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This is interesting.. Christians Tell Why They Are No Longer Religious:

'#1 Southern Baptist​

Ever wondered why some folks who used to be really into Christianity are now saying “no thanks” to the whole faith thing? Well, we found a bunch of them on social media sharing their stories. From growing up with certain beliefs to discovering things that didn’t quite add up, these former Christians have some interesting reasons for losing their faith. Let’s dive into their tales and see what changed their minds.

“Short answer: grew up Southern Baptist. When I started getting to the age where I could think critically about things, I just started noticing some inconsistencies. Specifically, I was told that people who believed in other religions would go to hell because they followed the “wrong” religion. What?? When religion is based a lot on where you are born, I just could not truly believe that people would be sent to hell for being born in the “wrong” country.”

This user’s critical reflection on his Southern Baptist upbringing struck a chord, particularly when confronted with the notion that people of different religions could face damnation solely based on their place of birth. The recognition that entire populations could be condemned for circumstances beyond their control raised questions about the fairness and logic of such a religious perspective, ultimately leading to a reconsideration of the user’s faith journey.

#2 Mythology Class in College​

“Taking a mythology class in college and realizing all the different religions had similar origin stories of how earth and man were created and evolved, but the details differed based on the environment the people lived in and how far along they were technologically. Anything science couldn’t explain was the will of a higher power.

Not saying higher powers COULDN’T exist, just realized people are killing each other because theirs is the ‘right God’, but the people don’t realize that for all intents and purposes, they are all following the similar lessons/stories.”


In a broader context, the user’s revelation in their mythology class illuminated the commonality among diverse religions. As they explored various mythologies, they discerned parallels in the stories of Earth’s creation and human evolution. The realization that different cultures, despite varied details, shared fundamental narratives about higher powers and unexplained phenomena prompted a reconsideration of religious exclusivity.

#3 Being Told Not to Question Faith​

“Being told to not question my faith made me lose my faith. If I cannot question what I believe in to better understand it, then it wasn’t worth believing in it in the first place. Or they are hiding something they don’t want me to find out, which makes me even more skeptical of it.”

For this user, the very act of questioning was essential for a deeper understanding of his beliefs. When this exploration was stifled, it raised doubts about the authenticity and solidity of the faith. The suppression of questions created a perception that there might be hidden aspects or inconsistencies that authorities sought to conceal. This lack of transparency and the inability to engage in an open dialogue eroded the user’s confidence in the faith, as genuine belief, for them, required a foundation built on inquiry and understanding.

#4 Unfulfilled Prayers​

“I was in a hard time for me and I started praying, attending catholic activities and doing lots of other things like these. I wasn’t feeling better. Years after I gave up doing these things and started taking care of me by myself and now I’m happy. So the faith gradually went away. I’m not fully an atheist though, I may be an agnostic but I’m not sure.”

In this instance, the user’s experience revolves around a personal struggle where traditional religious practices did not provide the expected relief or improvement. The subsequent shift towards self-care and the positive outcome generated skepticism about the effectiveness of religious rituals. The realization that personal agency and self-care contributed more significantly to their well-being than religious practices prompted a reevaluation of faith......https://milliondollarsense.com/christianity-to-atheism
 
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This is interesting.. Christians Tell Why They Are No Longer Religious:

'#1 Southern Baptist​

Ever wondered why some folks who used to be really into Christianity are now saying “no thanks” to the whole faith thing? Well, we found a bunch of them on social media sharing their stories. From growing up with certain beliefs to discovering things that didn’t quite add up, these former Christians have some interesting reasons for losing their faith. Let’s dive into their tales and see what changed their minds.

“Short answer: grew up Southern Baptist. When I started getting to the age where I could think critically about things, I just started noticing some inconsistencies. Specifically, I was told that people who believed in other religions would go to hell because they followed the “wrong” religion. What?? When religion is based a lot on where you are born, I just could not truly believe that people would be sent to hell for being born in the “wrong” country.”

This user’s critical reflection on his Southern Baptist upbringing struck a chord, particularly when confronted with the notion that people of different religions could face damnation solely based on their place of birth. The recognition that entire populations could be condemned for circumstances beyond their control raised questions about the fairness and logic of such a religious perspective, ultimately leading to a reconsideration of the user’s faith journey.

#2 Mythology Class in College​

“Taking a mythology class in college and realizing all the different religions had similar origin stories of how earth and man were created and evolved, but the details differed based on the environment the people lived in and how far along they were technologically. Anything science couldn’t explain was the will of a higher power.

Not saying higher powers COULDN’T exist, just realized people are killing each other because theirs is the ‘right God’, but the people don’t realize that for all intents and purposes, they are all following the similar lessons/stories.”


In a broader context, the user’s revelation in their mythology class illuminated the commonality among diverse religions. As they explored various mythologies, they discerned parallels in the stories of Earth’s creation and human evolution. The realization that different cultures, despite varied details, shared fundamental narratives about higher powers and unexplained phenomena prompted a reconsideration of religious exclusivity.

#3 Being Told Not to Question Faith​

“Being told to not question my faith made me lose my faith. If I cannot question what I believe in to better understand it, then it wasn’t worth believing in it in the first place. Or they are hiding something they don’t want me to find out, which makes me even more skeptical of it.”

For this user, the very act of questioning was essential for a deeper understanding of his beliefs. When this exploration was stifled, it raised doubts about the authenticity and solidity of the faith. The suppression of questions created a perception that there might be hidden aspects or inconsistencies that authorities sought to conceal. This lack of transparency and the inability to engage in an open dialogue eroded the user’s confidence in the faith, as genuine belief, for them, required a foundation built on inquiry and understanding.

#4 Unfulfilled Prayers​

“I was in a hard time for me and I started praying, attending catholic activities and doing lots of other things like these. I wasn’t feeling better. Years after I gave up doing these things and started taking care of me by myself and now I’m happy. So the faith gradually went away. I’m not fully an atheist though, I may be an agnostic but I’m not sure.”

In this instance, the user’s experience revolves around a personal struggle where traditional religious practices did not provide the expected relief or improvement. The subsequent shift towards self-care and the positive outcome generated skepticism about the effectiveness of religious rituals. The realization that personal agency and self-care contributed more significantly to their well-being than religious practices prompted a reevaluation of faith......https://milliondollarsense.com/christianity-to-atheism
The Parable of the Sower comes to mind.
 
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why some folks who used to be really into Christianity are now saying “no thanks” to the whole faith thing?


They did not have a good relationship with the Lord so it was easy for the devil to pick them off, that's why.


Being Told Not to Question Faith


satan is the one behind the thought to question having a relationship with the Lord and not going to hell.


Unfulfilled Prayers


Yeah when one prays for the pleasures of this life and things don't work out that way, they think the "deserve to be happy" so they go live in the world doing sin.
 

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They did not have a good relationship with the Lord so it was easy for the devil to pick them off, that's why.





satan is the one behind the thought to question having a relationship with the Lord and not going to hell.





Yeah when one prays for the pleasures of this life and things don't work out that way, they think the "deserve to be happy" so they go live in the world doing sin.
Well, that is pronouncing a lot of lost Christians and basically putting them on the road to perdition to say the least..
 

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Christians leave their Churches for diverse reasons. The OP quotes four, from among probably millions. I doubt we can draw any firm conclusions from so small a sample.

Conversely, I have noticed that many people start going to church again when they are elderly. Their reasons may be diverse as well, but my suspicion is that in most cases they are "cramming for the final," if you get my drift.
 
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Why are Christians leaving their churches?

Because of false doctrine, which is why the Holy Spirit no longer resides in most churches.


the user’s experience revolves around a personal struggle where traditional religious practices did not provide the expected relief or improvement.

That's because it was all about them and what goods and services they can get out of religion.

They did not know the Lord and all they were interesting in was gimme, gimme, gimmie
 

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Well, that is pronouncing a lot of lost Christians and basically putting them on the road to perdition to say the least..

Well, God's Word does teach there will be a falling away in the last days... so, many are falling away.
 

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This is interesting.. Christians Tell Why They Are No Longer Religious:

'#1 Southern Baptist​

Ever wondered why some folks who used to be really into Christianity are now saying “no thanks” to the whole faith thing? Well, we found a bunch of them on social media sharing their stories. From growing up with certain beliefs to discovering things that didn’t quite add up, these former Christians have some interesting reasons for losing their faith. Let’s dive into their tales and see what changed their minds.

“Short answer: grew up Southern Baptist. When I started getting to the age where I could think critically about things, I just started noticing some inconsistencies. Specifically, I was told that people who believed in other religions would go to hell because they followed the “wrong” religion. What?? When religion is based a lot on where you are born, I just could not truly believe that people would be sent to hell for being born in the “wrong” country.”

This user’s critical reflection on his Southern Baptist upbringing struck a chord, particularly when confronted with the notion that people of different religions could face damnation solely based on their place of birth. The recognition that entire populations could be condemned for circumstances beyond their control raised questions about the fairness and logic of such a religious perspective, ultimately leading to a reconsideration of the user’s faith journey.

#2 Mythology Class in College​

“Taking a mythology class in college and realizing all the different religions had similar origin stories of how earth and man were created and evolved, but the details differed based on the environment the people lived in and how far along they were technologically. Anything science couldn’t explain was the will of a higher power.

Not saying higher powers COULDN’T exist, just realized people are killing each other because theirs is the ‘right God’, but the people don’t realize that for all intents and purposes, they are all following the similar lessons/stories.”


In a broader context, the user’s revelation in their mythology class illuminated the commonality among diverse religions. As they explored various mythologies, they discerned parallels in the stories of Earth’s creation and human evolution. The realization that different cultures, despite varied details, shared fundamental narratives about higher powers and unexplained phenomena prompted a reconsideration of religious exclusivity.

#3 Being Told Not to Question Faith​

“Being told to not question my faith made me lose my faith. If I cannot question what I believe in to better understand it, then it wasn’t worth believing in it in the first place. Or they are hiding something they don’t want me to find out, which makes me even more skeptical of it.”

For this user, the very act of questioning was essential for a deeper understanding of his beliefs. When this exploration was stifled, it raised doubts about the authenticity and solidity of the faith. The suppression of questions created a perception that there might be hidden aspects or inconsistencies that authorities sought to conceal. This lack of transparency and the inability to engage in an open dialogue eroded the user’s confidence in the faith, as genuine belief, for them, required a foundation built on inquiry and understanding.

#4 Unfulfilled Prayers​

“I was in a hard time for me and I started praying, attending catholic activities and doing lots of other things like these. I wasn’t feeling better. Years after I gave up doing these things and started taking care of me by myself and now I’m happy. So the faith gradually went away. I’m not fully an atheist though, I may be an agnostic but I’m not sure.”

In this instance, the user’s experience revolves around a personal struggle where traditional religious practices did not provide the expected relief or improvement. The subsequent shift towards self-care and the positive outcome generated skepticism about the effectiveness of religious rituals. The realization that personal agency and self-care contributed more significantly to their well-being than religious practices prompted a reevaluation of faith......https://milliondollarsense.com/christianity-to-atheism
Well teh SBC statement of faith from the 2000 conference says nothing about people in other Christian sects going to hell if they believe in teh death and resurrection of Jesus.

The simple fact is people leave for two basic reasons,

1. A church has lost its way and is preaching false doctrine (dead churches)

or

2. People are sinners by nature and will look for an excuse to not have to submit to teh Lordship of Jesus.

Moinor reason:

1. we are living in the last days
2. We live in the perilous times Paul spoke of.
 

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Only those embracing a fake gospel believe God make all little babies to be sinners.




Why would anybody have much love for having religion without a relationship with the Lord Jesus?
Those who don't know Him pretend to to make themselves feel better, but since it's empty, there is no staying power.

Oh, and God didn't cause corruption to humanity, Adam did.

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Oh, and God didn't cause corruption to humanity, Adam did.

Did you see the scriptures where God said babies are innocent???

Adam simply caused sin to be in the world.

He did not cause all babies born to be born evil sinners as the reformers claim in error.

The reformers enjoy doing some sin, so they concocted this fairy tale as an excuse for why they continue living in sin.
 

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Is that so? What is your authentification for this? Or are you making false accusations?

I've known numerous so called "reformers" over the years and since they believe they are elect and can never lose their salvation and they believe all their future sins are already forgiven, they like to get their sin on.

Some more than others, but they all think that sin is no big deal because they will go to heaven regardless of their sin so they think they can do some sinful stuff and it's all good.

All one has to do is familiarize themselves with the the false doctrines of calvin and luther to see they are involved in a cult.
 

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I've known numerous so called "reformers" over the years and since they believe they are elect and can never lose their salvation and they believe all their future sins are already forgiven, they like to get their sin on.
Thank you for your clarification! It sounds like an overgeneralization to me. True in some cases doesn't mean true in all cases, or so it seems to me.

It's certainly Scriptural that we believe Jesus will bring us all the way home, with that full and certain expectation.

1 John 3:1-3 KJV
1) Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not.
2) Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is.
3) And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.

This passage tells us that having this certain expectation that being born again now, that we will in fact see Him when He appears, and will in fact be transformed to become just like Him, having this hope, we purify ourselves.

Isn't that what we want, to live a pure life?

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Thank you for your clarification! It sounds like an overgeneralization to me.

Reformers teach heresy which is on God's list of "those that do these things shall not inherit the Kingdom of God"

It's too bad those following reformed theology are not right with the Lord.

They'll learn this the hard way when they croak some day and go south instead of north.
 

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I read someone say once that they left because they started to think about what they were asked to believe. And it just didn't add up to be anything a supreme consciousness would have conceived for human creation.
 

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Why are Christians leaving their churches?

Promoted Disturbing preaching…
Emphasis on Electronics…
Dysfunctional Family Chaos…
Dissatisfying Large impersonal congregations…
 

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Why are Christians leaving their churches?

Promoted Disturbing preaching…
Emphasis on Electronics…
Dysfunctional Family Chaos…
Dissatisfying Large impersonal congregations…

One must make a decision to put the Lord first and foremost in their lives and since most churches teach false doctrine, the smart thing to do is not associate with them. No need to be sucked in to their darkness.

Yes, if possible we should all belong to a congregation but if there are no good ones in your area that teach the whole counsel of God then not participating in their darkness is the thing to do.

Even if you had a great church to go to, ultimately Jesus is our Shepard
 

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Only those embracing a fake gospel believe God make all little babies to be sinners.
Well the bible says so.

do you then believe that babies are "saved", then lose that salvation by innocence and have to get saved all over again? Can you cite me verses to support that?

Also cool your jets. I believe in the true gospel. Just because I disagree with your stance doesn't mean I have a false gospel. You are not infallible and perfect in knowledge yet.