

Makes me smile every time. :)
 

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It’s not just Christians. Society as a whole has moral codes pertaining to profanity. If you don’t think so, try cussing out your boss or a policeman, and see how that goes.

As Christians, we are told not to let any unwholesome words come out of our mouths.... Of course, this doesn’t only pertain to profanity.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but if there is any good word for edification according to the need of the moment, say that, so that it will give grace to those who hear. 30 Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.
Well, the scripture I quoted applies to any words we speak, and if you can’t spell out words you’re talking about because they offend some people, what’s the point to this silly thread?? :)
 
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This Christian doesn't make a big deal over it. Though I will say being in the vicinity of someone who is unable to speak a cogent sentence and to remedy their disability interject expletive after expletive is grating.
I take things into context. For instance, and older women may know of what I speak, years ago someone referred to me by the dread C word.
Ewwww! I know women that will throw a punch in a heartbeat if someone says that to them.
Me? I laughed by backside off. ( I say the A word but not here).
Here's why.
I'm female. (Context, remember? ;) ) That C word is what makes me uniquely empowered as the giver of life! And that positions me and that C word of mine in a place of honor and by God himself. Were it not for me and my sisters of the C word there would be no M words to make such absurd remarks they're of that wrong headed opinion should offend us.
BTW, I was asked why the H word I was laughing so hard by the M word that used the C word intending it as an insult. (I can't be insulted. I give no one the power to take me out of my peace of mind and sense of assurance in Christ through the use of their hatred spoken aloud).
I explained to him what I posted here.

As for the other expletives? Used them all. When I get mad over something I get over rather quickly when I vent in that way. No, not in public. To myself, or aloud alone in my car.
God inspired the invention of the "Dammit Doll". That poor little thing wishes it had never seen me coming. LOL!
Can't be offended by the B word either. I take it as an acronym of self assurance. Blessed In The Christ Holy. :D








You lost me with all the C's and M's and whatnot. XD


Want to see someone really get mad when they're making a concerted effort to make you mad through their words or actions? Strip their hate filled words of their power. What are words anyway but that which we give meaning to in the utterance of them?
Here's a great solution if someone flips you the bird. I did this. I had a woman in Florida years ago chase me for 8 blocks waving her little bird, trying to get me to respond in an angry way so that she'd be satisfied for having flipped me off. In the course of her pursuit she almost rear ended two cars and nearly sideswiped a bus in order that she and her little birdie could continue to wave and say "hi".
What did I do to garner such attention?

I applauded, then waved, all the while smiling as broad as my cheeks would allow.

Besides, when I see someone flip me off I hear this little kid voice comedian Robin Williams (God rest you sir) used when he'd say, "I'm this many!"

Makes me smile every time. :)
 

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Also cussing somebody out that you're mad at is also better than throwing a punch.
 
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Well, the scripture I quoted applies to any words we speak, and if you can’t spell out words you’re talking about because they offend some people, what’s the point to this silly thread?? :)
Perhaps it is a matter of forum rules against profanity?
If this thread is silly respect yourself enough not to participate. Please don't think to insult our sister or those of us who participate by judging the whole for what you find personally unimportant.
Thank you in advance for your understanding and cooperation.

God Bless.
 
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Perhaps it is a matter of forum rules against profanity?
If this thread is silly respect yourself enough not to participate. Please don't think to insult our sister or those of us who participate by judging the whole for what you find personally unimportant.
Thank you in advance for your understanding and cooperation.

God Bless.

Well, I could easily use some profanity in response to this comment. If what I said insults our sister, perhaps she needs thicker skin. Just saying. :)
 
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You lost me with all the C's and M's and whatnot. XD
The C is that which I cannot post. It is a four letter expletive that refers to what is otherwise known as, Vagina.
The M, given the context of my remarks surrounding the C remarks I mistakenly thought would be self-explanatory as standing for, Male/Men/Man.
 
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Perhaps it is a matter of forum rules against profanity?




Exactly.

Well, I could easily use some profanity in response to this comment. If what I said insults our sister, perhaps she needs thicker skin. Just saying. :)




Oh it didn't bother me like that.


The C is that which I cannot post. It is a four letter expletive that refers to what is otherwise known as, Vagina.
The M, given the context of my remarks surrounding the C remarks I mistakenly thought would be self-explanatory as standing for, Male/Men/Man.





Yeah,.. I sort of realized that a few seconds later lol :D
 

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Here’s a scripture we should ALL keep in mind.


Matthew 12:36

36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.
 
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Hopefully this isn't against the rules because I'm not going to actually write anything out, but I can see there being a problem with calling somebody the B word or flipping a person off,.. but saying f off to somebody and saying something is fing hilarious are two entirely different things. Or saying the other word for butt when you're laughing your butt off. It doesn't hurt anybody in that case, so why do a lot of Christians make such a big deal over it?

Since this has turned into a serious discussion, there are some words that can sound like curse words when they are in fact legitimate descriptives. For example, calling someone an "ass" is simply shorthand for calling them a jackass, which was a comparison even the Lord Himself used many times, in referring to the Israelites as a "stiff-necked" people. He was saying that like a donkey, which will get stiff-necked and refuse to respond to guidance, so too were the Israelites being stubborn in their conduct and behavior.

Likewise, the word ass is generally understood to be used when referring to someone's backside. For whatever reason, using the word "butt" is considered by some to be more acceptable, but "kicking someone's ass" or "kicking their butt" are essentially two phrases communicating the same thing.

Flipping someone off is over the line, IMO, as it is communicating a vulgar act, as are a number of other slang expressions. This is not to say that using such phrases is the unforgivable sin; sometimes doing so is the only way to fully convey the level of anger one is feeling. But they can in no way be viewed as acceptable.

Understandable (in certain contexts), yes. Acceptable, no.
 

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Hopefully this isn't against the rules because I'm not going to actually write anything out, but I can see there being a problem with calling somebody the B word or flipping a person off,.. but saying f off to somebody and saying something is fing hilarious are two entirely different things. Or saying the other word for butt when you're laughing your butt off. It doesn't hurt anybody in that case, so why do a lot of Christians make such a big deal over it?
It seems to be largely a matter of culture, since there are many languages that have only one word for nearly everything. I do believe that every Christian should aim to avoid the common or profane words and even thoughts. But obsession with such things likely profit nothing.

Let all things be done decently and in order. (1 Corinthians 14:40)​
 
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... a comparison even the Lord Himself used many times, in referring to the Israelites as a "stiff-necked" people. He was saying that like a donkey, which will get stiff-necked and refuse to respond to guidance, so too were the Israelites being stubborn in their conduct and behavior.

P.S. In following the Lord's lead, I personally know of several jackasses on this forum, LoL. (but I won't name names).

The good thing is, God still loves jackasses, despite their needing to stop rebelling so much and be more obedient.
 
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