I feel guilty for being happy

[Wynona]

A big reason I stopped posting on Facebook is because I think people feel that happy people are obnoxious, bragging, or fake.

I feel like when Im blessed, happy, and content on most days, people don't want to hear about it. They'd rather hear about something going wrong in your life.

I was a cheerful kid, mostly cheerful teenager, and have become a happy adult. God taught me how. He taught me to always move forward, to forgive myself, to live in wisdom, and to thank Him and praise Him. He taught me to be a better wife and a better person.

To be honest, when I consider the goodness of the Lord in my life, the tears just appear. He has given me purpose and taught me how to live.

I almost get the feeling like some people guard their misery very carefully and they get upset at anything that might suggest that their attitude could improve. So I often hold back how I actually feel, not wanting to provoke those people.

 

[Matthias]

I feel bad that you feel guilty. I don’t see anything in what you’ve written that should cause you to feel guilty.

I’d like for you to consider this thought:

Self-inflicted wounds are more painful for me than are wounds inflicted on me by others.

I don’t know if that will resonate with you or not. It does with me.

 

[Pearl]

A big reason I stopped posting on Facebook is because I think people feel that happy people are obnoxious, bragging, or fake.

I feel like when Im blessed, happy, and content on most days, people don't want to hear about it. They'd rather hear about something going wrong in your life.

I was a cheerful kid, mostly cheerful teenager, and have become a happy adult. God taught me how. He taught me to always move forward, to forgive myself, to live in wisdom, and to thank Him and praise Him. He taught me to be a better wife and a better person.

To be honest, when I consider the goodness of the Lord in my life, the tears just appear. He has given me purpose and taught me how to live.

I almost get the feeling like some people guard their misery very carefully and they get upset at anything that might suggest that their attitude could improve. So I often hold back how I actually feel, not wanting to provoke those people.

There are so many people like that Wynona, people who can't seem to help but see the negative side of everything. Many years ago a friend who later became a pastor showed me that negativity is a curse.

Deuteronomy 30:19
I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.

 

[Wynona]

I feel bad that you feel guilty. I don’t see anything in what you’ve written that should cause you to feel guilty.

I’d like for you to consider this thought:

Self-inflicted wounds are more painful for me than are wounds inflicted on me by others.

I don’t know if that will resonate with you or not. It does with me.

Yeah, I guess not posting and the times I was isolated is worse than any response I might have gotten.

 

[Enoch111]

A big reason I stopped posting on Facebook is because I think people feel that happy people are obnoxious, bragging, or fake.

It is a good thing that you abandoned that cesspool. Christians should boycott it. So be happy about that and stay happy. Never feel guilty about it. And it is clear that the joy of the Lord is your strength.

 

[Wynona]

It is a good thing that you abandoned that cesspool. Christians should boycott it. So be happy about that and stay happy. Never feel guilty about it. And it is clear that the joy of the Lord is your strength.

Thank you, Enoch!

 

[Matthias]

Yeah, I guess not posting and the times I was isolated is worse than any response I might have gotten.

Misery loves company.

If someone in misery reaches out to us for help and we turn away from them, that’s something I would feel guilty about.

If someone in misery reaches out to us in order to make us miserable, I would decline the invitation.

 

[Matthias]

The world is a cesspool, and it is the mission field for Christian evangelism.

Let your light shine in the world.

 

[Wynona]

If someone in misery reaches out to us in order to make us miserable, I would decline the invitation

Lol! Well said!

 

[Matthias]

As an environmental engineer, I often found myself working in unpleasant circumstances. I was sent to handle the worst of the worst. I was properly equipped and those who sent me were confident that I could and would do the job when others who could wouldn’t.

A supervisor called me his “Brubaker” - anyone who has seen the movie “The Bridges at Toko-Ri” will understand the reference.

As a Christian, I often find myself working in unpleasant circumstances. …

 

[Helen]

A big reason I stopped posting on Facebook is because I think people feel that happy people are obnoxious, bragging, or fake.

I feel like when Im blessed, happy, and content on most days, people don't want to hear about it. They'd rather hear about something going wrong in your life.

I was a cheerful kid, mostly cheerful teenager, and have become a happy adult. God taught me how. He taught me to always move forward, to forgive myself, to live in wisdom, and to thank Him and praise Him. He taught me to be a better wife and a better person.

To be honest, when I consider the goodness of the Lord in my life, the tears just appear. He has given me purpose and taught me how to live.

I almost get the feeling like some people guard their misery very carefully and they get upset at anything that might suggest that their attitude could improve. So I often hold back how I actually feel, not wanting to provoke those people.

Amen! That is what it is all about.

Even when things aren’t always going right for us, we can still have that deep down joy of the Lord.
It even says “ count it all joy when you fall into many temptations ..knowing this , that the trial of your faith workrth patients .

its Him that does the work in us,

The reason you feel happy is because you are obviously aware of the presence of the Lord .
“ in His presence is fullness of joy.”

Some receive the word/seed with joy, but fail to keep it watered ..and the roots wither up…( the Sower) ..but His presence is the water that keeps the seed growing into full fruit . x

 

[Blue Dragonfly's]

Never let unhappy people steal your joy. If you do they win in making you one of them.

Unhappy people have no idea what it is to be happy.

Can't you ignore unhappy trolls on Facebook? Stop them! Don't let them stop you. :)

A big reason I stopped posting on Facebook is because I think people feel that happy people are obnoxious, bragging, or fake.

I feel like when Im blessed, happy, and content on most days, people don't want to hear about it. They'd rather hear about something going wrong in your life.

I was a cheerful kid, mostly cheerful teenager, and have become a happy adult. God taught me how. He taught me to always move forward, to forgive myself, to live in wisdom, and to thank Him and praise Him. He taught me to be a better wife and a better person.

To be honest, when I consider the goodness of the Lord in my life, the tears just appear. He has given me purpose and taught me how to live.

I almost get the feeling like some people guard their misery very carefully and they get upset at anything that might suggest that their attitude could improve. So I often hold back how I actually feel, not wanting to provoke those people.

 

[Wynona]

Never let unhappy people steal your joy. If you do they win in making you one of them.

Unhappy people have no idea what it is to be happy.

Can't you ignore unhappy trolls on Facebook? Stop them! Don't let them stop you. :)

It's not so much internet trolls stopping me. I just criticize my own thoughts and keep thinking, "no one wants to hear that."

If I weren't like this, Id post a lot about kindness, happiness, and joy.

 

[dhh712]

A big reason I stopped posting on Facebook is because I think people feel that happy people are obnoxious, bragging, or fake.

I feel like when Im blessed, happy, and content on most days, people don't want to hear about it. They'd rather hear about something going wrong in your life.

I was a cheerful kid, mostly cheerful teenager, and have become a happy adult. God taught me how. He taught me to always move forward, to forgive myself, to live in wisdom, and to thank Him and praise Him. He taught me to be a better wife and a better person.

To be honest, when I consider the goodness of the Lord in my life, the tears just appear. He has given me purpose and taught me how to live.

I almost get the feeling like some people guard their misery very carefully and they get upset at anything that might suggest that their attitude could improve. So I often hold back how I actually feel, not wanting to provoke those people.

Oh, dear-- don't feel guilty about being happy! If the Lord is blessing you you honor him by enjoying those blessings! Before my husband unexpectedly passed away, I was as happy as I could be in this life -- and I actually felt guilty if I was feeling down some days because there was absolutely no reason in the world for me not to be happy.

Now I'm not so much happy here in this world since the Lord called him home. But I am content in Jesus. Savor the happiness here while you can. God does not promise us temporal blessings and what you have today may be gone tomorrow as I found out.

 

[Wynona]

Oh, dear-- don't feel guilty about being happy! If the Lord is blessing you you honor him by enjoying those blessings! Before my husband unexpectedly passed away, I was as happy as I could be in this life -- and I actually felt guilty if I was feeling down some days because there was absolutely no reason in the world for me not to be happy.

Now I'm not so much happy here in this world since the Lord called him home. But I am content in Jesus. Savor the happiness here while you can. God does not promise us temporal blessings and what you have today may be gone tomorrow as I found out.

I understand. I'm sorry for your loss. A good husband can really help with happiness. I'm sure you miss him a lot.

To be as happy as you can in this life is a tremendous blessing. I don't treat it lightly.

 

[farouk]

Hi @Wynona Paul in Philippians 4.4 does exhort people to rejoice always......... :)

No need to feel guilty about rejoicing.......

 

[farouk]

Oh, dear-- don't feel guilty about being happy! If the Lord is blessing you you honor him by enjoying those blessings! Before my husband unexpectedly passed away, I was as happy as I could be in this life -- and I actually felt guilty if I was feeling down some days because there was absolutely no reason in the world for me not to be happy.

Now I'm not so much happy here in this world since the Lord called him home. But I am content in Jesus. Savor the happiness here while you can. God does not promise us temporal blessings and what you have today may be gone tomorrow as I found out.

@dhh712 Like I mentioned, above, there is Philippians 4.4......

 

[Pearl]

Never let unhappy people steal your joy. If you do they win in making you one of them.

Unhappy people have no idea what it is to be happy.

Can't you ignore unhappy trolls on Facebook? Stop them! Don't let them stop you. :)

I don't accept friend requests from people I don't know. And if they keep posting negative stuff I 'snooze' them for 30 days.

 

[farouk]

I don't accept friend requests from people I don't know. And if they keep posting negative stuff I 'snooze' them for 30 days.

Maybe a good idea, @Pearl..........

 

[farouk]

Thanks for the 'like', Pearl...