Why does my nightmare scare you?

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While I have been living in the wilds on the Melbourne street's and this is being the situation that has persisted for many years, one particular thing about certain people who are involved with my situation has been bugging me for a long while. That these workers of charity and empathy typically disengage personally everytime I display any valuable experiences I want to share with them. I couldn't wrap my head around why they would dodge me everytime I wanted to share something that was important to me. But now I say I've discovered the reason behind their quick getaway from having to feel me in that moment. (It's because they do feel for me in that moment, and they feel in themselves powerless and concerned about my situation) So they pull away to avoid feeling what I am experiencing.

But this is where their error is:

I am the one who's personally experiencing a situation that they can only empathize with me secondhand. But somehow they seem to have become more emotionally effected psychologically than I am. So typically after some time has passed between (worker/client) they begin to react with a self-protective attitude, becoming increasingly defensive of feeling bad. Even though the reality is I'm the one who is going through the hardship, not them.
 
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While I have been living in the wilds on the Melbourne street's and this is being the situation that has persisted for many years, one particular thing about certain people who are involved with my situation has been bugging me for a long while. That these workers of charity and empathy typically disengage personally everytime I display any valuable experiences I want to share with them. I couldn't wrap my head around why they would dodge me everytime I wanted to share something that was important to me. But now I say I've discovered the reason behind their quick getaway from having to feel me in that moment. (It's because they do feel for me in that moment, and they feel in themselves powerless and concerned about my situation) So they pull away to avoid feeling what I am experiencing.

But this is where their error is:

I am the one who's personally experiencing a situation that they can only empathize with me secondhand. But somehow they seem to emotionally more effected psychologically than I am. So typically after some time has passed between (worker/client) they begin to react with a self-protective attitude, becoming increasingly defensive of feeling bad. Even though the reality is I'm the one who is going through the hardship, not them.
You could try sharing your perceptions regarding what you've just explained, with them.
 
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