Am I An Adulterer?

[Wrangler]

My wife and I are both in our second marriage. Our first spouses are still alive. Are we adulterers?

 

[WalterandDebbie]

My wife and I are both in our second marriage. Our first spouses are still alive. Are we adulterers?

I don't think so, you are not the only one, so, I'm also.

 

[amigo de christo]

A good question indeed . I wont answer it as a man with an opinion .
HOW bout we LET JESUS answer it .
He who puts away his wife for any reason expect for fornication, and marries another commits adultery against her .
Same with a woman putting away her husband .
And paul knew it too . She will be called AN ADULTERESS , SO LONG as her first husband lives , IF SHE BE MARRIED to another man .
THEY SEEMED TO KNOW something todays church DONT .
Save for fornication , or as we all know IF the spouse should die . THERES your only reasons according to JESUS CHRIST
So the question now is , What reason was the first spouse put away .

 

[Episkopos]

My wife and I are both in our second marriage. Our first spouses are still alive. Are we adulterers?

We see the law concerning marriage reflected in the statement by Paul (Rom. 7) that a woman can't be married to another man while her husband yet lives.

2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he lives; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband lives, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
4 Wherefore, my brethren, you also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that you should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.

What that means is that one can't be ruled by both the flesh and the Spirit. We are joined to the ego outer man in the power of Adam until we are crucified in that part of us to liberate the inner man to be joined to Christ. The self life has to be put to death before a person can enter into Christ. Hence the cross and the power thereof. That is something that can't be changed...whether we agree or not. This is on the level of holiness.



Concerning physical marriage and what is in our power to do on the level of righteousness. A woman is married to her husband as long as he lives. And a man is not to put away his wife unless she is unfaithful to him (as per Jesus). A man is free to marry another woman if the first woman bears the responsibility for breaking the marriage vows (being unfaithful).

What of adultery? Are the ones that are remarried the ones who are responsible for the original marriage breakup? Are these innocent of responsibility for the failure of the marriage?

If a man puts away his wife (divorces her) because he simply wants another woman...then he is responsible for her subsequent adultery. A man should not leave his wife unless she is (physically) unfaithful to him. Likewise if a woman cheats on her husband and then leaves him for another man...the man she marries is also an adulterer just as she is.

My thoughts. I am not divorced (married to the same woman now for 37 years) , but I realize how difficult it is to have all ones ducks in a row, so to speak, when it comes to our relationships. Life is not always easy. So I'm not judging anyone. What I think is that if someone believes they are called into ministry, they should personify the law concerning Christ..being married to one woman...and a woman being married to one man... for righteousness sake. Just look at the extremes we see in those who are called God's servants. The RC church forbids marriage in their ministers. And the reformation would seem to allow marriage freedoms that go directly against the biblical admonitions...

Keeping to a spiritual balance I don't think that we should vilify those who are divorced and remarried. That's between God and them. When it comes to supporting ministries, however, I would be more careful. We are each responsible, as servants, to God. As servants we are to put God first. So then even if we sympathize with brothers and sisters who have had the misfortune to not having their marriages work out...we are not to compromise the holiness message...and that is something we are to all be subject to. Ministries need to be exemplary so that the way of God in Christ is not mocked. Not allowing marriage? Too far! Allowing any marriage? Too far the other way.

 

[Rockerduck]

As long as the 2nd marriage is with a Christian. My unbelieving wife departed and divorced me.

1 Corinthians 7:13-15 - And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.

 

[RLT63]

My wife and I are both in our second marriage. Our first spouses are still alive. Are we adulterers?

I’m in the same situation. Both of our first spouses were unfaithful

 

[Gottservant]

Unless your first was unfaithful, then yes, it is adultery.

It's not the end though, you can commit to spending the rest of your life with your new spouse, and in a sense be forgiven.

The point is changing relationships is not cost free, and should be avoided to the letter of the law.

 

[Reggie Belafonte]

Moses gave the right to do so because regarding the hardness of ones heart !

Jesus said that the two become as one in Christ Jesus so that means one is worthy of the Kingdom of God !

Look who works to undermine Marriage, all such is the workings of Satan in fact ! for nowadays Marriage has been totally bastardised in fact for even queers have that Title bestowed on them now ? but the fact of that is the undermining of Christ Jesus in fact ! The work of Satanist in fact.

OK one may of made a mess of ones Partnership due to immaturity ? but lets hope that the one one is in works out and is worthy of Christ Jesus.
But regarding children with the first Partnership that makes such more complex ? but then again regarding the West nowadays your Children are not your own anymore ? for the same bastardisation has come about like it did under Hitlers Nazis and all Communist Nations, so your children are not yours in fact, they are the Governments Children more than the Parents nowadays in fact ! But most people are to deranged to understand the issues for they are not worthy of God in fact ! but under delusions and deceptions of this world in fact. so who is to say such things are wrong nowadays ? look around you and see who exposes such trash that the Media peddle on the filthy Anti-Chris Socialist Governments intent to drag everyone down to their level.

 

[Gabriel _Arch]

My wife and I are both in our second marriage. Our first spouses are still alive. Are we adulterers?

You're not Jews,so no.

 

[Always]

The blood of Jesus covers our sins after REPENTANCE , and the Word of God says it is better to marry than to burn, each situation is different, Unfaithfulness doesn't necessarily have to lead to divorce, (for better or worse) communication, regained trust, and forgiveness can turn things around. If ones have divorced and want to remarry go to God in prayer, ask forgiveness, marry and stay faithful to God first and then your spouse.

 

[Ritajanice]

My wife and I are both in our second marriage. Our first spouses are still alive. Are we adulterers?

If you are an adulterous person,I must be as well then..I’ve been married twice...

Then along came God nearly 32 years ago......and I have remained faithful to him....he meets all of my needs and more.

I’m in Love with God....I have never been in love before..not even with my two husbands.....you certainly know when your in Love.

Sorry Wrangler.....I’m just giving my thoughts...

 

[Aunty Jane]

@Wrangler There are only two grounds to end a marriage scripturally with freedom to remarry….adultery or death. You have not conveyed the circumstances.

If adultery is the grounds, you cannot be the guilty party. Yet all sin is forgivable…..if the infidelity was a one off affair, and you or your spouse are deeply repentant, your partner can forgive you and resume the marriage, but if it is a serial offense, committed more than once, then the genuineness of repentance must be questioned, and a spouse who has been betrayed has every right or walk away and end the marriage.

We live in a throw away society, but marriage was never intended to be a temporary arrangement, (till something better came along)…like many creatures that God created…we are supposed to “mate for life”.

If you loved someone enough to marry them, then it is worth some effort to keep that love alive and nourished. Faithfulness is an important component because it means confidence and trust in the one you married.

Solomon mentioned some benefit of marriage in Eccl 4:13-18….
”Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their hard work. 10 For if one of them falls, the other can help his partner up. But what will happen to the one who falls with no one to help him up?

11 Moreover, if two lie down together, they will stay warm, but how can just one keep warm? 12 And someone may overpower one alone, but two together can take a stand against him. And a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn apart.”

If we have God in our marriage as the ‘third cord’, then the benefit of his counsel will strengthen our marriage and prevent us from breaking our vow. (Eccl 5:4-5)

Being “in love” is how it begins, but then it is supposed to mature into a love that is committed and dedicated to the one you vowed to stay with “till death do you part“…..funny how those words are missing from most marriage ceremonies today….

 

[quietthinker]

My wife and I are both in our second marriage. Our first spouses are still alive. Are we adulterers?

There ya go, you know the truth of the matter! Fact is, knowing the truth of what we are makes God's forgiveness all the more wondrous. So, what to do?....you decide!