With all due respect, and in love... :)
God is our friend. But is he only our friend? Is he not our Father anymore? How can we not see that both are true?
God is still a Father who scourges (yes, that means whip, and its in the Bible) his children. And he is still the vine from which we could be cut off. We have confidence toward God because he loved us first, and thus we trust in his love. But we also fear him because he is almighty and he punishes and scourges, and we might fail without knowing it.
The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. Christ is not a free one time pass to heaven, Christ is an example and the revelation of who God is, that we might follow him and know him.
God is not into our little evangelical doctrine that says 'say this prayer and you will be saved'. God is looking for a people that will follow him and obey him. He cut off the Jews (most of them) because they didn't listen to his voice, we as Christians should not be proud and think the same could not be of us.
[sup]17[/sup] And if some of the branches were broken off, and you, being a wild olive tree, were grafted in among them, and with them became a partaker of the root and fatness of the olive tree, [sup]18[/sup] do not boast against the branches. But if you do boast, remember that you do not support the root, but the root supports you.
[sup]19[/sup] You will say then, “Branches were broken off that I might be grafted in.” [sup]20[/sup] Well said. Because of unbelief they were broken off, and you stand by faith. Do not be haughty, but fear. [sup]21[/sup] For if God did not spare the natural branches, He may not spare you either.
God is no respecter of persons and doesn't have favorites. If he has called you to him, rejoice, because he has shown you love. But fear also, knowing that the calling is great and favor is deceitfull!