Why did God give you a husband?

[quietthinker]

"I heard you say it."
"No you didn't."
"Yes I did."
"I didn't say that."
"Liar."

Haha.....did Jack forget to sign his name?

 

[Rita]

My wife and I figured out that one of the schemes had to do with altering our "hearing".
Many couples will get into these "You said...", "No I didn't." arguments.
"That's what you said, I heard you say it. (not necessarily) Beware. (deaf and dumb spirits)

We clarify what we heard by saying, "Here's what I heard you say... is that correct?"
Give your partner the opportunity to clarify. Or if you prefer...

"I heard you say it."
"No you didn't."
"Yes I did."
"I didn't say that."
"Liar."

(the enemy is rolling on the floor laughing)

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Yes, I agree x
I know with other relationships ( thinking back to when my children were teenagers ) having the last word ……that Didn’t happen in my marriage as my husband would always say what he thought I wanted to hear ( but they were just empty words as he never meant them ) He placated me.
He would also manipulate , he knew I would say sorry in order to not rock the boat. - I didn’t see that until my marriage ended and he did it with his girlfriend when he was round my house visiting our children. I actually saw his game playing for the first time ( a light bulb moment )
A good relationship needs to be transparent

 

[St. SteVen]

A good relationship needs to be transparent

That's key.

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[Ritajanice]

That's key.

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Amen to you both...wise and true words....

 

[St. SteVen]

This one is for the ladies. (or whoever has a husband)

I was just thinking about my wife and a discussion we were having.
For some reason this question popped into my head.

Why did God give you a husband?

I didn't ask that of my wife. Probably not something to ask your spouse. (sounds intimidating)
To be clear, I am not demanding with my wife. It is a true partnership. (45 years and going strong)

But as a husband, I am here for a reason. (I hope)

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[St. SteVen]

St. SteVen said:
Why did God give you a husband?

Does God micro manage peoples affairs?

Define "affairs". - LOL

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[Lambano]

This one is for the ladies. (or whoever has a husband)

I know some gay couples. Maybe they'll join in.

 

[St. SteVen]

I know some gay couples. Maybe they'll join in.

Are they on this forum?
If so, maybe they liked my LGBTQ topics. - LOL

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[St. SteVen]

I'm very interested in male/female psychology.
Especially in husband/wife relationships.

I was counseling a friend in how to be decisive for his wife. (which she needs)
Unfortunately, he went a bit overboard and was being a decision-making tyrant.

He tends to NOT be decisive. Where to go for lunch has been an issue with us and his wife.
He's very compliant to others wants and genuinely doesn't care where you go. (he says)
So I taught him how to guide others through a process to decide.

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[Lambano]

Are they on this forum?

They're gay, but they're not into masochism.

 

[Lambano]

heard you say it."
"No you didn't."
"Yes I did."
"I didn't say that."
"Liar."

That sounds like too many conversations here on this board.

 

[Lambano]

Just an observation: Of the prominent female voices on CB, only three are happily married. The remainder are divorced, separated, widowed, or never married.

We've heard from Wynona; I'm hoping some of the other happily-marrieds ("happily widowed" doesn't sound right) will chime in.

 

[St. SteVen]

I'm very interested in male/female psychology.
Especially in husband/wife relationships.

I was counseling a friend in how to be decisive for his wife. (which she needs)
Unfortunately, he went a bit overboard and was being a decision-making tyrant.

He tends to NOT be decisive. Where to go for lunch has been an issue with us and his wife.
He's very compliant to others wants and genuinely doesn't care where you go. (he says)
So I taught him how to guide others through a process to decide.

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--- PARODY ---

Wife: Where should we go to eat?
Husband: I don't care, where do you want to go?
Wife: I don't know, you decide.
Husband: We can go wherever you want.
Wife: I don't know where we should go.
Husband: I thought you wanted to go out to eat.
Wife: I do.
Husband: Why can't you decide?
Wife: I need you to pick a place.
Husband: Okay, let's go to the Burger Barn.
Wife: No, I don't want to go there.
Husband: Let's do Asian buffet.
Wife: Nope.
Husband: Why don't you like my ideas?
Wife: They don't sound good to me.
Husband: Let's go to your favorite restaurant.
Wife: We went there last time.
Husband: That does it - we're going to the Burger Barn!
Wife: (sigh)
Husband: What's wrong?

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[Lambano]

I was counseling a friend in how to be decisive for his wife. (which she needs)
Unfortunately, he went a bit overboard and was being a decision-making tyrant.

He tends to NOT be decisive. Where to go for lunch has been an issue with us and his wife.
He's very compliant to others wants and genuinely doesn't care where you go. (he says)
So I taught him how to guide others through a process to decide.

I got signed up for a news service at work. It's supposed to provide articles on AI Development, but something like 90% of the articles are on religion or relationships. Probably because I keep clicking on them. (There's the AI Development in action, I guess.) Anyway, one thing that comes up repeatedly is that while women do not want to be dictated to, they will NOT tolerate indecisiveness in a man.

 

[St. SteVen]

Anyway, one thing that comes up repeatedly is that while women do not want to be dictated to, they will NOT tolerate indecisiveness in a man.

Yes.
Decisiveness is built on self-confidence. IMHO
Stand up straight. Look people in the eye when speaking.
Be willing to listen more than talk.
Know where you are going and what you stand for.
And smile.

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[quietthinker]

St. SteVen said:
Why did God give you a husband?

Define "affairs". - LOL

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choices.

 

[pandaflower]

To help me to practice patience.

And remember his commandment.

Thou shalt not murder.