Do Christians have to forgive everything no matter how bad the sins?

[Michael1985]

To me, it depends on the attitude of the sinner. I don't believe even an ounce of forgiveness is due if the sinner fails to see the error of his ways or even goes so far as to justify the transgression. That would give the world justification to walk all over believers and treat them as they please, and Christians should not be proverbial doormats. However, if there is contrition shown, the sinner should be forgiven over and over again.

 

[Rita]

I think you need to first understand that forgiveness is about us releasing the person who is in need of our forgiveness into Gods hands. Forgiveness of others releases us , not them. It’s about trusting God to do the right things on our behalf.
When I went through a divorce, my husband had also been an adulterer, God laid it on my heart to forgive him of everything. However that made me angry at the time and I kind of ‘ sulked ‘ for awhile, then I started to realise that it was about me healing and that being willing to forgive was starting a process. With Gods help I eventually was able to forgive him of everything.
It was the same process with many things from my last.
This is between you and God, not really you and your ex. Forgiveness equally doesn’t mean we forget or no longer have the scars , or that those in need of forgiveness do not have to face the consequences of the wrong choices. Forgiveness doesn’t mean we just forget everything - God says he puts distance ( from the east to the west ) between us and our transgressions.
You can’t just forgive because someone else is telling you to, or whatever they are throwing at you. I would personally suggest that you are real with The Lord and ask him to first help you to be willing, then when you are the process between you and the Lord can begin. I had to learn to let The Holy Spirit be my counsellor, the process of inner healing took many many years. With some people it is quicker, with others longer. We are individuals and only The Lord knows all that has happened to us.
Hope that helps in some way xxx
I might just add that my ex never came to me and asked my forgiveness, it was only when he was dying of cancer last year that we even spoke about it all and it was me that brought up the subject. We laid it to rest before he died on the 10th Dec at the age of 62 xx
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[2nd Timothy Group]

I have a question: Do Christians have to forgive everything no matter how bad the sins?

I think that this is a great question. What I can say is this: Once a person undergoes an authentic, True Transformation, which is God causing us to become New in our thoughts and actions, Holy Forgiveness is not something that we even think about. Rather, Holy Forgiveness is a state of mind . . . Truly Tranformed people live in a state of forgiveness, meaning that we don't tell ourselves to Forgive or even wrestle with the idea of it. The True Children of God will have been given His Holy Love, implanted into their Hearts . . . they, or we, cannot help but forgive.

In order to be this way, the Evil Sinful Nature must be cut out and removed. When this happens, no longer is a person living by the Mind of the Devil, but by the Mind of Christ. The question is, how is the Evil Curse cut away and removed forever? The answer to that question is why the entire Bible was written. Enjoy discovering the Mystery!

 

[JohnDB]

Four year old thread...

Just saying.

But because people continue to wonder about this question...it's a good question.

The answer is in Luke's Gospel.
In the tale of the shrewd manager.
In each instance the value of the forgiven debts were equal to each other...in some instances the debts were almost wiped out and in others there was still a heavy debt owed. But everyone was forgiven the same amount.
We aren't God. We can't forgive completely even though we can (with practice) forgive a lot.
Bitter roots of unforgiveness destroy the container they inhabit. So in truth the forgiveness you grant are for you...not for the recipients.

But be careful. Forgiveness is a powerful tool. Overused on someone can destroy the person you forgive. Spoiled Brats aren't just children. Entitled adults exist everywhere...expecting you to forgive outrageous behavior and blindly believe their obviously lame excuses.
Actions have consequences.
And proper boundaries should be firmly in place.

 

[2nd Timothy Group]

Four year old thread...

Maybe you should request that it be deleted?

 

[JohnDB]

Maybe you should request that it be deleted?

Maybe you should read the entirety of what I wrote instead of just the first line.

 

[Ronald David Bruno]

To me, it depends on the attitude of the sinner. I don't believe even an ounce of forgiveness is due if the sinner fails to see the error of his ways or even goes so far as to justify the transgression. That would give the world justification to walk all over believers and treat them as they please, and Christians should not be proverbial doormats. However, if there is contrition shown, the sinner should be forgiven over and over again.

Forgiveness releases the ill feelings and suffering brought on by the sin: the anger, the animosity, hate and grudges.
These are detrimental to us, they block us from experiencing peace, joy and growth.
So the forgiveness is not only for the one who sinned against you, but it is for your spiritual health.
We are in Christ and in Christ is no sin, even harbored sins against others.
Only God judges and is really the only one capable of judging justly. There will be many He does not forgive.
"Vengeance is mine, says the Lord".
"Love hour enemies!" That would include forgiveness.

 

[2nd Timothy Group]

Maybe you should read the entirety of what I wrote instead of just the first line.

Is that what I did? Okie doke.

 

[GTW27]

I think that this is a great question. What I can say is this: Once a person undergoes an authentic, True Transformation, which is God causing us to become New in our thoughts and actions, Holy Forgiveness is not something that we even think about. Rather, Holy Forgiveness is a state of mind . . . Truly Tranformed people live in a state of forgiveness, meaning that we don't tell ourselves to Forgive or even wrestle with the idea of it. The True Children of God will have been given His Holy Love, implanted into their Hearts . . . they, or we, cannot help but forgive.

In order to be this way, the Evil Sinful Nature must be cut out and removed. When this happens, no longer is a person living by the Mind of the Devil, but by the Mind of Christ. The question is, how is the Evil Curse cut away and removed forever? The answer to that question is why the entire Bible was written. Enjoy discovering the Mystery!

And it is He within us who says, "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do".

 

[2nd Timothy Group]

And it is He within us who says, "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do".

Beautiful. I like that. Also, Stephen and even Paul said essentially the same thing. Paul (essentially) said this in his Second Timothy letter as he referenced how the Province of Asia had abandoned him. Forgiveness, as it is granted by God, is one of the most liberating feelings one can know, have, and hold. I still remember what it was like to harbor hatred for nearly everyone in my former life . . . so glad that this Evil Mind has been removed going on for just over four years now.

Prior to the Holy Operation of God, I had no choice but to follow the Will of my former father, the Devil. But now, with Christ removing that Will, that Evil Nature, Forgiveness isn't even something I think about . . . and the assaults upon me and the Second Timothy Group are staggering. However, I blame no one for their treatment towards me, and this Group, for they don't know what they're doing. As Paul states in Romans 7, it isn't them that is sinning, but the Sin Nature within them.

John 8:44 ESV - "You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies."

But now that I share in the Divine Nature, my Will is to Obey my Father in Heaven. I WILL choose to Obey because that Will has been planted within me.

2 Peter 1:3-4 ESV - "His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, 4 by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire."

What is that Promise? It is the same Promise given to Abraham, the Circumcision of Heart . . . the Lifting of the Curse of Adam and Eve. Hence, because this is what was given to him, Abraham, this is why he is the Father of Faith to those who have not received physical circumcision.

Romans 4:11-12 ESV - "He received the sign of circumcision as a seal of the righteousness that he had by faith while he was still uncircumcised. The purpose was to make him the father of all who believe without being circumcised, so that righteousness would be counted to them as well, 12 and to make him the father of the circumcised who are not merely circumcised but who also walk in the footsteps of the faith that our father Abraham had before he was circumcised."

Our Bible is so unbelievable!

 

[GodsBeloved11]

Hello
I have a question: Do Christians have to forgive everything no matter how bad the sins?

I know the Bible says he have to forgive, and I understand that’s the best thing to do, but I wonder if everything is forgivable or there are some sins that are non-forgivable?

I got divorced because he was physically and emotionally violent, also he had a very strong drug addiction at the time, he committed adultery several times and frequented pornographic chats with strangers. He even wanted me to have an abortion of the same child we are now in trial for. 7 years ago I regain strength in God and was able to leave that relationship.

Last night he sent me several emails which I have not replied yet. In one he said “you are not a real Christian girl because you haven’t forgiven me and you don’t trust me”. My ex does not believe in God, but knows I am faithful to HIM and he has tried to manipulate me with comments like that.

I moved on, I really don’t think about what he did in the past because I’m happy and in peace.
I think is possible to forgive (or ignore something in your heart/mind), but I think is not possible to trust after years of abusive behavior, and stand there as a door mat for someone to put me down anytime he wants when things don’t go his way.

My son lives with me and sees his father every other weekend. And now the father wants us to be friends for the sake of our son, which I think will never be possible. I don’t talk bad things to my son about his father or argue in front of him, so I don’t understand his goal.

So I keep thinking: is everything forgivable or there are some sins that become unforgivable?

Thank you.
Coti

You can forgive them but forgiving doesn't mean you have to be in contact with them.

I'm a survivor of abuse and getting away helped me heal.