What is Modesty Really?

[amigo de christo]

I'll leave it at this. If Jesus is standing there, how would you dress to please Him. Because Jesus is always there.

THAT MY FRIEND IS THE RIGHT answer . What would one do and or wear if JESUS STOOD BEFORE THEM .
this is actaully a good reminder in all things we do . because as you said HE SEES ALL , HE KNOWS
HE is there . that was a nice reminder my friend .

 

[Wynona]

You know it's important for women to be able to be feminine. It really affects our self-esteem and the way we take care of ourselves and others.

Perhaps the men haven't really picked up on that, and I hope @Wynona would agree, but maybe God designed us to be that way because woman was made for the man. Songs of Solomon is full of both appreciating one another's features. God designed us to be that way.

I couldn't have said this better. Yes. the womam was made for the man! Women are naturally attractive because we have obvious differences from men that complement the man.

The only way a woman could even try to get rid of all male attraction would be to erase her feminine features. Its not worth it and that's an actual sin Scripture speaks against.

I would say modesty is more about moderation and self-forgetfulness. As in, look your best and be covered enough, but think no more about it once you're done getting ready.

Trying to measure modesty only with men's reactions puts women in a lose-lose situation. Men simply love to look at women... in general. I do love my sisters who dress drab and plain but they aren't escaping notice from men. Besides, the Proverbs 31 woman wore silk and purple.

 

[BlueNightingale]

I couldn't have said this better. Yes. the womam was made for the man! Women are naturally attractive because we have obvious differences from men that complement the man.

The only way a woman could even try to get rid of all male attraction would be to erase her feminine features. Its not worth it and that's an actual sin Scripture speaks against.

I would say modesty is more about moderation and self-forgetfulness. As in, look your best and be covered enough, but think no more about it once you're done getting ready.

Trying to measure modesty only with men's reactions puts women in a lose-lose situation. Men simply love to look at women... in general. I do love my sisters who dress drab and plain but they aren't escaping notice from men. Besides, the Proverbs 31 woman wore silk and purple.

Yes! Exactly. We're supposed to draw our husband's attention. Never thought about the silk and purple!

I think it's time to go shopping and keep the sweatpants for workouts.

I started wearing sweatpants for comfort after I went up a few sizes larger but honestly, if I tried harder, regular waist bands might feel less restricting, but your verse is inspiring me to put more effort to in romancing Mr. Duck.

Thank you!

 

[Wynona]

I started wearing sweatpants for comfort after I went up a few sizes larger but honestly, if I tried harder, regular waist bands might feel less restricting, but your verse is inspiring me to put more effort to in romancing Mr. Duck.

Thank you!

Enjoy shopping! As far as waist bands, lately Ive been finding more dresses that have a looser waist that are still very beautifuI. I needed them for pregnancy.

Love Olive and Modest Molly are clothing websites that come to mind with dresses like that but thrifting has never failed me.

I've been married nine years and I don't plan to stop looking cute for hubby now. He loved me even when I was chubby and had a horrible short hair cut, so Im happy to looksmax for him. Im just getting started!

Mr. Duck is sure to be pleased! God bless your union!

 

[Kayla McCanny]

I read a book on modesty and was disappointed for purchasing it. It mainly said: it is always a man's fault, wear cute clothes and very as close to nudity as you can and don't feel bad about it especially if the clothes are cute. Majorly disappointing and it was claimed Christian. It also discouraged people about saving their virginity because even people who have lost virginity can have better marriages and divorce rate for Christians is almost the same as non. Unfortunately, many women use all these as an excuse for being unmodest It's a strong hold on their lives.

 

[Wick Stick]

Modesty is using basic consideration for others around you when dressing.

 

[David Lamb]

Modesty is using basic consideration for others around you when dressing.

I would say that modesty applies not only to the way a person dresses, but how they speak and act (I don't mean on a stage or a film/movie set!). The word translated "modesty" in our English bibles has this entry in the Concordance of my bible software:

2157 eushemosune [yoo-skhay-mos-oo -nay]

from 2158; n f;

AV-comeliness 1; 1

1) charm or elegance of figure, external beauty, decorum, modesty, seemliness
1a) of external charm, comeliness

 

[Kokyu]

Three aspects of modesty: Attitude, Appropriateness, and Appearance

Attitude

The heart of a modest woman wants to draw attention and glory to the Lord rather than herself. She does this by letting her looks take a backseat to the good works she does for God (1 Timothy 2:10).

True beauty for the Christian woman comes from a meek and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4).

It isn't good works that make a woman beautiful in the way God intends, but His Spirit in control of a woman and manifesting in her the character of Christ (Ga. 5:22-23; 2 Co. 3:2-3, 18; 4:7-11; Ro. 8:29). Such a woman is a "true beauty" in the highest, best sense.

Appropriateness

The modest woman is not flirtatious with strangers or suggestive in any way outside marriage (Ephesians 5:3) She guards her heart from temptation and refuses to willfully be a temptation to others.

Modest dress is not enough if a woman's actions and way of speaking are immodest.

Modesty acts and dresses in a way that is appropriate for the situation and doesn't seek to show off expensive clothing (1 Timothy 2:9)

But she does all this because she loves God enough to love those whom He loves, even at expense to herself. In being God's hands and heart to all those around her, the godly woman gives no offense in her dress, offers no cause for stumbling to those around her in her attire, as God has called her to do. But this behaviour is the natural and joyful by-product of her fellowship with her holy Maker, not a form she keeps merely in order to be a pious, modest woman. God wants all of our living to be in obedience to His First and Great Commandment, which is to love Him above all else with all we are (Matt. 22:36-38). If this isn't the root motivation for a woman's modesty, her modesty isn't pleasing to God, nor is it spiritually profitable (1 Co. 13:1-3).

Appearance

The reason Christians wear clothes at all is to represent the sacrifice of Christ covering our sin. The first example of this is God replacing the fig leaves Adam and Eve sewed together with animal skins (Genesis 3:21) Animals shed their blood for the skins and their nakedness and shame were covered.

We want our dress to reflect this and not expose our nakedness to the world. There are many modesty standards Christians have convictions on but just sticking with Scripture, we should be sufficiently covered, not seeking to dress like the opposite sex, and practice moderation in how costly the clothes are. Our clothing shouldn't distract from our character or service of others.

This is a joyful way to be set apart for God. It's a beautiful thing to dress like we belong to God's Kingdom and be different from those without Christ.

1 Co. 10:31
31 Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

Matthew 5:16
16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.

There is nothing more beautiful than Christ. We can, then, be no more beautiful than when we reveal him through our living. But we only reveal Christ properly when are constantly submitted to the control of the Spirit of Christ (1 Pe. 5:6; Ja. 4:7; Ro. 12:1; Ro. 6:13-22; Lu. 22:42) who alone can mold us and make us like Christ.

 

[Wynona]

 

[Kayla McCanny]

One is promoting what they wear and do not wear..why do people want to be as close to naked as they can.

 

[Treeline]

I never married because I simply never met a true Christian woman..:)

"A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised"
(from Proverbs 31).

 

[Taken]

What is Modesty Really?

Broadly I would say “Unassuming”.

Generally, people do Not like “being Judged”, unless it be to “their favor”…

Yet, IMO, a large number of people, enter into the public domain, with the “intent” (and weird confrontational behavior of Demand) “to BE favorably judged”…

Scripture:
Matt. 6:
[25] Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?

I tend to think the majority of people put in a “great deal of thought” before appearing in public as to what they will wear. ( As Well, a great deal of thought, as to what they will eat. )

Glory to God,
Taken

 

[Wynona]

I never married because I simply never met a true Christian woman..:)

"A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised"
(from Proverbs 31).

I try to live my life by these verses.

I went from selfish to service minded. God helped me go from ignoring others in need to helping them. I was not trustworthy, now my husband trusts me. I learned how good it is to work at home with willing hands. I went from shopping all the time to hating the idea of wasting money.

I still ask myself how I can help my husband. I have a ways to go. But I love Proverbs 31!