Getting through tough times

[Wynona]

Pray that I stay strong through uncertain times and don't give way to fear.

Also, is someone willing to pm me who could offer advice? If you have any wisdom in the area of marriage/finances/giving, I could really use that wisdom right now.

 

[Jay Ross]

Marriage: - never give up on what God has joined together. There was a reason for God to put you both together. The relationship dynamic between you and your husband has radically been impacted through the birth of your daughter and there is a need for you all to start normalising your dynamic now that there are three people in this new relationship equation.

Finance: - The best advice is to never spend any money on a whim if it will have an impact on your future spending needs to live day in day out. In other words, have a plan of how you will manage your finances so that you will meet your long-term goals for your lives together. The plan must be flexible in that it should have some fluidity in its structure to be able to cope with the occasional curve ball that may come your way so that your long-terms plans can still come to fruition at some point down the track of your journey through life.

Giving: - When you tithe you are trusting that God will enable you to be able to meet your day to day needs without regretting your tithe to Him. Tithing is God's way of teaching people how to be fully dependent on Him at all times as you observe God helping you to make the right calls on financial matters through your life choices that bring glory to Him.

Communication: - In every relationship being able to talk together is important. It requires that we each are able to listen to the other person's thoughts, needs and expectations without reacting negatively. Learn how to ask questions that draws an expansion from the other person as they develop and formulate their ideas, on the fly so to speak, into a better formulated proposal of action together. Inquire how their ideas will help both, involved in the discussion, to progress to a solution where both parties can be drawn into God's purposes. Inquire of the other how they are feeling spiritually in the circumstances that is being experienced by you both. Honestly express how you are feeling spiritually and the needs that you feel need to be meet by you both so that you can both grow in your relationship. Ask probing questions and not hypothetical questions.

Prayer: -In everything it is important to commit to prayer independently and together for God's input into your circumstances and to talk with God and not at God. It is also important to listen to God and what He may be saying to you/both. A bit like your conversation with your partner.

Sorry, I cannot give any wisdom without a face-to-face interaction with you. PM's do not cut it and are often too slow to develop the trust that is needed to give wise counsel.

I hope that the above will help you both to grow together in your respective walk together with God. Let God take you hands and guide you in His pathways for your lives together.

Shalom

 

[Lambano]

Pray that I stay strong through uncertain times and don't give way to fear.

Uh oh. I said a prayer for you, hubby, and Naomi.

 

[CadyandZoe]

Pray that I stay strong through uncertain times and don't give way to fear.

Also, is someone willing to pm me who could offer advice? If you have any wisdom in the area of marriage/finances/giving, I could really use that wisdom right now.

Wynona,
You are loved dear sister. Rest in him and take all your cares to him. Hold on to what you know is real. Keep your eyes on things above. And always be your wonderful self. :)

Heavenly Father,
Please give our sister Wynona strength to endure these trying and uncertain times and bless her with new insights to guide her and others in our walk. Please allow her to remain a good example for us to follow, leading the way with love and care and a good heart. Please give our sister wisdom, as James has said, when and where she needs it, coming right in on time just as you always do. Take care of our sister and let her light continually shine in this dark world as a lighthouse leads the way home. Thank you heavenly father as I know you always hear me when I pray.

In Jesus' name.

 

[Jay Ross]

@Wynona

I still stand by what I wrote above in my previous post in this thread. You need advice but the picture is bigger than what you have asked help for: -

If you have any wisdom in the area of marriage/finances/giving, I could really use that wisdom right now.

Relatives believe that they have a right to give advice. It sounds like you and your husband need to set the boundaries that the relatives should not cross with respect your life, marriage and mothering responsibilities.

With that being said, they can be really helpful if they help you with the new role that you find yourself in with the baby by encouraging you in your role of being a new mother. Their help should be to burb the baby, to rock the baby off to sleep, to wash up and to clean the house, chores that get in the way of you looking after a new baby and you actually getting some rest while adjusting to the new regime of being a new mum.

You and your husband need to be united in the boundaries that you set for the other people in your lives.

Shalom

 

[Nancy]

Praying for you sister, your life has turned a new leaf, God sees ahead and I pray you will be able to rest in His provisions and thank Him. He will keep you stronger than you think you are.
xoxo

 

[APAK]

Marriage: - never give up on what God has joined together. There was a reason for God to put you both together. The relationship dynamic between you and your husband has radically been impacted through the birth of your daughter and there is a need for you all to start normalising your dynamic now that there are three people in this new relationship equation.

Finance: - The best advice is to never spend any money on a whim if it will have an impact on your future spending needs to live day in day out. In other words, have a plan of how you will manage your finances so that you will meet your long-term goals for your lives together. The plan must be flexible in that it should have some fluidity in its structure to be able to cope with the occasional curve ball that may come your way so that your long-terms plans can still come to fruition at some point down the track of your journey through life.

Giving: - When you tithe you are trusting that God will enable you to be able to meet your day to day needs without regretting your tithe to Him. Tithing is God's way of teaching people how to be fully dependent on Him at all times as you observe God helping you to make the right calls on financial matters through your life choices that bring glory to Him.

Communication: - In every relationship being able to talk together is important. It requires that we each are able to listen to the other person's thoughts, needs and expectations without reacting negatively. Learn how to ask questions that draws an expansion from the other person as they develop and formulate their ideas, on the fly so to speak, into a better formulated proposal of action together. Inquire how their ideas will help both, involved in the discussion, to progress to a solution where both parties can be drawn into God's purposes. Inquire of the other how they are feeling spiritually in the circumstances that is being experienced by you both. Honestly express how you are feeling spiritually and the needs that you feel need to be meet by you both so that you can both grow in your relationship. Ask probing questions and not hypothetical questions.

Prayer: -In everything it is important to commit to prayer independently and together for God's input into your circumstances and to talk with God and not at God. It is also important to listen to God and what He may be saying to you/both. A bit like your conversation with your partner.

Sorry, I cannot give any wisdom without a face-to-face interaction with you. PM's do not cut it and are often too slow to develop the trust that is needed to give wise counsel.

I hope that the above will help you both to grow together in your respective walk together with God. Let God take you hands and guide you in His pathways for your lives together.

Shalom

All great points although tithing and giving do not mix for me. This tithing is deceptive tool used by the 'church.' It is a traditional misapplied view of scripture by brick and mortar 'churches' to deceptively sell its members that they are giving to God's work by 'tithing.' In essence it really support and pays some of the lavish lifestyle or the unnecessary discretionary spending of the church organization beside paying the utility bills, and church expenses including the pastors wages etc.

 

[MatthewG]

Hope you have found good wisdom.

Idk why these verses always continue to come up

Praise to the God of All Comfort​

3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. 6 If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. 7 And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.

8 We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters,[a] about the troubles we experienced in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself. 9 Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. 10 He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, 11 as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many.

 

[amadeus]

Pray that I stay strong through uncertain times and don't give way to fear.

Also, is someone willing to pm me who could offer advice? If you have any wisdom in the area of marriage/finances/giving, I could really use that wisdom right now.

Praying for you and your family.

 

[Jay Ross]

All great points although tithing and giving do not mix for me. This tithing is deceptive tool used by the 'church.' It is a traditional misapplied view of scripture by brick and mortar 'churches' to deceptively sell its members that they are giving to God's work by 'tithing.' In essence it really support and pays some of the lavish lifestyle or the unnecessary discretionary spending of the church organization beside paying the utility bills, and church expenses including the pastors wages etc.

I understand your concerns about tithing, but the reality is that tithing is just a fancy name for giving to God. How a person gives/tithes to God is between that person and God. My example is that my wife and I give 5% of our income divided between two churches and nearly another 20% during this last year to meet the needs in third world countries to see God's kingdom grow in those places. How a person gives is between that person and God and it should be done to give glory to God.

Your post and this post are off topic IMHO. Because I live on the other side of the world, I presented in my first post the wisdom that I live by as a guide for @Wynona to consider. It was not prescriptive as to how they were to follow what I had posted.

The advice I gave in my second post above was probably closer to the mark of what she needs at this moment, after reading other posts of Wynona's in other thread topics.

Shalom

 

[Angelina]

Pray that I stay strong through uncertain times and don't give way to fear.

Also, is someone willing to pm me who could offer advice? If you have any wisdom in the area of marriage/finances/giving, I could really use that wisdom right now.

Praying for you sister! Blessings and Peace to you and your's xox

 

[Raccoon1010]

Praying for you @Wynona. God ordains marriage and child raising. I know he supports you in that and is ready to help.

 

[Wynona]

Thank you for praying! I feel a higher sense of responsibility and spiritual warfare but I had a great weekend and today has been wonderful. I appreciate the prayers, advice, and encouragement.

The baby is sleeping away at the moment and I got some major housework done. Now it's time for a break.

I love you guys!

 

[Wynona]

I read Psalm 37 to baby Naomi today. It is about trusting the Lord. I am feeling encouraged to trust the Lord and not be afraid of what I face.

 

[Jay Ross]

@Wynona

Sounds like the shaking in your life is normalising now and you can get on with living your life in the way that God intends you to.

Shalom