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Hi Neostarwcc,
Thanks for your openness, yes, your post did come across in a slightly negative way , but it’s good that you have balanced that out. My response was aimed at that ...... xx
When I was going through my divorce I joined an online support group for Christian women, there wasn’t an awful lot of understanding around for the deep pain and grief that is caused when a marriage breaks down - I eventually came to be part of the ministry team, we had members from all round the world - it was through that ministry that I discovered many who had Christian husbands, many in ministry, who were addicted to porn. Equally the issue of adultry and abuse came up. So it was to emphasize that it happens , that not all Christian men treated their wives good, and I might say that some of the perpetrators in bringing marriages down were women as well ( so we are not always good wives either - I also had to do a lot of soul searching as well after the divorce - so I am not sitting here in an ivory tower - I didn’t have affairs, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t contribute to the issues that led to my ex being unfaithful )
I totally agree that the majority of Christian men are not like that - and many get that balance right within their marriage, I do however believe that their are equally many men who assert the wrong kind of power , and often use scripture to wield it........ so I do believe that scripture aimed at husbands should be equally examined and discussed .......... your post came across in a way that didn’t think it was needed, hence why I spoke up xx
Sorry for what your sister went through - it’s a horrible road to travel, but one that God can and does heal from - yes, my ex was a bit of a kid as well, but so was I at times - but we made our peace with each other before he died last December. Xxxx
I appreciate your openness - it makes for a better prospective x
Rita
Thanks for your openness, yes, your post did come across in a slightly negative way , but it’s good that you have balanced that out. My response was aimed at that ...... xx
When I was going through my divorce I joined an online support group for Christian women, there wasn’t an awful lot of understanding around for the deep pain and grief that is caused when a marriage breaks down - I eventually came to be part of the ministry team, we had members from all round the world - it was through that ministry that I discovered many who had Christian husbands, many in ministry, who were addicted to porn. Equally the issue of adultry and abuse came up. So it was to emphasize that it happens , that not all Christian men treated their wives good, and I might say that some of the perpetrators in bringing marriages down were women as well ( so we are not always good wives either - I also had to do a lot of soul searching as well after the divorce - so I am not sitting here in an ivory tower - I didn’t have affairs, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t contribute to the issues that led to my ex being unfaithful )
I totally agree that the majority of Christian men are not like that - and many get that balance right within their marriage, I do however believe that their are equally many men who assert the wrong kind of power , and often use scripture to wield it........ so I do believe that scripture aimed at husbands should be equally examined and discussed .......... your post came across in a way that didn’t think it was needed, hence why I spoke up xx
Sorry for what your sister went through - it’s a horrible road to travel, but one that God can and does heal from - yes, my ex was a bit of a kid as well, but so was I at times - but we made our peace with each other before he died last December. Xxxx
I appreciate your openness - it makes for a better prospective x
Rita