Would you go to your brothers 2nd wedding after he commited adultery?

[amigo de christo]

A gay wedding wasn't mentioned and I have no gay friends, and will not.

I understand that a gay wedding was not men tioned . And happy i am that you would not at ttend one .
but tell me
DO ya really think GOD is now okay with ADULTERY . nope not with adultery either .
Sin is sin friend . SIN is sin . i dont pick and choose what sins to warn against and what sins to accept and overlook .
WE s ho uld have no part IN ANY ones sins . that was my point .
Look i already had this happen to me . My family showed me the spine
for doing what was right . IN THE EYES OF GOD . Hey as much as i love the peoples and my family
THEY didnt save me, GOD DID . SO ITS HE who i shall honor and i sh all do what is best for the peoples too .
EVEN if it costs me a w hole lot . I highly suggest we all do likewise .
When one goes to a gay wedding , even if they try so hard and tell themselves , hey we dont support it .
SORRY but YA JUST DID when you sat and particpated in it and said nothing against it . Lets not make excuses
f or ourselves or for others . LET us always do what Pleases GOD and thus would have been what was
best for them . Leaving one in sin , AINT love or what is best for them .
HERE is what leaving one in sin is ,
YE SHALL NOT HATE , ITS HATE
YE shall not hate your neighbor in your heart , You SHALL correct him and not allow SIN upon him .
SO lets go and do likewise . DONT HATE , CORRECT .

 

[Rockerduck]

I understand that a gay wedding was not men tioned . And happy i am that you would not at ttend one .
but tell me
DO ya really think GOD is now okay with ADULTERY . nope not with adultery either .
Sin is sin friend . SIN is sin . i dont pick and choose what sins to warn against and what sins to accept and overlook .
WE s ho uld have no part IN ANY ones sins . that was my point .
Look i already had this happen to me . My family showed me the spine
for doing what was right . IN THE EYES OF GOD . Hey as much as i love the peoples and my family
THEY didnt save me, GOD DID . SO ITS HE who i shall honor and i sh all do what is best for the peoples too .
EVEN if it costs me a w hole lot . I highly suggest we all do likewise .
When one goes to a gay wedding , even if they try so hard and tell themselves , hey we dont support it .
SORRY but YA JUST DID when you sat and particpated in it and said nothing against it . Lets not make excuses
f or ourselves or for others . LET us always do what Pleases GOD and thus would have been what was
best for them . Leaving one in sin , AINT love or what is best for them .
HERE is what leaving one in sin is ,
YE SHALL NOT HATE , ITS HATE
YE shall not hate your neighbor in your heart , You SHALL correct him and not allow SIN upon him .
SO lets go and do likewise . DONT HATE , CORRECT .

No I am not ok with adultery. The church nowadays is rampant with it. Living together is rampant also. Luckily FSU is having a revival and some other colleges and even a few churches are waking up. Maybe God is turning hearts back to Him faster now just before the end.

 

[Wick Stick]

For those who won't watch the short video for whatever reason. The guys brother was married and committed adultery, then he gets divorced and marries the same girl he committed adultery with. Should he attend the wedding?

I'm torn on this. One part of me agrees with the preacher but another part of me says that I should keep the peace with my family.

If you agree with the Pastor then how about this. Would you go to your brothers wedding knowing that they have had sex already? Because if you use the pastors logic then you should not attend that wedding either because the bible says you shouldn't have sex outside of marriage.

But who are you to judge anyway. Have you not sinned yourself. Ultimately it's God who will judge your brother, not you.

How about these bible verses which I'm para phrasing

Take the log out of your eye before taking the speck from your brothers eye

He who has not sinned may cast a stone

I don't know. The more i think about it the more i think i would go. Keeping the peace in the family is important. Tearing apart the family for simply not showing up is extreme. Your not committing a sin for showing up at the wedding.

Your thoughts

I'd go. He's my brother.

His status as brother is not conditioned on his behaving the way he ought to, or the way I think he ought to.

 

[Armour of God]

@PS95 @amigo de christo

My friends it's a tough question and I'm glad it's only a hypothetical question for us. I understand both your arguments but I would still just go to keep the peace, I don't think it's a sin just to be there.

My further question would be if you would go to your brothers wedding if you knew they were already living together and having sex? Or even if he had sex a few times with other partners in the past?

The way it is now most marriages are like this. No one is a virgin and they often have sex with eachother before marriage

 

[Wrangler]

I would still just go to keep the peace

For months, I’ve thought about starting a thread entitled, “The Forbidden Virtue: Loyalty.” The adage is true, “A friend in need is a friend, indeed.” Few weddings would be attended if the guests presence certified 100% agreement with everything the bride and groom ever did.

I‘ve been told many times that I am a great friend. My first wife was jealous of my loyalty to my friends. I find it strange how quick people are to abandon family and friends at the slightest provocation. Not everything has to have a moral stand ending relationships. This is especially true in light of not having authority over people being judged.

 

[Jericho]

It comes down to personal conviction. God is not going to hold it against you either way.

 

[Wrangler]

It comes down to personal conviction. God is not going to hold it against you either way.

Not that this is a salvation issue, it may be held against you.

2 Chronicles 15:7 But you, be strong, and don’t slack off; for your work will be rewarded.”​

Matthew 12:36 And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak.​

 

[PS95]

@PS95 @amigo de christo

My friends it's a tough question and I'm glad it's only a hypothetical question for us. I understand both your arguments but I would still just go to keep the peace, I don't think it's a sin just to be there.

I agree that it's not a sin to go. I stated that. It's a personal decision.

My further question would be if you would go to your brothers wedding if you knew they were already living together and having sex? Or even if he had sex a few times with other partners in the past?

Is this a brother as in family-- or a brother in Christ? that was my Q earlier and why I wrote what I did.

The way it is now most marriages are like this. No one is a virgin and they often have sex with each other before marriage

Again- is this a brother or a brother in Christ? I know plenty of young believers who are waiting until marriage.

 

[Armour of God]

I agree that it's not a sin to go. I stated that. It's a personal decision.

Is this a brother as in family-- or a brother in Christ? that was my Q earlier and why I wrote what I did.

Again- is this a brother or a brother in Christ? I know plenty of young believers who are waiting until marriage.

I think the guy in the video is talking about his family brother

 

[Taken]

Would you go to your brothers 2nd wedding after he committed adultery?

Yes, I would go.

 

[Marvelloustime]

I understand that a gay wedding was not men tioned . And happy i am that you would not at ttend one .
but tell me
DO ya really think GOD is now okay with ADULTERY . nope not with adultery either .
Sin is sin friend . SIN is sin . i dont pick and choose what sins to warn against and what sins to accept and overlook .
WE s ho uld have no part IN ANY ones sins . that was my point .
Look i already had this happen to me . My family showed me the spine
for doing what was right . IN THE EYES OF GOD . Hey as much as i love the peoples and my family
THEY didnt save me, GOD DID . SO ITS HE who i shall honor and i sh all do what is best for the peoples too .
EVEN if it costs me a w hole lot . I highly suggest we all do likewise .
When one goes to a gay wedding , even if they try so hard and tell themselves , hey we dont support it .
SORRY but YA JUST DID when you sat and particpated in it and said nothing against it . Lets not make excuses
f or ourselves or for others . LET us always do what Pleases GOD and thus would have been what was
best for them . Leaving one in sin , AINT love or what is best for them .
HERE is what leaving one in sin is ,
YE SHALL NOT HATE , ITS HATE
YE shall not hate your neighbor in your heart , You SHALL correct him and not allow SIN upon him .
SO lets go and do likewise . DONT HATE , CORRECT .

@amigo de christo

 

[Lambano]

For those who won't watch the short video for whatever reason. The guys brother was married and committed adultery, then he gets divorced and marries the same girl he committed adultery with. Should he attend the wedding?

This is more than a hypothetical situation for me. Several years back, my brother called me at work to tell me that he was getting a divorce from his wife of thirty-plus years. All he could say through the tears is that they had some "long-standing issues" and that he had been unfaithful. When some couples announced their divorce, my first thought was, "What took you guys so long?" My brother's divorce, though, completely blindsided me. They were both devoted Christians who had served on missions together.

I missed my next meeting that day.

So, he and "the other woman" bought a house and have been living together the last few years. I didn't ask about their sleeping arrangements. I did ask if they planned to get married. He said there were financial reasons (having to do with the child support she gets from her ex for her kids) why they were delaying making the relationship official; I didn't press him for details. When they do decide to get married, I will attend (Deo volente). Why? Because he and his new bride will need our love and support. (I'm not sure my wife will agree, though. She has this thing about men who betray their wives.)

And what of my former sister-in-law, who really hurt by his betrayal? She's still part of our extended family, and we maintain contact with her. If God should bring the right man into her life, we would gladly attend her wedding also.

 

[Nancy]

Ok I never noticed that verse and I'm still pondering it. I don't think Jesus is telling us to intentionally cause division with our families

But what about the verses I mentioned that basically tells us not to judge because we have also sinned.

And ultimately I'm wondering would I be committing a sin for attending that wedding. I don't think so

Well no we should not intentionally cause division, but we are to separate ourselves from the world.

I suppose this would be a matter of attending the wedding rubs at your conscience or not. It is a personal choice to attend or not to. But, I wonder, are they Christians? Either way, it is a heart matter I would think.

God bless your decision! And, I hope you can settle it in your own heart.

 

[amigo de christo]

Well no we should not intentionally cause division, but we are to separate ourselves from the world.

I suppose this would be a matter of attending the wedding rubs at your conscience or not. It is a personal choice to attend or not to. But, I wonder, are they Christians? Either way, it is a heart matter I would think.

God bless your decision! And, I hope you can settle it in your own heart.

The question that every man , woman and child needs to ask themselves is ........
DOES GOD approve of adultery , Does GOD approve .
And if anyone is entering into it , in it and is going to make a fatal decision to marry into an adulterous marriage
or any marriage not approved of GOD . Should we, IF WE KNOW this to be the case , just
sit and go along or as sheep should we have warned our neighbor and not to have allowed sin upon them .
Its the latter . Does anyone here
ever wonder why the phrase has long been said and told at e very wedding ,
THAT IF ANYONE HERE knows of any CAUSE these two should NOT be wed , then let him SPEAK or forever hold his peace .
Very wise question that was to have been added in and i bet it was by the true churches .
THERE is a good reason it was , Cause brethren are supposed to look OUT for brethren
and not allow sin upon thy neighbor .
SO we have a choice . You can t ry and warn them in private , AS I HAVE DONE before , if they hear not
THEN by all means DO NOT SHOW UP to said marriage .
But if one does go to said marriage , WELL THEN
YOU HAVE A DUTY to answer that call , to stop that marriage , IF SO BE ITS IN ADULTERY or gay or etc.
SO what is it gonna be , are we gonna try and rebuke them in private
OR is one going to GO TO said marriage and stand before ALL and say , I HAVE REASON
for them not to be married ,
THE CHOICE IS YALLS . but whatever it was or is , WE cannot ALLOW SIN upon them .
Its pretty easy to tell folks in private and then if they wont hear , JUST DONT SHOW UP .
MIght be a bit harder for some to have to stand and do it BEFORE ALL . but either way
IT HAS TO BE CORRECTED , IF , IF WE KNOW ITS IN ERROR .

 

[Lambano]

So would you go to a gay wedding performed in a church .

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[Dan Clarkston]

For those who won't watch the short video for whatever reason. The guys brother was married and committed adultery, then he gets divorced and marries the same girl he committed adultery with. Should he attend the wedding?

His brother will be living in a continual state of sinful behavior so NO.

Ephesians 5:5
For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater,
hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

1 Corinthians 5:11
But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a
fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one
no not to eat.

 

[Dan Clarkston]

Well no we should not intentionally cause division, but we are to separate ourselves from the world.

As well as from those who refuse to repent of their sin and continually live in sinful behavior.

 

[Wick Stick]

I did ask if they planned to get married. He said there were financial reasons (having to do with the child support she gets from her ex for her kids) why they were delaying making the relationship official; I didn't press him for details.

I see the financial thing frequently. I always wonder just how official it needs to be. Does it really need the government's approval? How about the church's? What if the two people just stand in a living room in front of some friends and pledge themselves to each other? That good enough?

 

[Wick Stick]

His brother will be living in a continual state of sinful behavior so NO.

How so? The marriage was dissolved for reason of unfaithfulness

 

[Dan Clarkston]

How so? The marriage was dissolved for reason of unfaithfulness

There's no biblical permission or authority to get remarried if the original spouse is still alive

He should be believing the Lord for reconciliation and be remaining unmarried.

Besides, I thought it was the guy that cheated on his wife and is a whoremonger?