Wife, Serve Your Husband

[Wynona]

There is no "deep purpose" in hard working so that others can stay at home and play all day, for the exchange of "prepared food and clothes".

Yet this is my husband's exact testimony. It was his idea for me to quit working. He values my presence at home now far more than my financial contribution as a working wife.

A stay at home wife and mother does not just "play all day". There's a lot that goes into it when done with excellence. While my life is easier than my husband's, it is not necessarily easy. And the ease does not negate the value of what I do.

When you have to survive with someone in a marriage, there's no point in both of you being equally stressed. There's definitely no satisfaction in it.

There is a difference between gratification and satisfaction. Nothing about exercise is immediately gratifying. But the results bring satisfaction. My husband's work is the same way. He values family and legacy building over an easy life. There is satisfaction in the struggle to survive.

It's like Jesus. Jesus could have remained with the Father in perfect counion and not sacrificed his life as a humble servant on earth. But the Church is Jesus' Bride. The Bride is even worth even death on a cross to be with.

 

[Taken]

One thing I wish I had understood earlier is that marriage is a one flesh union. The two become one. The man leads, the woman supports and follows. The vision is a shared vision from God, not the woman's vision vs the man's or the woman's interest over ot competing with the man's.

The woman is a helpmate and a companion. The man's interests becomes her interests. They live that out together and as he advances, so does she.

If, When… the husband himself IS a helper, a servant, of The LORDS Lord, “Christ the Lord Jesus.”

Chain of Command, so to speak.
All on the Same Page, In Agreement of the LORDS Order and Way.

God bless you.

Glory to God,
Taken

 

[Wynona]

When a wife chooses to respect and serve her husband, it often unlocks trust and cherishment in his heart. From this place of trust, a wife can become her husband's chief advisor.

Many women want to influence their husbands but get the order of things wrong by putting advice ahead of respect and service.

Ironically I have had more influence on how things go by being respectful and humble way more than I ever did by nagging a lot and being critical. A husband who has his wife's respect will often work harder to keep it than a man who has no hope of being respected.

 

[HealthyShape]

Yet this is my husband's exact testimony. It was his idea for me to quit working. He values my presence at home now far more than my financial contribution as a working wife.

A stay at home wife and mother does not just "play all day". There's a lot that goes into it when done with excellence. While my life is easier than my husband's, it is not necessarily easy. And the ease does not negate the value of what I do.

When you have to survive with someone in a marriage, there's no point in both of you being equally stressed. There's definitely no satisfaction in it.

There is a difference between gratification and satisfaction. Nothing about exercise is immediately gratifying. But the results bring satisfaction. My husband's work is the same way. He values family and legacy building over an easy life. There is satisfaction in the struggle to survive.

It's like Jesus. Jesus could have remained with the Father in perfect counion and not sacrificed his life as a humble servant on earth. But the Church is Jesus' Bride. The Bride is even worth even death on a cross to be with.

Specific individuals and couples can arrange their life as they wish and various people see fulfillment in various things, but I see a problem when somebody tries to present is as something "traditional" , "biblical", "patriarchal" or "ideal".

 

[amigo de christo]

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The key is do as unto the LORD . Folks could easily have had joy in doing
whatever they did , being focused upon the LORD and not being so cumbered as was martha .
Just do as do with the JOY of THE LORD . People focus on themselves
when the focus should have been UPON GOD and CHRIST first and foremost
the on the others before even themselves .
He or she whose MIND is STAYED UPON THE LORD has peace . and will have this peace
no matter what cometh against them . FOR THE LORD GOD ALL MIGHTY and THE LAMB , ARE THEIR PEACE and HOPE .

 

[Marvelloustime]

The key is do as unto the LORD . Folks could easily have had joy in doing
whatever they did , being focused upon the LORD and not being so cumbered as was martha .
Just do as do with the JOY of THE LORD . People focus on themselves
when the focus should have been UPON GOD and CHRIST first and foremost
the on the others before even themselves .
He or she whose MIND is STAYED UPON THE LORD has peace . and will have this peace
no matter what cometh against them . FOR THE LORD GOD ALL MIGHTY and THE LAMB , ARE THEIR PEACE and HOPE .

@amigo de christo

 

[Wynona]

Specific individuals and couples can arrange their life as they wish and various people see fulfillment in various things, but I see a problem when somebody tries to present is as something "traditional" , "biblical", "patriarchal" or "ideal".

I am confident about what I believe. It's been fun writing about it. Thanks for the conversation.

 

[amigo de christo]

I am confident about what I believe. It's been fun writing about it. Thanks for the conversation.

To kiss the SON is a good thing .
let us always remember that .
But to kiss the donkey of a well favored harlot , NOT GOOD .
To the trenches sister .

 

[HealthyShape]

I am confident about what I believe. It's been fun writing about it. Thanks for the conversation.

Yes, people are confident about what they believe, frequently. However, objectively, your lifestyle is not traditional, is not required for patriarchy etc.

 

[Wynona]

Yes, people are confident about what they believe, frequently. However, objectively, your lifestyle is not traditional, is not required for patriarchy etc.

What is your view of patriarchy?

 

[Wynona]

Yes, people are confident about what they believe, frequently. However, objectively, your lifestyle is not traditional, is not required for patriarchy etc.

My lifestyle is rooted in Scripture, which makes it traditional. Scripture commands married women to be keepers at home.

Titus 2:3-5
3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

 

[amigo de christo]

What is your view of patriarchy?

Typically when you hear that word g etting t hrown around by folks
it means they sat under liberalism , feminism and scores of o ther isms .
They mig ht be fooling themselves , they might even be fooling many others .
But they fool NOT GOD and they fool not His s heep . TO THE LORD BE THE GLORY SISTER
Let us go out as we came in , FAITHFUL TO THE LORD .

 

[Wynona]

 

[Wynona]

How do I explain how picking up socks and folding clothes can be fulfilling?

It's because you forget about yourself and your negative thoughts entirely, being concerned with who you're serving. It's the blessing of self forgetfulness and it's beautiful. To wake up knowing you're doing things that need to be done for the betterment of your family and those around you is amazing.

 

[amigo de christo]

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many also seem to forget that our weapons are not carnal but spiritual .
that the mission of the church was to spread the one true gospel .
That the kingdom of the church was HEAVENLY not earthen .
Yet many cling to politics on both sides sister . As for me I SHALL CLING TOO CHRIST .
many hope in politics on both sides AS FOR ME MY HOPE SHALL BE IN CHRIST .
For here we have no continuing city , BUT WE SEEK ONE TO COME . Now to the trenches sister .
Your duty is to pray also for the true men that are willing to preach the gopsel , willing to correct bad doctrines .
Pray for those who do the work of THE LORD , OH HIS SPIRIT . The battle line is drawn .
And its a line dividing the earthern from the heavenly . WE must choose the heavenly
and spread that message unto THE EARTHEN in hopes they repent and beleive and become of the heavenly .

 

[Wynona]

"C. S. Lewis captured this truth so beautifully when he wrote:

“The principle runs through all life from top to bottom. Give up yourself, and you will find your real self. Lose your life and you will save it. Submit to death, death of your ambitions and favorite wishes every day, and the death of your whole body in the end: submit with every fiber of your being, and you will find eternal life. Keep back nothing. Nothing that you have not given away will be really yours. Nothing in you that has not died will ever be raised from the dead. Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ and you will find him, and with him everything else thrown in.”
~C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

Living for Christ instead of ourselves is where we find true life. When we cling to self, we lose peace. But when we rest in Him, we gain everything that really matters.

Self-forgetfulness doesn’t mean ignoring our needs. It means trusting God with them so we can love and serve others freely."

From Joy of Self-Forgetfulness by Marci Ferrell

 

[Marvelloustime]

many also seem to forget that our weapons are not carnal but spiritual .
that the mission of the church was to spread the one true gospel .
That the kingdom of the church was HEAVENLY not earthen .
Yet many cling to politics on both sides sister . As for me I SHALL CLING TOO CHRIST .
many hope in politics on both sides AS FOR ME MY HOPE SHALL BE IN CHRIST .
For here we have no continuing city , BUT WE SEEK ONE TO COME . Now to the trenches sister .
Your duty is to pray also for the true men that are willing to preach the gopsel , willing to correct bad doctrines .
Pray for those who do the work of THE LORD , OH HIS SPIRIT . The battle line is drawn .
And its a line dividing the earthern from the heavenly . WE must choose the heavenly
and spread that message unto THE EARTHEN in hopes they repent and beleive and become of the heavenly .

@amigo de christo

 

[Wynona]

 

[Wynona]

One way issue that can prevent a wife from Godly service in marriage is scorekeeping. I say from experience that this is a horrible way to live. When we try to make everything 50/50 and fair, it leads to resentment, bitterness, pride, and plenty of arguing. Life is not fair. Let go of what you think you are owed and give your all with abandon. It is way more fulfilling to know that you are doing what God has called you to do in love, regardless of how you husband responds. I do not keep score of what my husband does around the home. I already know I can never match the sacrifice of his hard work and all the other things he does for me. I simply try to do my best every day, appreciating the gift of being able to take care of my family and do some things in return for what my husband does.

 

[Wynona]