Regardless of where the Holy Spirit comes down , why do you think the women that were present in the upper room were not there to receive the Holy Spirit ? The very women that had followed Jesus .When Pentecost came it doesn't say it occurred in the upper room, it just says it was in ONE PLACE.............[Acts 2:1 KJV] "And when the day of Pentecost was fully come, they were all with one accord in one place."
The gift of prophesy is a GREATER gift of the Holy Spirit than tongues , there is record of four sisters which did prophesy .
Acts 21:9 Context
6And when we had taken our leave one of another, we took ship; and they returned home again. 7And when we had finished our course from Tyre, we came to Ptolemais, and saluted the brethren, and abode with them one day. 8And the next day we that were of Paul's company departed, and came unto Caesarea: and we entered into the house of Philip the evangelist, which was one of the seven; and abode with him. 9And the same man had four daughters, virgins, which did prophesy. 10And as we tarried there many days, there came down from Judaea a certain prophet, named Agabus. 11And when he was come unto us, he took Paul's girdle, and bound his own hands and feet, and said, Thus saith the Holy Ghost, So shall the Jews at Jerusalem bind the man that owneth this girdle, and shall deliver him into the hands of the Gentiles. 12And when we heard these things, both we, and they of that place, besought him not to go up to Jerusalem.Give me your reasoning that women would not be able to have the gift of tongues since it is a LESSER gift that of prophesy .
1Cor14:5
5I would that ye all spake with tongues, but rather that ye prophesied: for greater is he that prophesieth than he that speaketh with tongues, except he interpret, that the church may receive edifying.