If a man, who claims to be a follower of Christ routinely beats his wife severely, should she routinely submit to him in obedience?
Blame man first policy eh?
The main point in the main post I made is that
God's favor comes after obedience. Stop making excuses for some Christians to not obey God in obeying/submitting/respecting/putting their husband first (just because these Christians are female). The last verse in Ephesians 5 is the key to a good marriage.
If you read the relevant Scripture, marriage is a
covenant. It means, from a Biblical perspective, marriage is not a
contract, conditional on the other side fulfilling their side of the obligation. By definition, a covenant means you take on the burden to fulfill your responsibility
regardless of what the other side does.
The idea that there are all these men out there routinely and severely beating their wives is ridiculous. However, most married men I know admit it is very rare for their wives to be respectful of them and admit they are wrong. This is so common, Dr Laura wrote a book on the topic,
The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands.
When I was back in the dating scene women online hated this book with a passion. One even called it 'the worst relationship book I ever read.' I pointed out that the book is NOT a relationship book. It is a list of responsibilities women have in marriage. Most woman hate the subject of what they are responsible for. This is why they do not receive God's favor as they could. This is born out by evidence. Studies show women today, more liberated (read: less obedient) are less happy than women of the 1950's. I thank God for my wife. She is fond of saying we were made to cooperate, not to compete.
So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians 5:33 (NLT)