Our conscience tells us more truth than our mind often. God's Law is written in our heart...conscience? What we do is try to use our mind to reason with our conscience...in order to get it to agree with our will...which is usually not God's. God's Law will not bend, and we keep trying to make it do so, so we can justify our wants.I've tried it plenty myself. Everytime...I found my own will to be working against me. Here's a key Truth...God's voice will "never" lead us to a place of regret. But our own desires will! God isn't directing us toward right in order to make us sad and empty....but listen intently...the ways that God leads you "Are" the ways to "Your"....highest joy, wholeness, fullfillment!Sister...Make God your husband first! Walk by faith and not by sight...never surrender serving God in your life, never surrender your first love...not for anything...not for any man. God provides husbands after his own heart...if we let him lead our life and.....choices.You might give the guy a chance...and I say a chance....stand for something...like who you are and for your Savior...who is and always will be the greatest and most faithful husband....be a follower or be a leader? Lead others to God or follow others away from God?If God is in you, then You are the leader...as a woman this is how I have and do look at it...if you love me, Jesus is part of me, if you can't accept Jesus, and can't respect or follow him, then you can't love me, because he and me are one. If you despise him by chance, you will end up despising me...when the honeymoons over....because then you will see me as I really am...which is not what any man might perceive me to be in his own eyes or desires...but I am God's girl, and it will show if it aint now...when the dawn comes.My lady, "Do not fear"....any losses when God is your God! The minute you stand for him and say....give up or lose something you want....that say wasn't really the real gold...he will turn and reward you by giving you the real....Gold. But give the guy a chance...not by pestering him...and demanding answers right now that you want....but by being true to who you are and letting it shine...be seen and known...Funny....every man I've encountered had to endure my preaching...some couldn't take it...one "tried" to conform in order to keep me...but I could feel he was insincere....I could "feel" God pulling me away from him...and do thank God today he succeeded! because I loved the guy....but today...I have a man who has turned out to love me "like" Christ loves the church! He listens and hears God and is even sort of a father to me in that he knows who I am in God and supports me in the ways that God desires...How do you really know what the guy would think or do? If you havn't let the light shine to him? You don't know what God might do. Mine came over one night after alot of our "discussions" and asked me to pray with him...he surrendered his life....I was immovable about my faithfulness to God...I wasn't going to marry any man who was going to resist my soul!But then...no man is going to surrender to God just for you...you know it's a personal choice...but you never know when you might be the mediator between someone and Christ....give him a chance...to see and know...not only who you are but who your Father is....If he blatently doesn't want any part of it...then look at it this way...he doesn't know or love the real you...because You are like your Father..Amen. And sister...what do you want with a man who doesn't love the real you? love kim