is doing sexual things with a boyfriend/girlfriend sin...

[lilygrace]

I agree with the fact that one should be careful that it doesn't go too far but I wouldn't call kisses and hugs sins either. French kissing is a little bit iffy,.. but not regular kissing.

but i wasnt saying they were sins. i just think we should be careful. you will know if he is trying to take things too far.

 

[lilygrace]

and another ex, all we did was kiss and stuff.
i dont think it was healthy for me.

 

[Hidden In Him]

do you think my ex gave me a regular kiss? he didnt.
i really cant picture a man and woman giving just a peck anymore. it can skip to heavier kissing rather quickly
the other guy friend was respectful though.

Yes, some are more reserved and have their passions more under control.

But then some men are just more passionate by nature as well. And some have been more pent up.

I hate to make too much fun here, but you just have to laugh at things like this. Even with the ones who are more under control, there can often be this sense of let down if their anatomy thinks things might be going somewhere but then it doesn't....

 

[Hidden In Him]

Even with the ones who are more under control, there can often be this let down if their anatomy thinks things might be going somewhere but then it doesn't.

Kinda like this:

 

[lilygrace]

i believe women can want the same things. for either i think it is wrong to force, coerce or pressure anybody.

 

[Hidden In Him]

i believe women can want the same things. for either i think it is wrong to force, coerce or pressure anybody.

Agreed. I just think the way men want things can be a bit stronger.

As I heard a preacher say one time, "Testosterone is a drug. And you can't trust people on drugs."

 

[TLHKAJ]

It will rebel against it with almost unwavering consistency, so it's usually up to Christian women to set the boundaries in a relationship prior to marriage.

It should be BOTH the Christian man and the woman who set boundaries in a relationship.

 

[lilygrace]

i remember him wanting to kiss me and i said no. i said i wanted to save kissing for my wedding. he told me theres no way i could be like other girls and cornered me.

i had a male friend who said women were just as bad about pressuring a sexual relationship or kissing. i believe him. so no im not attacking men here.

 

[lilygrace]

i liked my other boyfriend but like i said i felt like all we did was kiss and touch. we didnt sin but it seems wrong now that that was all our relationship....lol.

 

[DuckieLady]

I guess if you touch each other but you have boundaries set then you're ok but I'm not sure, what do you all say? I'm not in a rush with these answers, I'm just asking them by the way

Better to not start fires that cannot be put out.

I have my own situations in life, and I'm working on them, but to be honest I am not sure that I believe in the concept of dating. I think this is a modern day thing that we got way too carried away with and it gets us into trouble.

Courting and being together around other people is fine, or in public places. Being alone together will at some point put you in a position you do not want to be in. It will lead to something one way or another.

If you can't hold back then the Bible tells us what to do - better to marry than to burn with passion.

 

[lilygrace]

being in a parked car somewhere at night isnt a good idea.

 

[Hidden In Him]

It should be BOTH the Christian man and the woman who set boundaries in a relationship.

Yes. I'm just saying it is an easier job for the woman, at least from a purely physiological standpoint. But you're right. Both should.

 

[April_Rose]

being in a parked car somewhere at night isnt a good idea.

True, even alone it isn't wise.

 

[Hidden In Him]

If you can't hold back then the Bible tells us what to do - better to marry than to burn with passion.

Precisely, and that is something I think most younger woman don't fully understand: What even their mere appearance can do to men.

She's sitting there in church enjoying the service and thinking she looks pretty, and he's sitting there looking over at her with her legs crossed wearing a short skirt and boots on, and goes...

Forgets the service entirely

 

[DuckieLady]

And as a somewhat older one who made LOTS of mistakes, let me tell you ladies something as a warning, if you lay down and settle for the wrong person and ignore all of the red flags, and you take a risk with the wrong person - if you get pregnant you are stuck with dealing with that person for 18 years and beyond. And abuse in some way will continue.

Get other people's perspective in any relationship and LISTEN. Love is sometimes just infatuation and it can blind you from seeing what everyone else does and it can mess up your life in a BIG way. And birth control is not 100% effective... Trust me.

 

[lilygrace]

True, even alone it isn't wise.

well you're right. but i meant being with someone.

 

[Pearl]

I guess if you touch each other but you have boundaries set then you're ok but I'm not sure, what do you all say? I'm not in a rush with these answers, I'm just asking them by the way

I think you need to touch each other to find out if there is chemistry, especially if you intend to be in a permanent relationship at sometime. A marriage without chemistry would be exceedingly boring.

 

[Hidden In Him]

I think you need to touch each other to find out if there is chemistry, especially if you intend to be in a permanent relationship at sometime. A marriage without chemistry would be exceedingly boring.

How about look into each other's eyes and touch fingertips only : )

If there's real chemistry there, the electricity will probably arc all over the place, LoL.

 

[lilygrace]

i just think men should touch a woman's sash and then friends and romantic suiters should just collect each other's hair.

 

[April_Rose]

Looks like somebody let another lover crash and burn.