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Cheating and repentance

Discussion in 'Christian Newbies' started by James5577, Mar 21, 2022.

  1. James5577

    James5577 New Member

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    You say that your wife was “ open about going to find it elsewhere “ ....could you elaborate.....it sounds she was almost encouraging something like this to happen....perhaps I misunderstand....please explain.....I will be praying for you and your family...
     
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    Thanks for your upfront introduction James.
    Check this out....I think you'll find it helpful. Give it a few seconds to load.
    100 Our Conscience and the Holy Spirit
     
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    Yes, she was encouraging of it. I can say that now with a Christian mind thinking, that she was saying that just to be hurtful. I don't think she really meant it. It was not an excuse for me to do what I did. Even with the marital issues I had going on, I should have still resisted the temptation. Thank you for your prayers!
     
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    I will definitely check all these out! Thanks!
     
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    "I must make a qualification here. I assume that the affair is in the past and finished. Based on your statements of love for and desire to follow God, I assume that you are walking with God. You have confessed and forsaken. I also assume that the fling has not gone public. In that case, the situation will collapse into a cauldron of chaos, confusion, and conflict.

    H., let dead things stay dead and buried. Instead, focus on the joys of your, “lovely family.” God has removed your sin from you as “far as the east is from the west” (Psalm 103:12). Don’t go trying to find it again. Accept His forgiveness, walk with Him, love Him, serve Him, obey Him, and trust Him. If God has forgiven you, what more do you want from Him? Why offend Him by refusing His forgiveness? Concentrate on becoming like Jesus Christ; don’t enslave yourself to various lists of rules made up by well meaning people.



    I think this is wonderful advice.
     
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    Thanks for the advice and input!
     
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    JohnPaul Soldier of Jehovah and Christ

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    I am not as forgiving towards adulterers, bless you that you are Cassandra.

    Have you read about the adulteress who just got killed, stabbed 58 times in New York by her lover who then stuffed her in a Hockey bag, while her 13 year old was sleeping upstairs and her husband and 17 year old were in Michigan college hunting?

    You play you pay, there are consequences for everything we do.
     
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    and that is suppose to convince me? A bit of difference here. How many times does this not happen?

    As for adulteress--- I do know of one who Jesus forgave. She was then a changed person.

    It is not your place to forgive this man. He has not harmed you.
     
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    JohnPaul Soldier of Jehovah and Christ

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    So you think she was right in what she was doing? The cops found that she was in contact with three different men that night, before she met up with her lover and he killed her.
     
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    JohnPaul Soldier of Jehovah and Christ

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    I have a question being we are talking about Adultery here, would anyone on this forum claim justice was served for Orsoyla Gaal's infidelities towards here husband?
    I am curious to know people's opinion on this, I know Jesus forgave the adulteress back in his time, but this lady seems to be a repeat offender with the multiple men she was talking with the night her murder occurred.
     
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    LadyofFireandLace Well-Known Member

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    That is not justice. That is a messed up story. Anyone who thinks that shows some kind of "poetic justice" holds a lot of anger, bitterness, and resentment in their heart that they need to pray for healing for. That's not normal.


    @James5577 Why not see a Christian marriage counselor together?

    And I remember when I was married, a Christian pastor/marriage counselor was willing to talk to me alone. (I can't remember the reason. I think he wouldn't join.) Obviously it didn't work out but it gave me strength to try to do the right things, even if he wasn't.
     
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    JohnPaul Soldier of Jehovah and Christ

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    It’s messed up what she did to her kids and husband, You want to play you have to be willing to pay the price. I feel bad for her husband and kids.
     
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    Don't ever assume you understand a situation that you're not in.

    There's a Finnish proverb that says, "Sweep in front of your own front door."

    Pretty sure that it is more likely the family would lovingly and openly be willing to forgive her just to have her back.
     
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    JohnPaul Soldier of Jehovah and Christ

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    I understand it entirely she was messing around on her poor husband with several men, and that’s not assuming it’s fact. You play you pay, that’s how the game is played.
     
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    I'd use a much harsher term than "messed". God hasn't gotten around to sanctifying my vocabulary yet.

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    I found the one who would have thrown the stone.

    When I hear men justify murder as a justice for cheating, I consider that they are not just bitter but also more likely to be abusive. I'm not cool with it.

    lol Right!!! I'm keeping my chill... I know when to step away from the caps lock. :cool::rolleyes:
     
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    JohnPaul Soldier of Jehovah and Christ

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    My opinion.is the same for men not only women, I’m the most laid back person there not abusive at all. So you thing it’s right she was messing around with several men while married with two children, she should’ve gotten a pat on the back?
     
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