I think, maybe, we're still not quite on the same page. My point was that sure, SOME churches and Christians 'rank' sin, but a lot do not, and I feel like you're in danger of lumping us all together. I truly do not see one sin higher than another, and I know many people and churches who feel that way too, it is, after all the Biblical approach.
But my fear is, that in response to those who do rank and label, some churches and Christians are going too far the other way and finding some sins 'acceptable sins', if you follow me. If we are going to be truly Biblical and say all sin is equal, we must also follow it when it says that ALL sin is declaring ourselves enemies of God. That is why I'm holding so tightly to the concept that ANY sinner who is repentant and fighting against their nature with Christ's grace covering them, that they will be saved. But those who are unrepentant, who do not fight and do not see the need to, even if they claim Jesus as their own, I do not believe they are saved, they are in no way showing they have a new heart and nature. The hope of course is that they will see the need and come to Jesus, so we should still invite them, but to cloud the issue by making them think we are okay with their attitude....well, that would be like putting beer in front of an alcoholic, or chocolate in front of a glutton!