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I try my hardest not to have sexual desires. But it is truly difficult.

I find myself to immediately look at attractive persons of the opposite sex (I am a man) and getting those ugly desires.

Is there any other way to work this off, other than through prayers?
 

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I try my hardest not to have sexual desires. But it is truly difficult.

I find myself to immediately look at attractive persons of the opposite sex (I am a man) and getting those ugly desires.

Is there any other way to work this off, other than through prayers?
Just wondering. Are you married yet? If not, are you old enough to consider getting married?

Hopefully you will get some responses from some men soon.
 
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Some thoughts from the apostle Paul...

It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:1-2

8But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
 
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I try my hardest not to have sexual desires. But it is truly difficult.

I find myself to immediately look at attractive persons of the opposite sex (I am a man) and getting those ugly desires.

Is there any other way to work this off, other than through prayers?
Getting sexual desires, whether you are male or female, is natural. It's what we do when we get them that causes the problems. They should not lead us to do anything that is ungodly or unrighteous even if we are tempted. In Christ we can have the victory to overcome those temptations.
 

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Probably not. Just talk to God about it.
 

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Thank you for responses Yeah, next year I have been married with the same woman for 20 yrs.

I never escalate the desires to anything more than thoughts. My youth is a different story though, but I have asked for forgiveness as I was young and at the time not knowing better.

But my desires are slowly diminishing I must say. I am aware of them and telling Satan to leave me alone when they come. He knows very well Jesus is the one for me.
 

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Thank you for responses Yeah, next year I have been married with the same woman for 20 yrs.

I never escalate the desires to anything more than thoughts. My youth is a different story though, but I have asked for forgiveness as I was young and at the time not knowing better.

But my desires are slowly diminishing I must say. I am aware of them and telling Satan to leave me alone when they come. He knows very well Jesus is the one for me.
Hello @Turbulento.

Keep the thoughts out of the heart is a great lesson from our Lord Jesus the Christ.

Matthew 5:28 - Bible Gateway
Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

You are married from what you said. I do not advise stating the nature of the temptations on an open forum and such as many watch here and not all are logged in. Some browse anonymously. Never the less I did like your assessment of keeping temptations from those who seek to do evil here on earth out of the following after that. Which is blocked at the thoughts.

I know Jesus desires for us to honor marriage and to take it seriously as married couples are joined one with another as the bible spells out for Adam and Eve:

Bible Gateway passage: Genesis 2:24 - New King James Version
Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

I will say a prayer for you and your wife and I know the Lord will deliver those that desire his way.

A question also:

If not, have you been baptized, confirmed with the holy ghost thru the laying on of hands as the bible spells out, and then received the bread and wine of the new covenant of Christ our Lord?

Those things are important. If we also serve God and his children (our brothers and sisters here on earth) then we have a more rich experience with the Holy Spirit. I can testify that when God blessed me at a time in my life for a purpose with a rich holy spirit level there is no sexual desire for hours. And thru immersing ourselves in his work here on earth we can have more holy spirit that way too. I know he blesses the sick and afflicted, dying persons, and disabled, homeless often times as he loves us, his children.

I enjoy the following message from Paul as well:

Bible Gateway passage: Galatians 5:22-25 - New King James Version
Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 24 And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

I enjoyed a time in marriage when I was married back then and never left the vow area and saw it as important as Jesus' spirit had directed me at the marriage ceremony. I am happy I did that even though we are no longer married.

Thanks!
 

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I try my hardest not to have sexual desires. But it is truly difficult.

I find myself to immediately look at attractive persons of the opposite sex (I am a man) and getting those ugly desires.

Is there any other way to work this off, other than through prayers?
We are wired to have sexual attraction, we were made this way, However we can learn to control these unwanted urges, Just think of something else and stop looking when I happens. I just saw you are married, you know then this is wrong, so stop doing it and remain faithful, think of the harm this would cause you both. think of God's commandment about adultery, Jesus said that looking with lust is adultery. Just control these urges they will diminish and disappear also get closer to your wife! Do not forget the commitment you made with her under GOD eyes. Ask the Lord and he will certainly help you.
 
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