@mommyof1
Alpha no doubt refers to the hierarchy in a given group. Such as in societies of wolves, a pair of alphas arise, a male and female, which dominate the group. However:
Matthew 20:26 Yet it shall not be so among you; but whoever desires to become great among you, let him be your servant.
I know this philosophy you speak of, and it is contrary to the teachings of Christ. We are not animals, though that is what the world respects and teaches, all the way to insisting we evolved from apes etc. It’s amazing that in how one can delve deeply into many of these worlds philosophies and realize that they are based upon and replace God with animals/beasts, and so they worship.
Disclaimer: Don’t take this as a personal attack against you, it’s not at all. I’m presenting a truth about a deadly poison. It’s like a drug that we become dependant on, one that makes us feel good and that we react alarmingly when someone tries to pull it away from us, making us feel defensive. So it’s not you, but the poison that I’m pointing at, a deadly poison no less dangerous than heroin. End of disclaimer.
Psychology was once universally rejected by the church, up until around the mid 20’th century as many began to follow the progressive movements, essentially falling away from the faith. This is the doctrines of demons, moving people away from God, not closer. It may feel closer, but such as a drug, it can give us a feeling of euphoria that only masks the problem, leads us into bondage, while the real solution (and there really is one) is compromised and even fully removed in time. I’m not alone in this evaluation, I’m a trained Christian counselor (biblical counseling) and know of a massive host of Christian teachers, authors and counselors that are in absolute alarm by the way psychology has become so accepted by many Christian congregations let alone us individual Christians. Melding this psychology with the bible is wrong. Christian counselors with phd’s are teaching heresy, trying to serve two masters, combining scripture with humanism.
"If the present trend continues, Bible teaching will be totally eliminated from Christian radio stations as well as from TV and the pulpit. This is not a wild statement made in an emotional moment of concern. Bible teaching is being moved to the back burner of broadcasting, while so-called Christian psychology is put up front as Bible solutions to life's problems." (J. Vernon McGee, "Psycho-Religion-The New Pied Piper," Through The Bible Radio Newsletter, Nov., 1986).
What you need to do is flee from it. Two years of being thought in these ways has soaked your mind with a worldly teaching, bending your thoughts like a pretzel, causing confusion, and even possibly turning you away from those that offer the presentation of sound doctrines, to those that combine the poison with scripture. As a teaching that wholly leads to bondage, that is it’s effect and what it was designed to do.
We are to soak our mind with God’s untainted word, being washed in His understanding, His direction, and especially by His grace. So to start you really need to lift this up in prayer to the Lord Jesus Christ, asking Him for His guidance while repenting of these teachings. The initial question was correct, if indeed you felt the concern of it, than that is the Holy Spirit gently nudging you to repent of it. He will never force someone to comply, but is gentle and will work with you to get beyond this, as long as you don’t turn your back on Him as can happen and as some do. In time, if we ignore the alarms He sends, they fade out on our end as we simply choose not to listen. So you need to ask God to shed light on this matter, and look for his guidance, because He will surely provide it over the coming days, months and years even, as long as we are willing to search and listen.
And before you think I don’t understand what you went through, I’m a child abuse survivor, that then was forced through much of my childhood (by non-Christian parents) to see these therapists. Really, it only made things worse, until I became a born again Christian at the age of 12. Much of the damage was instantly healed, receiving the new heart of Christ within and all, but I still needed to be washed in the Word of God and come to an understanding/healing (it’s a process of sanctification) about not only the abuse but the poison that the therapist put into my mind over a many of years.
So I don’t live as a victim, I don’t spend my days focused on self (as the bible does not teach self- but the opposite). And though I may still be a completely imperfect person (as we all are), I do have the grace and knowledge by God to function in service to His kingdom, which is what we were created for, not “self-”. There is no “self-” teaching in the bible, no self-esteem, self-adequacy, self-help, no self-affirmation, no self-[anything] only reliance wholly upon God, and there is nothing that can replace that, especially not psychology which is nothing but pure poison.
In closing (really it is short, there is much to this but you need to take the first steps) here is a most excellent audio message about this subject. This is by one of my counseling teachers I had in college, actually my favorite teacher on the subject, and he really gives some solid information about this issue. It’s called the psychologizing of the faith by Bob Hoekstra. It’s about an hour long and well worth the listen.
Direct link to the audio:
psychologizing of the faith
Taken from this page:
Seminars
So I hope you didn’t move on too quickly, I would have posted this sooner but have been waiting for authorization (been around just never registered). But I suspect you may get nudged back to check for anymore replies at some point. Have any questions about my reply or the audio message, feel free to ask. May the Lord be your guiding light.
btw, in your topic title, what did dating have to do with it?
