Maybe not, brother...
Maybe not.
I want to apologize for getting off the subject of forgiveness in practice. Still, I believe from my time with the Lord that by practice listening to the Lord is how we get the teachings we need on forgiveness, and also vengeance as brought up.
Let me give a couple of examples:
When I helped in the healing ministry the Lord had me in for five years; I learned the importance of talking to and listening to the Lord while working in that ministry. Now everyone working in that ministry would come to know the importance of "Forgiveness" pretty quickly. Indeed some working there would tend to make it a rule to start ministering by leading the person coming in for healing through forgiveness. In fact the church had the healing ministry I was in and also a deep healing ministry and in that they did make it a rule to cover forgiveness. Yet from my experience that was not what should have been done.
I always made it about hearing the Lord for instructions first and foremost. Yeah, He so often asked me to lead the person through forgiveness, but not always!!!! What we always did was try and hook them up with the voice of the Lord!! Sometimes they seem to need to forgive others before they could hear from Him and get their healing, but not always.
Indeed, since Christians were coming in, many already had a habit of generally forgiving others - which reminds me of you and what you write. And it is written that if we harken to His voice and keep His commands He will heal our land, so forgiveness is not part of that statement.
Ex 15:26 and said, “If you diligently heed the voice of the LORD your God and do what is right in His sight, give ear to His commandments and keep all His statutes, I will put none of the diseases on you which I have brought on the Egyptians. For I
am the LORD who heals you.”
So while forgiveness is important, the foremost thing is to practice hearing His voice, even to find out who and if we need to forgive others!!! And I put it out that by practice, even when it comes to finding out where forgiveness comes into out lives, is the practice of hearing His voice!
Heb 5: 12,13 For everyone who partakes
only of milk is not accustomed to the word of righteousness, for he is an infant. But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil.
So our practice is of using our spiritual senses, and that will lead to forgiveness, right?
Another thing we miss when we say something like:
Forgiveness is not seeking personal vengeance
Is that Jesus on the cross
was not just avoiding taking personal vengeance!! He was asking the Father to forgive them, which is something beyond just saying 'Father I forgive them' - which would what is said if we are avoiding taking personal vengeance.
Jesus said "Father forgive them", not "Father I forgive them" He was in fact trying to kept the Father's righteous vengeance off of us!!!
Indeed, from what I saw, even in the better Christian ministries, they promote saying, "Father I forgive them" as opposed to praying, "Father forgive them."
It is such a small difference, but is it not a massive difference!! The first should keep our desire to have them held responsible (our vengeance) off them, but the second should help keep the Father's desire to have them held accountable off them!!
Therefore God's Salvation (Jesus Christ) has a better prayer than our prayer, right?
I had missed that most of my time as a Christian, and I did not see the little difference from the teachings coming from other people at the church. That was one of many little things, that turn out to be massive, from actually seeking the Lord and hearing from my Teacher and Saviour (Jesus Christ)
So if we are talking about "in practice", as mentioned in the OP - a conversation about the importance of hearing the Lord, even about forgiveness, is critical!