Where can I find a really shy woman for a relationship?

[Mink57]

If you've been married, and sex has been even a little enjoyable you'd know that it has a binding power, both, physically and emotionally, that brings you back together again and again. That's the joining together of man and wife in marriage. It's not just sex. And it's not just having kids. It's intimacy. Like how the Lord is intimate with his wife, having a 'knowing' relationship with her, not just legally joined to her.

31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” c 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31-32​

If sex is so 'binding' then why do so many people have sex ONCE and never see each other again? If it's so 'binding', why do people get divorced after being married for 30 years, having sex 'x' amount of times during those 30 years?

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Oh Ferris...like I said before, moving out is the most dangerous time for an abused woman. Many times over, that's when the abuser steps UP the abuse...and when most murders happen. It's at the point when he feels like he's losing CONTROL over her.

Yes, I get that. But how is moving out in divorce vs. moving out without a divorce somehow make it better for the abuse victim? I mean, you've been advocating outright divorce in such cases, right?

Even if he starts a new relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean he wants to let go of the first. Especially if there are children involved!

No, it doesn't. You're right. What it means is that him committing adultery as the result of her simply wanting to remove herself from being physically harmed makes it so she can divorce the slob in good conscience before God.

 

[Jane_Doe22]

Oh Ferris...like I said before, moving out is the most dangerous time for an abused woman. Many times over, that's when the abuser steps UP the abuse...and when most murders happen. It's at the point when he feels like he's losing CONTROL over her. Even if he starts a new relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean he wants to let go of the first. Especially if there are children involved!

Which means we should offer the abuse victims (spouse and kids) safety and a place/time to heal. This may also involve getting law enforcement involved.

Not that they should stay with the abuser.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Thank you. In cases of women born into SRA (satanic ritual abuse) and MK Ultra, it isn't "just abuse" but involves satanic ritual/satanic worship and allegiance to the beast system. I know women who want free from that, not wanting to be used in ritual or any other way that helps further the agenda of the elite cult to bring in the antichrist. These are Christian women whose husbands serve the agenda of the elite cult, whose job it is to make sure their wives and children are available and accessible to the cult.

I know it's very sad. I wouldn't condemn a woman in those circumstances for mowing them all down with a submachine gun. I would just look the other way. But that's me. God is the judge of whatever her response is in those circumstances. He knows her and the situation far better than I ever could.

 

[Lambano]

LOL! I'm not uncomfortable, but thank you for being sensitive enough to ask!

I was uncomfortable just asking the question.

(It's a touchy subject.)

 

[Ferris Bueller]

If sex is so 'binding' then why do so many people have sex ONCE and never see each other again? If it's so 'binding', why do people get divorced after being married for 30 years, having sex 'x' amount of times during those 30 years?

You're kidding yourself if you think they do not think about those relationships in their heart and mind. So many people are tormented later in life with desire by thoughts of sex they had with high school sweethearts whom they never married. Sadly, usually after many years of being married to someone else with whom they've had kids. God is not mocked. No one plays around with sex and gets away with it. It's a very powerful thing that God has designed into human relationships.

And I don't think for a moment that people who have been married a long time and get divorced don't pine for the sexual intimacy they once had. It's just that other factors were stronger at separating them than the intimacy of their sex could keep them together. Don't believe me? How many times we've all met someone who is still sleeping with their ex's. Which is a very big danger if you're marrying a divorced person. God has rules and he has them for a reason. The rules of marriage and divorce and remarriage are still to be kept quite literally.

 

[Lambano]

Who says it's "God's intention" to bind a man and a woman together through sex?

Lovemaking produces the chemical oxytocin in both the man and the woman, which promotes a feeling of bonding and intimacy. I strongly suspect God designed it that way on purpose.

 

[TLHKAJ]

I know it's very sad. I wouldn't condemn a woman in those circumstances for mowing them all down with a submachine gun. I would just look the other way. But that's me. God is the judge of whatever her response is in those circumstances. He knows her and the situation far better than I ever could.

Where it came to my daughters who were being taken from my house at night and also being threatened at school, etc, I seriously contemplated sitting outside the house at night with a gun. I would've made it impossible for them to make babies or rape a woman or girl again. It did make them afraid enough to back off.

These are things I've faced in retaliation from the cult for breaking their hold over me. But they do have ways of making good on threats, which they have done many times over ....and that is why I suffer physically with trauma-related conditions. I'm not the only woman who has had to face this type of retaliation.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

If sex is so 'binding' then why do so many people have sex ONCE and never see each other again? If it's so 'binding', why do people get divorced after being married for 30 years, having sex 'x' amount of times during those 30 years?

This reminds me of a story.

I used to do a lot of witnessing in the work place years ago. I worked with this one young fellow who had been with a girl for a while, but they never married. They had been apart for several years. So anyway, he was getting all frustrated about her (I think he'd just broke up with a girl) and was planning on flying from Florida to Colorado (I think) for a quick weekend with her. I seized the opportunity to explain to him how God built this joining force into sex and how we weren't to sin in promiscuity but to have one and only one woman for life. He just kind of stared at the floor with that 'I'm listening' look on his face as I pointed out to him how the truth and reality of this strong sexual connection he had established with her in the past was making it so he had no qualms about dropping $800.00 to fly out to see her to have sex with her. Suddenly, sex was not just this casual thing that we can have whenever we can and with whoever we can. It has a deep bonding quality about it. God designed it that way.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Where it came to my daughters who were being taken from my house at night and also being threatened at school, etc, I seriously contemplated sitting outside the house at night with a gun. I would've made it impossible for them to make babies or rape a woman or girl again. It did make them afraid enough to back off.

These are things I've faced in retaliation from the cult for breaking their hold over me. But they do have ways of making good on threats, which they have done many times over ....and that is why I suffer physically with trauma-related conditions. I'm not the only woman who has had to face this type of retaliation.

Like I say, very difficult circumstances indeed. This demands a trust in God that the rest of us simply have never had to walk in.

I hope I'm not giving the impression that it's okay to hunt them down. I'm not suggesting that at all (I don't think you're saying that, but just to be clear). I'd understand it, but I would never condone it. I would defend a person in those circumstances being trained in the use of firearms and the use of other self defense measures.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Lovemaking produces the chemical oxytocin in both the man and the woman, which promotes a feeling of bonding and intimacy. I strongly suspect God designed it that way on purpose.

Yes, it's great. And a good reason why we should be everything we are supposed to be in marriage so we can continue to enjoy it.

 

[TLHKAJ]

Like I say, very difficult circumstances indeed. This demands a trust in God that the rest of us simply have never had to walk in.

I hope I'm not giving the impression that it's okay to hunt them down. I'm not suggesting that at all (I don't think you're saying that, but just to be clear). I'd understand it, but I would never condone it. I would defend a person in those circumstances being trained in the use of firearms and the use of other self defense measures.

I hear you. And you're right, I wasn't saying I'd hunt them down. I would wait for them to come onto my property and attempt entry into my house. I would have aimed carefully ...not to kill, but to take out a part of the body used to violate women/girls.

 

[Nancy]

Thank you. This is the case for many women. Getting away is not so easy with a psychopathic husband, or else in cases such as I come from (SRA/MK) where there is more than one abuser and they are closely monitored.

You were the first to come to mind when I posted that

 

[TLHKAJ]

Which means we should offer the abuse victims (spouse and kids) safety and a place/time to heal. This may also involve getting law enforcement involved.

Not that they should stay with the abuser.

I think this is a great suggestion in many cases, but in cases involving SRA/MK, cult handlers/abusers (within law enforcement) often get assigned to them and it's not safe.

 

[TLHKAJ]

You were the first to come to mind when I posted that

I sensed it ..... you're the best, my sister.

 

[Lambano]

I hear you. And you're right, I wasn't saying I'd hunt them down. I would wait for them to come onto my property and attempt entry into my house. I would have aimed carefully ...not to kill, but to take out a part of the body used to violate women/girls.

LOL! I was just telling Nancy the other day about my wife (who's not too bad with that Glock) sending a message by shooting a smiley-face pattern into the target's crotch at 8 yards.

Here's where I'm supposed to tell you to always shoot to kill, so that they don't have an opportunity to shoot back. My DP trainers were quite specific on that point. But I still like your idea better.

 

[TLHKAJ]

LOL! I was just telling Nancy the other day about my wife (who's not too bad with that Glock) sending a message by shooting a smiley-face pattern into the target's crotch at 8 yards.

Here's where I'm supposed to tell you to always shoot to kill, so that they don't have an opportunity to shoot back. My DP trainers were quite specific on that point. But I still like your idea better.

Lol ....yeah.

Women have a different way of thinking, I guess. (lol) I have so many thoughts about this. I better not put them here. LOL

 

[TLHKAJ]

While we're on the subject of men and women ... I've watched this probably 20 times, and it cracks me up every time! lol
@Lambano
https://youtube.com/shorts/m4i6R4wTGtE?feature=share

 

[Mink57]

Yes, I get that. But how is moving out in divorce vs. moving out without a divorce somehow make it better for the abuse victim? I mean, you've been advocating outright divorce in such cases, right?

The whole point of an abuse victim getting away from their abuser is to GET AWAY. Permanently.

1. Not all states offer legal separation as an option. Even if they don't, and you move out of the house, you're still considered to be married. That means that your abusive spouse would still be entitled to certain financial aspects, such as, depositing a joint tax refund into a joint account...and then closing that account, retaining the money for themselves.
2. If legal separation is offered, it still costs money to process, just as a divorce would. And, if later you decide to divorce, it will cost MORE money.
3. Like I said above, a legal separation doesn't dissolve the marriage. While you may be considered legally separated, you're also still considered to be legally married. An abuser can use that status to his advantage...and to the detriment of the victim.

No, it doesn't. You're right. What it means is that him committing adultery as the result of her simply wanting to remove herself from being physically harmed makes it so she can divorce the slob in good conscience before God.

Abusers are notorious for cheating.

Like I mentioned before, God is more merciful than we can imagine. He already knows that if most of us are in an abusive situation, we probably struggled for years about the 'sinful' nature of divorce, before deciding to do so.

Just like we are told, "Thou shall not kill", we also understand that there ARE times when 'killing' is o.k. Like you mentioned, self-defense.

As far as I'm concerned, if I divorce and abuser, I'm doing so out of self-defense. The letter of the law is important. But the spirit of the law can be equally important.

The spirit of the law is what Jesus was trying to teach us.

 

[TLHKAJ]

As far as I'm concerned, if I divorce and abuser, I'm doing so out of self-defense.

Another thing to consider is that staying with an abuser enables them to continue in a sinful behavior. If possible to leave, it can be a very loving thing to do to leave them to deal with their issues between them and God.