Actually Ron, the bride (elect) is here at the end of the tribulation, in fact they are the reason the tribulation is cut short, on their account according to Jesus at Mat 24:22. Only the bride comes to life upon their resurrection Rev 20:6 therefore those who are not raptured will not receive the reward of everlasting life until the end of the thousand years Rev 20:5. Destiny is a misappropriate word sir, that would imply we do not have free will in our choices.
No the bride is in heaven as it explicitly says in Rev. 19:
Revelation 19
King James Version
19 And after these things I heard a great voice of much people in heaven, saying, Alleluia; Salvation, and glory, and honour, and power, unto the Lord our God:
2 For true and righteous are his judgments: for he hath judged the great whore, which did corrupt the earth with her fornication, and hath avenged the blood of his servants at her hand.
3 And again they said, Alleluia And her smoke rose up for ever and ever.
4 And the four and twenty elders and the four beasts fell down and worshipped God that sat on the throne, saying, Amen; Alleluia.
5 And a voice came out of the throne, saying, Praise our God, all ye his servants, and ye that fear him, both small and great.
6 And I heard as it were the voice of a great multitude, and as the voice of many waters, and as the voice of mighty thunderings, saying, Alleluia: for the Lord God omnipotent reigneth.
7 Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.
8 And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints.
these events occur before the first resurrection of Rev. 20 and occur in heaven. Jesus returns after the wedding takes place.