First of all, I'm not a perfect person, no one is. I don't expect anyone else to be perfect, whether they attend church or not, whether they're at church or not.
Having said that, I have attended a number of churches in my local area and noticed a trend. That is, the wives of pastors, namely of the lead pastors, have flirted with me in a very open, obvious way at multiple of these churches.
At one church for example, one the pastor's wives asked me a series of personal questions. I did not ask her any questions myself. She initiated the conversation and persisted when I did not continue with the conversation and let it wane. She asked me where I live (general vicinity) and told me where she lived (exact cross streets). She also made some comments about my physique and about me working out. None of the questions or points of conversation were extremely inappropriate, but it felt like it crossed the line of idle chit chat. It was more personal than I anticipated.
What made this situation feel a bit odd was that her husband/lead pastor was just a few feet away. I didn't feel uneasy about the conversation while it was taking place, but thinking about it later, her light flirtation and her husband being so close by just seemed odd, I didn't really piece together what happened until later.
Another pastor's wife was a bit more obvious. When I speak to a married woman at church it's never in a flirtatious way. I talk to married woman in the same way as I talk to bro's. Jovial, joking, nothing that could ever be interpreted as sexual talk even in the wildest imagination. This wife apparently enjoys winking and smiling. It's definitely open flirtation. This is a very prominent church and considering how busy and public everyone's activity is, there is conceivable pathway to anything even remotely inappropriate happening.
Nonetheless, I wonder what leads pastor's wives to behave in this way, even light flirtation just doesn't seem to be the way to go. I can say the pastors won't ever put themselves in a situation where their behavior could be interpreted as questionable.
It doesn't anger me, I'm not even stressed about it. It's just a little disappointing and I wonder if I can find a church where this type of thing doesn't happen. It actually seems to be the norm interestingly enough.
Having said that, I have attended a number of churches in my local area and noticed a trend. That is, the wives of pastors, namely of the lead pastors, have flirted with me in a very open, obvious way at multiple of these churches.
At one church for example, one the pastor's wives asked me a series of personal questions. I did not ask her any questions myself. She initiated the conversation and persisted when I did not continue with the conversation and let it wane. She asked me where I live (general vicinity) and told me where she lived (exact cross streets). She also made some comments about my physique and about me working out. None of the questions or points of conversation were extremely inappropriate, but it felt like it crossed the line of idle chit chat. It was more personal than I anticipated.
What made this situation feel a bit odd was that her husband/lead pastor was just a few feet away. I didn't feel uneasy about the conversation while it was taking place, but thinking about it later, her light flirtation and her husband being so close by just seemed odd, I didn't really piece together what happened until later.
Another pastor's wife was a bit more obvious. When I speak to a married woman at church it's never in a flirtatious way. I talk to married woman in the same way as I talk to bro's. Jovial, joking, nothing that could ever be interpreted as sexual talk even in the wildest imagination. This wife apparently enjoys winking and smiling. It's definitely open flirtation. This is a very prominent church and considering how busy and public everyone's activity is, there is conceivable pathway to anything even remotely inappropriate happening.
Nonetheless, I wonder what leads pastor's wives to behave in this way, even light flirtation just doesn't seem to be the way to go. I can say the pastors won't ever put themselves in a situation where their behavior could be interpreted as questionable.
It doesn't anger me, I'm not even stressed about it. It's just a little disappointing and I wonder if I can find a church where this type of thing doesn't happen. It actually seems to be the norm interestingly enough.