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I know that Jesus said that if your hated remember the world hated him first. He also said to expect trouble in this life but take heart because He has over taken the world. But I'm not sure that I'm hated because I'm a Christian. I think I'm hated because people don't like my personality. They don't like how I look. They don't like what I do for a living. They don't like my interests. I'm getting really really tired of it. I'm a looser.
If you obey the Lord's commandments, there is no reason for people to hate you.
 

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Calling yourself a loser is not mentally healthy. What I learned from counseling is from childhood abuse and that is that if someone tells you your stupid enough times eventually you'll believe it. So quit telling yourself your a loser and start telling yourself your a winner.

You have a job and are a productive member of society. But you appear to have socializing problems which could be helped with some counseling. I would advise you to follow thru with good counseling.

And don't hang on to people too tightly, they don't like it. Just be friendly and if someone isn't friendly back don't over analyze it, they could be having a bad day.

I will pray for you.
 

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Calling yourself a loser is not mentally healthy. What I learned from counseling is from childhood abuse and that is that if someone tells you your stupid enough times eventually you'll believe it. So quit telling yourself your a loser and start telling yourself your a winner.

You have a job and are a productive member of society. But you appear to have socializing problems which could be helped with some counseling. I would advise you to follow thru with good counseling.

And don't hang on to people too tightly, they don't like it. Just be friendly and if someone isn't friendly back don't over analyze it, they could be having a bad day.
Good advice here ,plus words of wisdom.
 

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I really wish Jesus would just take me out of this world.

Job and Paul had similar feelings.

“Oh that I might have my request; and that God would grant me the thing that I long for! Even that it would please God to destroy me; that he would let loose his hand, and cut me off!” (Job 6:8-9)

“For I am pressed together by the two: having a desire to depart and to be with Christ, which is far better. But to remain in the flesh is more needful for you.” (Philippians 1:23-24)

Or maybe God is fine with me being broken

“Therefore I am pleased in weaknesses, in insults, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake; for when I am weak, then I am powerful.” (2 Corinthians 12:10)

HANG IN THERE FRIEND!

HANG IN THERE!

“…the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.” (1 Peter 5:9)
 

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I don't think there is anything that can fix me because I'm beyond the point of repair.

Those people are lost and can not be fixed. I know that sounds like I'm limiting God. But the problem is they don't think there is anything wrong with them.
Wow! Total despair is coming across here. You don't sound saved but lost, yourself. Don't you know that our awesome God is a God of redeeming us?

I think I'm hated because people don't like my personality.
Do you like your personality?

Your posts read as though you are 100% extrovert, with your total sense of self coming from being validated by others.

I'm watching a TV called Alone. One of the contestant talked about the psychological aspects of dealing with long term lonliness. He had a sense of humor and quipped that it is easier (to be alone) if you like yourself.

What hobbies do you have? I suggest using the internet to find people near you who share the same hobbies. Having that in common, it would be a more natural foundation to build a positive relationship on. @dev553344 spoke of counseling. I concur. Talk to one you feel comfortable with and explore all this. It's bound to be more fruitful than posting online.

I'll pray for you, my friend.
 
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Life is confusing. Growing up my parents were good to me but none of my peers were. Even the one's who were decent to me didn't stay that way. They say put your past behind you and move on. That would be a lot easier to do if it wasn't for the fact that people in my adult life treat me like crap too. But logically why wouldn't they? Many of them are from my generation and younger. That is why I can't get over this hump. I really wish Jesus would just take me out of this world. Then I wouldn't haft to put energy in trying to fix my feelings. Those people are lost and can not be fixed. I know that sounds like I'm limiting God. But the problem is they don't think there is anything wrong with them. It isn't until you realize that there is something wrong with you that will want something to make you better. If we are talking about sin for example, then you need Jesus. But these people already think they have Jesus.

I don't think there is anything that can fix me because I'm beyond the point of repair. It's time to throw away the old one and buy a new one. But you can pray, maybe God will do something. Or maybe God is fine with me being broken. Maybe God wants me to suffer in this life and then burn in the next. I don't know. I got multiple different versions of God in my head. It all depends on what theology I choose look at Him with.

One thing I thought I might try doing. So far I only wrote the opening sentence. I started writing my story. Talking about all the bad things that people did to me. I thought maybe it would be useful if I ever get a chance to see a counselor.
All I can say is to stay positive, forgive those who trespass against you and count your blessings. Perhaps you should recite the Lord's prayer daily. There are many programs out there like 12 step programs and counseling that are there to help.
 
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“And I said, Oh that I had wings like a dove! for then would I fly away, and be at rest. Lo, then would I wander far off, and remain in the wilderness. Selah.

I would hasten my escape from the windy storm and tempest. Destroy, O Lord, and divide their tongues: for I have seen violence and strife in the city.” (Psalms 55:6-9)
 
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I know that Jesus said that if your hated remember the world hated him first. He also said to expect trouble in this life but take heart because He has over taken the world. But I'm not sure that I'm hated because I'm a Christian. I think I'm hated because people don't like my personality. They don't like how I look. They don't like what I do for a living. They don't like my interests. I'm getting really really tired of it. I'm a looser.
You'll be liked in Heaven, bro!

Let's be hated together, in the meantime!
 
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I wonder if there is a way that a christian counselor can talk to you over the internet, in a chat room or something. You, it seems, are able to write what you feelhere, and your family doesn't see it. Maybe if there is a chat room somewhere you could get counselling then that might do in a pinch.

I found this, maybe it will help:
It is free.


Many people struggle with finances, making it even more challenging for people to pay for mental health counseling. Chatnow is a free app with access to NeedHim’s Christian volunteers around the clock. Unlike some counseling services, the live chats are anonymous, which some individuals may appreciate, especially those who feel shame or guilt about their struggles.
Not all of the counselors at Chatnow are licensed, professional therapists. However, the volunteers offer Bible-based help, answer questions, and provide a listening ear to those who struggle with addictions and those who feel lost, sad, confused, and in pain. The immediacy of 24-hour counseling may be especially beneficial to people who aren’t sure whether to engage in professional therapy.
Most communication between client and therapist at Chatnow is through private online chat, although clients also have an option to email the service and converse in that manner. Counselors provide Christian assistance and hope, seeking to help their clients find peace. Because the service is free, no insurance is necessary. This is a UK-based service, although Americans may use the services too. It works with clients who have concerns about relationships, including LGBT interactions, addictions such as pornography, gambling, drugs, and alcohol, people who are struggling with worry, anxiety, or depression, and those simply feeling lonely or lost.
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I don't think there is anything that can fix me because I'm beyond the point of repair.
Have you considered that perhaps you are not the one that's broken?

I've always been a hermit. Growing up I didn't fit in with the "gang" . I have always been the "outsider" .
I wasn't "accepted" by the other kids.

I think God seperates us for a reason.

I'm watching C-Span Washington Journal this morning, like I do every morning. And today's topic is about climate change.
The "climate" of humanity is hot and angry. Everybody is feeling the effects of "social change" .
This climate change is manufactured between all kinds of people to keep us divided. Is it by divine design? I think some of it is.
Like the seperating of the sheep and the goats, or the good figs and the bad figs.
But you see this narrative being fed daily, your a racist, a nazi, a white supremist, a snowflake, your black, your white, your straight, your gay.
You're too rich, you're too poor. A Jesus fanatic, a satanist.. and on and on it goes.

We are living in very interesting times my friend. It wasn't always like this. People had respect for each other even if they didn't share the same views. Or agree with what they believe to be true. Today you have to pick a side to be accepted by society.
And if you think differently then they can smell your difference even walking in walmart... Peter Strzok.
" Flip to Page 400 of your copy of the IG report for this example, in which Strzok wrote to Page: "Just went to a southern Virginia Walmart. I could SMELL the Trump support...."
LOL
I wonder what that smells like.. haha

We are living in the middle of spiritual warfare. Is it any wonder you feel broken and unloved?
I know it's uncomfortable to be unaccepted by your peers. But what's more important is that you are accepted by the Lord.
Because in the end, that's all that really matters. Everything else is just smoke and mirrors.
Be you and don't let others opinions or attitudes direct your path. Be true to yourself.

I don't know how old you are but I'm 58 and I seen a lot of changes in my life.
And this too shall pass.
Maybe it's not you that needs fixin, just consider that.
Maybe you been seperated for the Lord's purpose and not the worlds.

Just know that you are loved by the only one that really matters.
Hugs

NIV:
1Pe 4:1
Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done with sin.
1Pe 4:2
As a result, they do not live the rest of their earthly lives for evil human desires, but rather for the will of God.
1Pe 4:3
For you have spent enough time in the past doing what pagans choose to do—living in debauchery, lust, drunkenness, orgies, carousing and detestable idolatry.
1Pe 4:4
They are surprised that you do not join them in their reckless, wild living, and they heap abuse on you.
1Pe 4:5
But they will have to give account to him who is ready to judge the living and the dead.

You are not alone.
:D
 
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Lady you write a lot! Chkl: That means I got to print that so that i process what your saying. I have a learning disability and this is how it effects me. It makes it harder for me to concentrate on long writings.
Sorry,
I will try to keep it shorter. I just go with the flow of my thoughts.
I'm a rambler..
rambling on and on and on..
lol
Hugs

In short: Just be you.
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I know that Jesus said that if your hated remember the world hated him first. He also said to expect trouble in this life but take heart because He has over taken the world. But I'm not sure that I'm hated because I'm a Christian. I think I'm hated because people don't like my personality. They don't like how I look. They don't like what I do for a living. They don't like my interests. I'm getting really really tired of it. I'm a looser.
You are not a loser. If people hate you and put you as less than… to me that is being hated for His namesake. Only opinion but if we are overbearing and bashing people with our opinions then maybe the reaction is their hating our overbearing bashing of our opinions. But that doesn’t sound like what you are saying. But instead you are struggling feeling pressure to be something you are not to be accepted. I’ve felt that too. Referring to myself as human-repellent…because I seemed to repell people. But what repelled them was that I’m mediocre or common, nothing bedazzled about me. So what benefit am I to them? I could feel that message all the way to my bones and marrow. But there is one message I wish you would consider and that it is God loves that vulnerable heartbroken part of you because Christ also was rejected mostly because “we didn’t want a Lamb. We asked for a Lion!”
I can be overbearing. Maybe you are too…I haven’t read enough to know why you are so hurt. I’m sorry. But if you are like me the overbearing often comes out from trying so hard to be acceptable. It has helped to reflect on being acceptable unto God. Where He isn’t judging by the appearances, or money, or fame, or being a life-of-the-party. If you look at social media lots of people put on a false facade thinking their truth is too shameful to be exposed. Even high-powered executives that have it together present often a lie that eats them up, where no amount of money or power fills the void. You are not alone. To me you are just pulling off the facade and speaking you are broken, rejected, judged as not good enough of men, and acknowledging it is never enough trying to please this world. To me that is something because you could be puffed up telling yourself and others …there is nothing wrong, I feel nothing.
 
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But the problem is they don't think there is anything wrong with them. It isn't until you realize that there is something wrong with you that will want something to make you better. If we are talking about sin for example, then you need Jesus. But these people already think they have Jesus.
To me that is the point of Paul standing before them saying I’ll be weak that you be made strong(doing what is right and not what is wrong). That the power may be seen to be of God and not men. They also said they had Jesus, but Paul stood there encouraging and provoking them to love(that Christ would be formed in them that lacked), to do what is right and to do no evil. his Hope that they would see and acknowledge the strong ought to support the weak. Paul giving them opportunity to do as they claimed to follow after. You said that won’t ever happen though…to me that is the battle of Faith Paul believing and trusting Him who gives (granted) the Fruit, not their ability but Christ being formed in them. Why plant seed if it (we are certain) that seed will bear no Life in Christ?

The mirror to me is active …some see their own natural face and turn away from it (rejecting going further or continuing)but some look into it and continue therein seeing beyond the vail…to me that says what Paul spoke of that he was walking towards, them with an outstretched hand, entering beyond the vail of the natural face, even with their natural face showing seeing something better (beyond) them… “I am persuaded better things of you” going from glory to Glory in their being established given opportunity of Fruit. Paul walking in Christ stepped into that mirror going from glory to Glory …entering into the holiest of Holy…which was them having Christ formed in them. Paul’s joy of rejoicing “is you” in the presence of Christ. We want to talk about the good fight of Faith. See beyond the natural face and with Faith and Hope in Christ, don’t turn away continuing therein…
 
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To me that is the point of Paul standing before them saying I’ll be weak that you be made strong(doing what is right and not what is wrong). That the power may be seen to be of God and not men. They also said they had Jesus, but Paul stood there encouraging and provoking them to love(that Christ would be formed in them that lacked), to do what is right and to do no evil. his Hope that they would see and acknowledge the strong ought to support the weak. Paul giving them opportunity to do as they claimed to follow after. You said that won’t ever happen though…to me that is the battle of Faith Paul believing and trusting Him who gives (granted) the Fruit, not their ability but Christ being formed in them. Why plant seed if it (we are certain) that seed will bear no Life in Christ?

The mirror to me is active …some see their own natural face and turn away from it (rejecting going further or continuing)but some look into it and continue therein seeing beyond the vail…to me that says what Paul spoke of that he was walking towards, them with an outstretched hand, entering beyond the vail of the natural face, even with their natural face showing seeing something better (beyond) them… “I am persuaded better things of you” going from glory to Glory in their being established given opportunity of Fruit. Paul walking in Christ stepped into that mirror going from glory to Glory …entering into the holiest of Holy…which was them having Christ formed in them. Paul’s joy of rejoicing “is you” in the presence of Christ. We want to talk about the good fight of Faith. See beyond the natural face and with Faith and Hope in Christ, don’t turn away continuing therein…
Love OT where God told them He had given them the promised land and to go in…their response though was fear saying, (paraphrasing) we can’t. there are giants in the land. And we be as mere grasshoppers in (our own) sight. It is a land that devours its inhabitants.
 
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