my parents say we learn from punishment, i am being punished and i HATE it, my parents say we became a better person after punishment, do i deserve it

[Taken]

it was a terrible punishment i dont think i deserved that much punishment do you ?

Actually you “deserved” more.


You did wrong toward your sister and enjoyed it.


You whine about being punished for YOUR wrong.

You mention nothing about ANYONE enjoying YOU being punished.

You mention nothing about YOU making ANY amends toward you sister that YOU ENJOYED wronging her.

YOU mention Nothing about YOUR “feeling of empathy of your wronging your sister” or “concern of your ENJOYMENT of causing HER Fear.”

Sorry kiddo, but that is a “loud speaker warning”, of a kid, the public will “undeserving” have to contend with, the kid thinking they can get their kicks by harming others.
And WHY, every day you can read about “kids” unleashed into society, threatening, harming, others AND themselves, getting Apprehended, jailed, shot, killed…and society “should” boo hoo FEEL bad, “the kid got what he deserved”.

Society does NOT feel bad for the “perpetrator”…they feel bad for the “family” of the perpetrator, who has taunted their family for years.

YOU were the perpetrator and thought it was “FUN and FUNNY” without a THOUGHT of the fear you caused to your own family member…and NOW want “someone” to feel bad, YOU were made confined.

Fact is: you did not Experience the FEAR you “laughingly caused your family member”….

Fact is: you were confined, unafraid, given food, bathroom breaks… unlike your family member.

Your “punishment” was too lenient, Unfearful and sadly taught you nothing.

Scripturally; for what one does WRONG, they should be subject to the same, SEVEN times.

You “laughingly” caused a family member to be in (her) FEAR for 6 hours …
Was your “retribution”… 42 hours Alone experiencing Something you Fear?
And your family members “Laughing” “enjoying” you being in Fear?

Nope. And Why your “punishment” failed.
And Why, you are Not given “sympathy” that poor you, are, back enjoying, your toys…phone, pc, tv and freedom to move about in comfort.

 

[tanya1234]

Actually you “deserved” more.


You did wrong toward your sister and enjoyed it.


You whine about being punished for YOUR wrong.

You mention nothing about ANYONE enjoying YOU being punished.

You mention nothing about YOU making ANY amends toward you sister that YOU ENJOYED wronging her.

YOU mention Nothing about YOUR “feeling of empathy of your wronging your sister” or “concern of your ENJOYMENT of causing HER Fear.”

Sorry kiddo, but that is a “loud speaker warning”, of a kid, the public will “undeserving” have to contend with, the kid thinking they can get their kicks by harming others.
And WHY, every day you can read about “kids” unleashed into society, threatening, harming, others AND themselves, getting Apprehended, jailed, shot, killed…and society “should” boo hoo FEEL bad, “the kid got what he deserved”.

Society does NOT feel bad for the “perpetrator”…they feel bad for the “family” of the perpetrator, who has taunted their family for years.

YOU were the perpetrator and thought it was “FUN and FUNNY” without a THOUGHT of the fear you caused to your own family member…and NOW want “someone” to feel bad, YOU were made confined.

Fact is: you did not Experience the FEAR you “laughingly caused your family member”….

Fact is: you were confined, unafraid, given food, bathroom breaks… unlike your family member.

Your “punishment” was too lenient, Unfearful and sadly taught you nothing.

Scripturally; for what one does WRONG, they should be subject to the same, SEVEN times.

You “laughingly” caused a family member to be in (her) FEAR for 6 hours …
Was your “retribution”… 42 hours Alone experiencing Something you Fear?
And your family members “Laughing” “enjoying” you being in Fear?

Nope. And Why your “punishment” failed.
And Why, you are Not given “sympathy” that poor you, are, back enjoying, your toys…phone, pc, tv and freedom to move about in comfort.

i do regret what i did i never meant my sister to be shut in for 6 hours, and yes i did experiance fear while i was locked in, i didnt like the feeling of not being able to get out, i also had to listen to my 2 sisters getting ready to go out saturday afternoon while i was shut in, and dont forget i was locked in my room overnight as well, this made me anxious, even though my parents were next door, i was put to bed at 9pm and made to get up at 7am , its was a hard punishment, i think one day locked up would have been punishment enough ?

 

[Rita]

i do regret what i did i never meant my sister to be shut in for 6 hours, and yes i did experiance fear while i was locked in, i didnt like the feeling of not being able to get out, i also had to listen to my 2 sisters getting ready to go out saturday afternoon while i was shut in, and dont forget i was locked in my room overnight as well, this made me anxious, even though my parents were next door, i was put to bed at 9pm and made to get up at 7am , its was a hard punishment, i think one day locked up would have been punishment enough ?

I doesn’t really matter what you think was appropriate , your parents had the right to set the punishment. You do really need to accept that. I do wonder if you really have accepted responsibility as you seem to be holding on to some grudge about it all, rather than learn from it all.

 

[Taken]

i do regret what i did i never meant my sister to be shut in for 6 hours, and yes i did experiance fear …

Doubt that.
You confuse what fear IS.
You knew a scream would alert your parents.
Your sister knew no one was there for her.

while i was locked in, i didnt like

Precisely…
Big difference between…
Not LIKING
AND
FEAR.

i also had to listen to my 2 sisters getting ready to go out saturday afternoon

That was “envy”.
No “sympathy for envy”.

dont forget i was locked in my room overnight as well, this made me anxious,

Don't forget you could “hear” your sisters “getting ready”… jealous, mad, you were not getting to go out.

Anxious? Is not fear. You had parents able to come to your aid at a moments notice.
Your sister had no one, while you caused her Fear, thought it Funny, and had no thought of her, while you were out having fun.

i was put to bed at 9pm and made to get up at 7am , its was a hard punishment,

Hear yourself…Fed a meal, you did not work for, Sent to sleep, on a bed you did not buy, in the privacy of your own room you did not buy, and complaining that is A “Hard Punishment”…. But yet…
Every day have a meal, bed, private room YOU can shut the door…. But complain when another can control the door.

A hard punishment is NOT a couple of days to teach you a lesson.
A hard punishment is when “authorities” lock you in a tiny room, with a concrete bed, a toilet with no privacy, an occasional shower with no privacy, meals you never get a say so of what you would LIKE to eat…and surrounded by NO ONE who loves you, will hug and comfort you if you are AFRAID… and no care you have no toys or sunshine.

I’ve mentored “kids” in prison…(not jail, with a 30 days lockup)… but prison, with YEARS of that life…and families, glad and relieved to have them out of their home, and no longer on guard in their own home, always wondering what crap the “kid” would be planning next to make their family miserable.

i think one day locked up would have been punishment enough ?

Of course you do. Point IS… you already proved your capability…
To plot a wrong…
To enjoy causing FEAR toward a family member, (you are supposed to know, love, be concerned for their well-being)…
But thought if FUNNY that you could harm them.

And THAT ^^ is precisely WHY…your parents, EVEN God… didn’t AsK YOU, a wrong doer…what their “punishment” should be.

What you did was Wrong.
That you Thought it Funny, is Very Concerning.
That you went off to play, without a thought of what you had Done…is Extremely Concerning.

And you think a day of punishment would have been sufficient… when in fact The whole weekend… was not sufficient.
You Complain, poor you.

What did YOU DO to Amend YOUR wrong doing?

 

[soberxp]

i do regret what i did i never meant my sister to be shut in for 6 hours, and yes i did experiance fear while i was locked in, i didnt like the feeling of not being able to get out, i also had to listen to my 2 sisters getting ready to go out saturday afternoon while i was shut in, and dont forget i was locked in my room overnight as well, this made me anxious, even though my parents were next door, i was put to bed at 9pm and made to get up at 7am , its was a hard punishment, i think one day locked up would have been punishment enough ?

What made you play tricks on your sister for fun? You know she has claustrophobia.

If it were just for fun and playfulness, a few minutes would have been enough, and you should have remembered to release her quickly. But you didn't. You forgot. You said, "Please listen to my sophistry, or please listen to my explanation."

You think that as long as you apologize, it should be enough.

But who can guarantee that you won't play around with your sister again?

So your parents think that giving you an appropriate punishment is a suitable choice.

So please continue your sophistry.

 

[tanya1234]

Doubt that.
You confuse what fear IS.
You knew a scream would alert your parents.
Your sister knew no one was there for her.



Precisely…
Big difference between…
Not LIKING
AND
FEAR.



That was “envy”.
No “sympathy for envy”.



Don't forget you could “hear” your sisters “getting ready”… jealous, mad, you were not getting to go out.

Anxious? Is not fear. You had parents able to come to your aid at a moments notice.
Your sister had no one, while you caused her Fear, thought it Funny, and had no thought of her, while you were out having fun.



Hear yourself…Fed a meal, you did not work for, Sent to sleep, on a bed you did not buy, in the privacy of your own room you did not buy, and complaining that is A “Hard Punishment”…. But yet…
Every day have a meal, bed, private room YOU can shut the door…. But complain when another can control the door.

A hard punishment is NOT a couple of days to teach you a lesson.
A hard punishment is when “authorities” lock you in a tiny room, with a concrete bed, a toilet with no privacy, an occasional shower with no privacy, meals you never get a say so of what you would LIKE to eat…and surrounded by NO ONE who loves you, will hug and comfort you if you are AFRAID… and no care you have no toys or sunshine.

I’ve mentored “kids” in prison…(not jail, with a 30 days lockup)… but prison, with YEARS of that life…and families, glad and relieved to have them out of their home, and no longer on guard in their own home, always wondering what crap the “kid” would be planning next to make their family miserable.



Of course you do. Point IS… you already proved your capability…
To plot a wrong…
To enjoy causing FEAR toward a family member, (you are supposed to know, love, be concerned for their well-being)…
But thought if FUNNY that you could harm them.

And THAT ^^ is precisely WHY…your parents, EVEN God… didn’t AsK YOU, a wrong doer…what their “punishment” should be.

What you did was Wrong.
That you Thought it Funny, is Very Concerning.
That you went off to play, without a thought of what you had Done…is Extremely Concerning.

And you think a day of punishment would have been sufficient… when in fact The whole weekend… was not sufficient.
You Complain, poor you.

What did YOU DO to Amend YOUR wrong doing?

What made you play tricks on your sister for fun? You know she has claustrophobia.

If it were just for fun and playfulness, a few minutes would have been enough, and you should have remembered to release her quickly. But you didn't. You forgot. You said, "Please listen to my sophistry, or please listen to my explanation."

You think that as long as you apologize, it should be enough.

But who can guarantee that you won't play around with your sister again?

So your parents think that giving you an appropriate punishment is a suitable choice.

So please continue your sophistry.

my sister was only locked in her room for 6 hours, she still had her tv, i had nothing i lost my tv . phone pc etc while locked up, dont forget i was locked in my room friday night saturday night and sunday night, i was also locked in my room all day saturday and sunday, i had to be up at 7am saturday and sunday , lights out and bed 9pm , i was not allowed to sleep during the day as i was set tons of schoolwork to do plus 2 four page punishment essays per day, i had to listen to my sisters getting ready to go out while i was shut in, i know it was a punishment and its not supposed to be fun , but i thought it was too hard i hated it ?

 

[tanya1234]

What made you play tricks on your sister for fun? You know she has claustrophobia.

If it were just for fun and playfulness, a few minutes would have been enough, and you should have remembered to release her quickly. But you didn't. You forgot. You said, "Please listen to my sophistry, or please listen to my explanation."

You think that as long as you apologize, it should be enough.

But who can guarantee that you won't play around with your sister again?

So your parents think that giving you an appropriate punishment is a suitable choice.

So please continue your sophistry.

my sister was only locked in her room for 6 hours, she still had her tv, i had nothing i lost my tv . phone pc etc while locked up, dont forget i was locked in my room friday night saturday night and sunday night, i was also locked in my room all day saturday and sunday, i had to be up at 7am saturday and sunday , lights out and bed 9pm , i was not allowed to sleep during the day as i was set tons of schoolwork to do plus 2 four page punishment essays per day, i had to listen to my sisters getting ready to go out while i was shut in, i know it was a punishment and its not supposed to be fun , but i thought it was too hard i hated it ?

 

[soberxp]

my sister was only locked in her room for 6 hours, she still had her tv, i had nothing i lost my tv . phone pc etc while locked up, dont forget i was locked in my room friday night saturday night and sunday night, i was also locked in my room all day saturday and sunday, i had to be up at 7am saturday and sunday , lights out and bed 9pm , i was not allowed to sleep during the day as i was set tons of schoolwork to do plus 2 four page punishment essays per day, i had to listen to my sisters getting ready to go out while i was shut in, i know it was a punishment and its not supposed to be fun , but i thought it was too hard i hated it ?

OH,well.
You hated it, so what about now?
Will you forgive your dad and mom?
Or Find a time to lock them in the room.

 

[tanya1234]

OH,well.
You hated it, so what about now?
Will you forgive your dad and mom?
Or Find a time to lock them in the room.

of course i forgive them i am just saying my punishment was too hard i dont like being locked up its boring and misreable ?

 

[Scott Downey]

no its the first time i have ever been locked in my room, i have been confined to my room before but never with the door locked, i have just been told not to come out, it does make a big difference having the door locked knowing you cant get out, i suppose that is the point its a punishment ?

Your situation is not unique, this happens to all mankind, and your eternal destiny is in the balance scale. God will also discipline and chasten everyone whom He receives into His heaven. If you do not endure correction, then you are not a child of your caring parent, but are illegitimate.

What scripture says written long time ago, shows how relevant it still is for you.

Hebrews 12
Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking unto Jesus, the [a]author and [b]finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

The Discipline of God​

3 For consider Him who endured such hostility from sinners against Himself, lest you become weary and discouraged in your souls. 4 You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin. 5 And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons:

“My son, do not despise the [c]chastening of the Lord,
Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him;

6 For whom the Lord loves He chastens,
And scourges every son whom He receives.”

7 If[d] you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten?

8 But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons.

9 Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live?

10 For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness.

11 Now no [e]chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.