Need advice: Im afraid of not being busy

[Wynona]

I called on the Lord for direction and He gave me a couple verses:

Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you...

...Whosoever shall lose his life for my sake shall find it...


What I'm not getting from the Lord is direction towards anything outside of the home. No church ministry. No volunteering. No nothing. No job. And I have accepted that Im not called to have a traditional career.

It's as if God wants me to just be a disciple and wife and nothing else. He's not given me what my routine will look like and I am really struggling with that.

I'm afraid of being a bum. I'm afraid of not having much to say when people ask me what I do. I'm afraid of not being busy with tasks.

In America, we tend to wear busyness like a badge of honor. In a way, though I was less busy than most, I did too. So now it feels like spiritual contortion to just wait on God and learn from Jesus without a plan of action or outside commitments.

 

[Pearl]

@Wynona - If you are asking and he's not telling you anything then just keep doing what you're already doing. If he wants you to do something else he will tell you.

What we do in the home and with our families is important; to be the best we can as wives, mothers, housekeepers. We serve Him in all these things.

I was exactly the same, trying to find out what he wanted me to do until I realised I was already doing it. And then perhaps he will later add to it and give you something new.

 

[Nancy]

Oh Wynona, you and I have the same frustration. The Lord so blessed me with The Genesis Center but, that is not enough in my mind as, the lions share of time is spent in my house. I've no idea what if anything else He would have me do so, I just keep on keeping on praying for opportunities to speak to people about Him. Maybe He just wants you to be still and know...?

 

[Enoch111]

I'm afraid of being a bum. I'm afraid of not having much to say when people ask me what I do. I'm afraid of not being busy with tasks.

Don't expect the Lord to drop something into your lap. You need to take the initiative and get busy. There is tons of work all around you. So no excuses.

 

[marks]

I called on the Lord for direction and He gave me a couple verses:

Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you...

...Whosoever shall lose his life for my sake shall find it...


What I'm not getting from the Lord is direction towards anything outside of the home. No church ministry. No volunteering. No nothing. No job. And I have accepted that Im not called to have a traditional career.

It's as if God wants me to just be a disciple and wife and nothing else. He's not given me what my routine will look like and I am really struggling with that.

I'm afraid of being a bum. I'm afraid of not having much to say when people ask me what I do. I'm afraid of not being busy with tasks.

In America, we tend to wear busyness like a badge of honor. In a way, though I was less busy than most, I did too. So now it feels like spiritual contortion to just wait on God and learn from Jesus without a plan of action or outside commitments.

Pastor Chuck would say, "everything is preparation for something". I'm in a holding place too, and I'm not used to that. I used to have a number of things I did each week and each month, and it's all gone away.

But I'm more afraid of failing in the few things I have. I understand that Father will give me the next thing when it's right.

Much love!

 

[Wynona]

@Wynona - If you are asking and he's not telling you anything then just keep doing what you're already doing. If he wants you to do something else he will tell you.

What we do in the home and with our families is important; to be the best we can as wives, mothers, housekeepers. We serve Him in all these things.

I was exactly the same, trying to find out what he wanted me to do until I realised I was already doing it. And then perhaps he will later add to it and give you something new.

Being a homemaker is definitely a good thing. It's important and Ive experienced first hand how much of a blessing it is to me and my husband.
I just feel very self-conscious about it. I was expected to be highly educated and have a career. My family still doesn't quite get that I have no intention of having a career unless God calls me to one.

I suppose the answer is just to get over it. It just helps to write out my thoughts.

 

[Wrangler]

What do you want to do? What do you feel called to do? Maybe God is calling you to a season of rest now.

 

[Wynona]

What do you want to do? What do you feel called to do? Maybe God is calling you to a season of rest now.

I feel called to wait on God.

What I want to do is feel like I'm getting stuff done and have something to show for it.

 

[Wrangler]

I feel called to wait on God.

What I want to do is feel like I'm getting stuff done and have something to show for it.

Hmmm. I think I understand the dilemma.

Societal pressure. God's Will. Not the same.

Society wants external and material evidence of busyness. Grass mowed. Housework done. Dinner made. Forest chopped down. Job obtained. Etc.

God wants internal development. Building sandcastles in your mind are not impressive to society but who are you trying to impress?

• Read a book. (I can recommend dozens)
• Listen to Christian talk radio or podcast.
• Join a small group through church.
  • My wife is part of a women's Bible study. I am part of a weekly hiking c-group.
• Drive around your community and see where you can make an impact.
  • Trash to pick up.
  • Talk to a panhandler.
  • Be available at the jail or court house to listen to lost people who need to talk.
  • Pickup a hitchhiker or offer a ride to someone walking on a long, cold and lonely road.
    • There is a risk, yes, but there is also a reward - a big time reward.
    • Being a Christian is not supposed to be safe. (Jesus touched lepers.) Missionary work goes to troubled areas.
    • I've done this many times with no problems and have helped desperate people in their time of great need. It brought some to tears to know there are people who actually exist today who will go out of their way, give of their time and money JUST to help a fellow human being in need.
• Go into nature. Find a view to ponder Creation and your role in it.
• Journal your spiritual journey.
• Be the best you that you can be during this day that the LORD has made for us to rejoice and be glad in it.
• Repeat

 

[Pearl]

I feel called to wait on God.

What I want to do is feel like I'm getting stuff done and have something to show for it.

But what you want is secondary to what God wants so just be still and wait upon the Lord without hasseling Him. He already knows your hearts desire.

 

[Wynona]

Hmmm. I think I understand the dilemma.

Societal pressure. God's Will. Not the same.

Society wants external and material evidence of busyness. Grass mowed. Housework done. Dinner made. Forest chopped down. Job obtained. Etc.

God wants internal development. Building sandcastles in your mind are not impressive to society but who are you trying to impress?

• Read a book. (I can recommend dozens)
• Listen to Christian talk radio or podcast.
• Join a small group through church.
  • My wife is part of a women's Bible study. I am part of a weekly hiking c-group.
• Drive around your community and see where you can make an impact.
  • Trash to pick up.
  • Talk to a panhandler.
  • Be available at the jail or court house to listen to lost people who need to talk.
  • Pickup a hitchhiker or offer a ride to someone walking on a long, cold and lonely road.
    • There is a risk, yes, but there is also a reward - a big time reward.
    • Being a Christian is not supposed to be safe. (Jesus touched lepers.) Missionary work goes to troubled areas.
    • I've done this many times with no problems and have helped desperate people in their time of great need. It brought some to tears to know there are people who actually exist today who will go out of their way, give of their time and money JUST to help a fellow human being in need.
• Go into nature. Find a view to ponder Creation and your role in it.
• Journal your spiritual journey.
• Be the best you that you can be during this day that the LORD has made for us to rejoice and be glad in it.
• Repeat

Yes. This was extremely helpful. My ego wants so badly to have a worldly sand castle to show others. Even if its a small one.

Jesus' disciples left everything they knew and were familiar with to follow Jesus. I suppose it was a big leap of faith to simply take life as it came with the Lord.

 

[Wrangler]

Build treasure in heaven.

 

[Wynona]

But what you want is secondary to what God wants so just be still and wait upon the Lord without hasseling Him. He already knows your hearts desire.

I understand. Thank you, Pearl!!

 

[amigo de christo]

I feel called to wait on God.

What I want to do is feel like I'm getting stuff done and have something to show for it.

DO as ye do, not desiring recognition from folks , but in secrete . And GOD shall reward thee openly .
Sixteen years . Sixteen years , by grace i have followed the LORD .
A number so high i can never number have simply resisted the truth and my titles are and were anti christ
son of perdtion , hater , monster and so many four letter words i wont be repeating .
IF anyone is getting into the business and ministiry of GOD expecting this great large ministry and their name being
exalted among the folks , MY ADVICE IS , let us relearn Christ and the apostels .
I know lots of folks get into ministiry , with great expectations of having a large ministry and much recognitoin .
My advice to those is , YOUR entering minstiry for all the wrong reasons .
All we can do is point to JESUS and expect what HE said , IN THIS WORLD YE WOnt be loved
in this world ye shall have tribulation . BUT , BE OF GOOD FAT HAPPY CHEER , THE LORD has overcome this world .
Folks are never gonna chant my name , NOR DO I desire them to do so .
TRUTH is most are gonna hate me as though i was the devil himself . BUT It dont stop my love for them
and it sure dont stop my correction of error either . GOD KNOWS what we do . ITS ENOUGH FOR ME that HE KNOWS
my hearts desire . MEN gonna do to me as they do . BUT GOD KNOWETH MY HEART . AND TRUTH IS
HE IS the one that changed my heart . SO i cant even take credit for that . BUT I CAN GIVE ALL GLORY TOGOD , to CHRIST
adn HAPPILY I SHALL DO SO .
I do my minstiry knowing full well it is not for the eyes of men
but rather for the hope they will be saved .
Even those i love , hate me most . But at least some might hear .

 

[amigo de christo]

SO do all that ye DO Unto GOD .
GOD Knows what we do . That is enough for me . MAN will think of me as he will . BUT GOD KNOWS . AND THAT IS ALL I NEED .

 

[amigo de christo]

Yes. This was extremely helpful. My ego wants so badly to have a worldly sand castle to show others. Even if its a small one.

Jesus' disciples left everything they knew and were familiar with to follow Jesus. I suppose it was a big leap of faith to simply take life as it came with the Lord.

You have well said SAND CASTLE . for any desire to show others our accomplishemnts are but as sand .
GOD KNOWS what we do . AND THAT ALONE is far good enough for me .
You do realize JESUS calls me saved , many men call me anti christ or son of perdtion or hater or monster .
But none of that matters . What matters is , WHAT GOD thinks . NOW lift those hands and praise the LORD . ITS TO HE WE OWE ALL .

 

[GTW27]

There is a season for all things under The Son. For many it is a season of "rest".

 

[GTW27]

For when we "rest" (cease from our labors)it is then, that our Father works in and through us.

 

[quietthinker]

I called on the Lord for direction and He gave me a couple verses:

Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you...

...Whosoever shall lose his life for my sake shall find it...


What I'm not getting from the Lord is direction towards anything outside of the home. No church ministry. No volunteering. No nothing. No job. And I have accepted that Im not called to have a traditional career.

It's as if God wants me to just be a disciple and wife and nothing else. He's not given me what my routine will look like and I am really struggling with that.

I'm afraid of being a bum. I'm afraid of not having much to say when people ask me what I do. I'm afraid of not being busy with tasks.

In America, we tend to wear busyness like a badge of honor. In a way, though I was less busy than most, I did too. So now it feels like spiritual contortion to just wait on God and learn from Jesus without a plan of action or outside commitments.

I will reference your quote of Jesus Wynona. 'Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you...' It is loaded. From the outset it asks us to understand 'God's Kingdom' and it couples it with 'his righteousness'. Could it be a synonym? ie, God's Kingdom and 'his righteousness' is the same thing?
Explore this....ask questions ....lots of them.....and don't give up asking. Assumptions don't cut it.....particularly those arrived at from the religious climate of ones programming.

 

[Angelina]

I called on the Lord for direction and He gave me a couple verses:

Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you...

...Whosoever shall lose his life for my sake shall find it...


What I'm not getting from the Lord is direction towards anything outside of the home. No church ministry. No volunteering. No nothing. No job. And I have accepted that Im not called to have a traditional career.

It's as if God wants me to just be a disciple and wife and nothing else. He's not given me what my routine will look like and I am really struggling with that.

I'm afraid of being a bum. I'm afraid of not having much to say when people ask me what I do. I'm afraid of not being busy with tasks.

In America, we tend to wear busyness like a badge of honor. In a way, though I was less busy than most, I did too. So now it feels like spiritual contortion to just wait on God and learn from Jesus without a plan of action or outside commitments.

Oh @Wynona this is the most difficult place to be but clearly where God wants you to be right now. You have the opportunity to pray for people and situations that are pressing on your heart by the Holy Spirit. You have the opportunity to spend time in your word and helping people as the lord opens those doors. I have been involved in many ministries but the greatest ministy I have ever been involved in is intercessory prayer and warfare for others. It is a gift that requires sensitivity to the leading and unction/prompting of the Holy Spirit. You don't need to be physically active to make a difference in other people's lives, you just need to listen to God's voice and obey his will. It is not a permanent place but as someone has said above. We all have our seasons. This one is just as important as feeding the hungry or preaching his word. It is a place where we are in the center of his will - listening and obeying. Blessings and Peace!