http://dashhouse.com/2012/07/22/field-guide-for-volatile-topics
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- Not all topics are equal. You can swing at some subjects with a big stick and nobody will care. Other topics require delicate treatment. Learn finesse.
- If you can be misunderstood, you will be misunderstood. Expect that what you say will be taken out of context. Don't be surprised.
- Be aware of stereotypes. Know how people will misconstrue your position, and don't reenforce their mistaken beliefs. If you're Canadian, for instance, don't talk about beavers and wear a Mountie hat. If you're complementarian, don't say anything that could remotely be taken as chauvinist. Some people will build straw men; be careful not to hand them straw.
- Know that you belong to a camp. Some people hate that camp and are waiting for you to say something stupid. Speak accordingly.
- Being a nice guy doesn't count. Your mother, wife, kids, and dog love you; this won't count much for those you offend.
- Show grace to those who criticize you. They won't always deserve it, but neither do you. Show grace anyways.
There are two more, but it's really a blog post worth bookmarking.