Ever Feel Like Everything You Do Is Wrong?

[April_Rose]

And that you always get blamed for everything? Even though there was an incident that took place on here earlier I'm not talking about that specifically I mean life in general. It always seems like when other people are in the wrong, they're the ones that are getting away with everything but everybody always blames you for it instead. (Like I said, I'm not getting into specifics or naming names or pointing fingers,.. I'm just looking for advice on how to deal with situations like these.)

 

[Truman]

Just yesterday, I thought to myself, "My name is Coates, not Scapegoats."
I'm a nice guy, I try to tolerate others when they don't treat me like they should. A whole bunch of little things add up and one day, I prove that I'm descended from Vikings and Levites. Snap! And then I sing and enter into God's presence. Then I realize I have no idea how deep His goodness is. Then I read, "love is patient, love is kind." Then I crumble. Humbled. Go and be as honest as I can with the person and after a few days, things are back to normal. Am I making any sense?

 

[April_Rose]

Just yesterday, I thought to myself, "My name is Coates, not Scapegoats."
I'm a nice guy, I try to tolerate others when they don't treat me like they should. A whole bunch of little things add up and one day, I prove that I'm descended from Vikings and Levites. Snap! And then I sing and enter into God's presence. Then I realize I have no idea how deep His goodness is. Then I read, "love is patient, love is kind." Then I crumble. Humbled. Go and be as honest as I can with the person and after a few days, things are back to normal. Am I making any sense?

So in other words,.. be patient with other people even when it's difficult?

 

[Truman]

I got exposed to Covid yesterday, firsthand. Three feet and no mask. I told the world yesterday to stop, that I wanted off. It didn't, and I'm still here. :)

 

[Hidden In Him]

Just yesterday, I thought to myself, "My name is Coates, not Scapegoats."

LoL!

@April-Rose: Just look at it like maybe people are on the defensive, so they're trying to find someone else to take things out on. I receive my fair share of rejection and it hurts, but the Lord never allows me to stay in this posture of wanting to rub somebody's nose in it. When all is said and done, the Lord will bring everything into account, and I figure I am better off if I can stay thinking positive about them in hopes that maybe they will come around, see me as a good person again, and we can work together in Christ as friends some day.

Easier said than done, but that's where I'm at these days, and it beats sitting around plotting how you're gonna take somebody apart some day. That's not a happy way to go through life.

 

[Truman]

So in other words,.. be patient with other people even when it's difficult?

Yeah.

 

[April_Rose]

I got exposed to Covid yesterday, firsthand. Three feet and no mask. I told the world yesterday to stop, that I wanted off. It didn't, and I'm still here. :)

Good,.. I'm glad. It's nice to see you still alive and kicking. :)

 

[Truman]

 

[Rita]

Yes I have been in that situation, and felt as you have. It seemed whenever there were issues it was always me that was held to account, but often as not there were failings on both sides but the other side never really got held to account, in some cases they still haven’t. This was more when I was part of a church family. I was open to self examine, or should I say I became more open. For many years I wasn’t ....we learn along the way.
Now , I think, I tend to trust more in Gods knowledge and awareness of people and situations and also that many people haven’t learnt to admit failings or their part on issues, it doesn’t mean they are not aware or don’t know on the inside. Pride gets in the way.
Maybe going through years of unfaithfulness and never really having a heartfelt ‘ sorry ‘ - even when my ex was dying he made excuses to justify his actions. He said sorry but not through the eyes of remorse. However I had forgiven him, so I was not seeking that heartfelt sorry anymore. I could leave it in Gods hands.
Rita

 

[Truman]

I look back on a few times in my life where I think I got caught in a perfect storm.
The end result being the completion of my inner circumcision.
Seeing this, my only response is: thank You, Jesus, for loving me enough to free me from myself. I am blessed! :)

 

[Shattered]

Yes, @April_Rose . I'm always wrong, which is why I'm thankful for Jesus Christ who delivers me from myself. Praise the Lord!

Look on the bright side: there's no shame in telling the truth but the same can't be said for one who lies. I readily admit that I'm wrong but just because I'm wrong, doesn't mean that I'm to blame for everything.

That doesn't stop others from blaming me anyway.

 

[Shattered]

I'll gladly take the blame in your place, @April_Rose . Did something go wrong? Blame Shattered! :)

 

[Raccoon1010]

And that you always get blamed for everything? Even though there was an incident that took place on here earlier I'm not talking about that specifically I mean life in general. It always seems like when other people are in the wrong, they're the ones that are getting away with everything but everybody always blames you for it instead. (Like I said, I'm not getting into specifics or naming names or pointing fingers,.. I'm just looking for advice on how to deal with situations like these.)

I've been flamed and goaded a few times recently, and what I noticed is that the people that did it were paranoid. I had another incident where the person was just rude and probably not paranoid. But what I'm noticing is that paranoid people get on the internet and attack people without warrant.

That said (and I know what you're talking about) watch out for paranoid people and just ignore them. If you engage in conversation with paranoid people it's just more bad coming your way.

If you want to learn more about how paranoid people attack others look into "projection" in psychology.

"Psychological projection is a defense mechanism in which the ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves and attributing them to others.[1] For example, a bully may project their own feelings of vulnerability onto the target, or a person who is confused will project their own feelings of confusion and inadequacy onto other people."

 

[April_Rose]

I'll gladly take the blame in your place, @April_Rose . Did something go wrong? Blame Shattered! :)

No, I'm not like that and you had absolutely nothing to do with it.

 

[Shattered]

I tend to blow it off. The only ones who can get to me are those I know, hence why I tend to be a loner. If I don't know them, the chance of being hurt or tempted to wrath reduces significantly. :)