I'm 52, and married. I had a daughter before I met my wife. We have three adult sons. My daughter is 30 and has three children.
My life is peaceful and God has been amazing in our lives!
But...
I was born and grew up in Toronto. When I was 15 I quit school, and left home. I had a fantastic home, great parents. I had no legitimate reason to be rebellious, but rebellious I was!
I got together with A Cheyenne girl, Vicky, and she lived in the projects, so I moved into the projects to be with her.
It was a dangerous complex, with a 21 or 22 story apartment building complex. I lived across the drive in a run down, filthy townhouse with a family of miscreants like myself.
I hung around bikers, but never wanted to "strike" or join them. I didn't like stealing, and I never started a fight in my life, although I was in lots and lots of them.
I went to jail at 15 years for assault police. The cop struck me, and I returned the favor.
I drank my face off and have done every kind of illegal drug you can think of, although I never did needles. I took heroin in capsules, and loved it. I took acid ten and a time. I could drink a 40 ounce bottle of whiskey straight over the course of one night's partying. I started to throw up pure blood at fifteen also. but that did not slow me down at all. I loved being drunk and I loved being high.
I had a 1971 Mercury Cougar XR7 with a 351 Windsor engine, and that car was a rocket! It would burn rubber as long as you kept the peddle down.
I was driving illegally at fifteen, and obviously had no insurance. There were a few times when I would have to out run the police, because if I had pulled over, I wo0uld have lost my car, and been fined and most likely done jail time, because police and me back then was not a good mix. I could never keep my big yap shut, and if I was shoved, or hit by the police, I just went mental, and would be back in jail again.
I never had a job for very long, and I can't figure out why I was never booted out because I never paid for rent food nothing. All my money, when I had some, went to the "cause" cause I wanted to get wasted!
I'll slip in a short story here...
Vicky, and I went to see Super Tramp with two of our friends, George and Anne. George always had hash oil, and that was my favorite.
So we were standing right up against the stage, and the concert was amazing! Breakfast In America had just come out, and they also played a lot from Crime Of the Century, and amazing, great concert.
George pulls out a baggie with chunks of hash in it, and tears a piece off to roll a joint. Some guy from the crowd sees this and asks George if he could buy a chunk. George say hell ya, and proceeds to rip a chunk off to sell the guy. Well the next thing we know, there's two cops with their badges out, and they grab the baggie, and are in the process of arresting George.
They didn't know we were with George, and so the cop who had the baggie of hash in his hand, sort of backed up into me. Well, I just couldn't resist, so I very quickly snatched that baggie right out of his hand, and took off into the huge ocean of stoned concert folk! both cops took right after me, but they didn't have a chance of finding me in a crowd of about thirty? forty thousand?
Before we even went through the entrance, we made a plan to meet in a specific location in the stands if we were separated. so that's where we all met up, and laughed our stupid faces off. We saw the two cops walking around looking for us in general admission, and laughed even harder. Just an example of what a complete idiot I was.
I broke up with Vicky, and actually got myself together and got my own apartment, I was 17. A close buddy and I shared the bills. One night we decided to have a few people over, and so we were having some drinks and smoking weed, when I noticed there was more people than I had invited...people I didn't know started showing up.
Next thing I know there's about thirty people in our small apartment. instead of tossing them all out, my girlfriend, my buddy and I split, and went for a walk in the forest behind my building.
We ended up going to a friends and spent the night there.
When we got home the next day. My cockatiel was dead, and there was enough beer bottles on the floor to fill a dumpster! Well, not quite that many, but lots!
Some goof put whiskey in my bird's water dish. that caused me more anguish than you can imagine. I had that bird for years, and if I had found out who did that...well...anyway.
I ended up back in jail because a friend had stolen my album collection from my apartment, and I was a huge Beatles fan, and I had every album they put out, plus some very rare boot legs albums. I had all the Alice Cooper, and a lot of Wings and yes Kiss... Just a lot of albums.
I saw them in the back of his van one night, and I waited for him to show up. He eventually did, and it wasn`t good. Anyway, I went to jail, and was being held until my court date.
I had not contacted my parents for a couple of years. I am still ashamed about that. I was too self involved with myself.
Someone told my dad I was in jail again, and he bailed me out.
A condition of my bail, was I had to live with my parents. I was actually ready to simmer down, so that was good by me.
My parents sold their house, and had bought a couple of buildings and business in a town called Tottenham, and so I moved out of the city. I was 19 when I got a job in Tottenham, and started putting my life in some kind of order.
I started singing for a rock band, and we did pretty good. A couple of years into that band, and a well established, and very successful metal band came one of our concerts.
After the show, these two guys show up back stage, and want to talk to me outside.
I knew who they were because the guitar player had come to a party at a buddy`s house one time, and we were jamming that night, and he joined in. He was an awesome guitar player, and so when they asked if I would sing in their band, I accepted.
I spent the next few years in that band, and the drugs, the booze and the women were insane.
We were in negotiations with a well known label, and another label was starting to show up at our concerts, so we were having success.
I met my wife around the time the labels were coming around.
She met me at a concert, and told her two friends and her sister that she was going to marry me!! This was before we even actually were introduced!!
I had a year old daughter when I met my wife. I had been single for several months, so there was no naughty business going on...then.
We were married for a year when our first son was born.
It was around this time that my wife was really getting tired of her ``rock star`` husband.
I was doing a concert at a pretty big venue, which held over two thousand people.
My wife didn't`t get her back stage pass for some reason. I was sitting on a couch back stage talking with a good friend, who I used to work for.
I was really focused on the conversation, and it was difficult to hear because there was at least fifty people back there all mulling about. Taking advantage of the free booze and finger foods the venue provided, and attempting to seduce us...sigh no really, that crap got old very fast with me. I hated seeing people degrade themselves, almost begging to be abused. The guys were on the same page as I was, we had all seen enough of that garbage. We watched other groups take full advantage of some really pathetic young women, who were after a fake reality..anyway...
So I began to wonder why my wife wasn`t back stage. She always came back stage, and I loved that...then, as I was talking to my buddy, I hear my wife`s voice above all the noise, screaming obscenities at me!
There were two young women standing close to my buddy and I, and I was oblivious of their presence. They had very, very short, very, very tight leather skini mini skirts on, and my wife walked in just in time to see them, and she freaked! She had forced her way past the security, because they wouldn't` believe she was my wife, and so she was steaming mad about that, the mini twins put her over the top.
On the way home, we had a serious discussion, and to be honest, I was pretty sick and tired of the band, and I was ready to quit, and so I did.
My wife and our new baby boy meant way more to me than some metal band.
The guys were really mad at me, and especially since I wrote all the lyrics, so they wouldn't`t get royalties for any of them. truth is, I had planned on working out a fair percentage with them once we got to the lawyer, but we didn't`t get that far when I had quit, so they were really upset.
they couldn't`t find a suitable replacement, and so the band fell apart.
It took several years but the guitar player and I are brothers today. He actually got married last night!
After I left the band, I fell in with some serious criminals. One in particular took a shine on me and when he got his 2 keys of cocaine, I got a huge pile for free...so I very quickly became addicted to that. Snorting it wasn`t good enough so we free based it and smoked it...even worse.
I lost my job, and pretty soon we had our second boy. We lost our home, and ended up moving in with her parents, who were violent alcoholics. The house was an absolute pig hole, it would have been condemned had any
inspector came around.
I`m going on pretty long in the tooth here, so I`ll cut to the chase.
One night, my wife was working nights, and I was at home with our two baby boys.
I had run out of cocaine about two hours ago, and I began to withdraw...ya, just a couple of hours without and I started getting really sick.
I was sitting on the edge of our bed. My two year old boy was sleeping in a single bed against a wall, my infant son was sleeping against the other wall in his crib.
I sat there and started breaking up. I just looked at my two beautiful miracle boys, and started thinking about what a complete looser I was. What a complete failure of a father I was...a complete failure of a husband. My wife didn't do drugs, and she didn't drink, so I was a real piece of...well... anyway..
so I started to tear up...and I hated crying...my dad was a WWII vet, he served aboard the aircraft carrier Illustrious, and men do not cry!
But there I was...crying I knew the withdrawal was only gonna get sicker and sicker by the hour...but that wasn`t the worst, it was the realization that I was failing my boys.
That was the very lowest point in my life...I couldn't`t kill myself, that would be selfish, my wife and kids needed me, even if I was a looser.
I sank lower and lower and lower then I heard a strong, loud voice call my name from behind me...what! I knew I heard it, there was zero doubt. It was not a hallucination, because I had plenty of those, and I knew the difference, no, this was real...I just sat there...then again `John, don`t worry, everything is going to be alright` Wow! I wasn`t a Christian then, but there was no doubt that God just spoke to me!!
I won`t even attempt to describe how my entire soul was strengthened there`s no words...I sat there waiting, but He didn't`t speak again...it was about an hour later, when I noticed an astonishing thing...
I wasn`t withdrawing any more! What! I was totally, and instantly healed of my addiction to cocaine!! I had no more desire for it, no craving for it, no sickness without it!
this was miraculous!! God is real He spoke to me!! He freekin spoke...to me!!
two weeks later we got a phone call, and the man on the line tells me the apartment I applied for somehow became available! Ya, there was a two year waiting list, but everyone ahead of me got other accommodations!!
WHAT!! I never applied for any apartment!! This was subsidized, but in a town where my parents were then living in, Keswick...I didn't`t apply for the apartment and my wife knew nothing about it.
Turns out my mother applied for us, but when she was told there was a two year waiting list, she didn't`t tell us about it.
We moved in to a new building in a fantastic town right beside Lake Simcoe! This was miraculous!
I ended up with a kidney disease and chronic pancreatitis, and so I got on disability.
Brand new townhouses were built across the street and some were subsidized and so we applied, but get this...there was a two year waiting list!
two weeks later we got a call, and yes, we got a townhouse!
We lived there for thirteen years, had another son, and then tragedy.
My brother was struck with pancreatic cancer...he didn't`t know Jesus. He was given two months...I started telling him about Jesus but he wasn't buying it, He was angry at any god who would do this to him with four young daughters. My brother refused to hear anything about any God...his time was almost up what could I do but pray!
Two months...three years later, I was at my brothers house for New Years eve, as we always had. He asked to speak to me privately...he says John, I did it - I said what...I asked Jesus into my life... we hugged and cried.
Feb 4 my niece called us because my brother had fallen.
So my wife and I went to his house about three minutes drive.
We walked in his house and saw him laying on the kitchen floor with his head in his eldest girls lap...he was gone... I had to tell his girls and they all started howling and moaning and sobbing...terrible
I was so angry at God...I wanted nothing to do with Him anymore...I believed in my heart that if I prayed real hard, God was going to heal my brother...I believed it! and he died.
for months I was seething...then I had a dream...God showed me that He actually did heal my brother,,,actually He did even better, He SAVED my brother. I realized that knowing my brother as I did, if he had have been healed, he would very quickly forget about God, then, if he had have died suddenly, say from a heart attack, or accident, he may not have been saved, so God had patience and showed me the truth. My brother is with Jesus, I know he is.
I struggled with drinking and smoking weed for a couple of more years, but eventually God got me right off of them.
Today. we live in a home we built ten years ago, on a huge lot, in the old part of town, surrounded by huge pine trees, huge maple tree, just like living right in an old forest...a stones throw away from the lake. Its great!
Today, I am a strong, faithful Bible believing Christian, and my wife and I are the very best of buddies, all our boys are doing great, they all love Jesus. My daughter is doing very good, with her own growing business...life it fantastic!!
Thanks for inviting us to share...this is a LOOOONG one!! Thats because Im so old!!