I am battling deep depression because I rarely hear from my children

[RepentingChristian]

Hopefully, yours will come around too.

Thanks for your heartfelt message. For some reason some people are indifferent about their parents, siblings, and children. It's very sad. I know I must focus my thoughts, cares, and energies on those who WANT to be close to me and to grow closer to God while praying for my children, particularly my son. Thank you again.

 

[rockytopva]

Ten years ago my dad called... And he wants to stay... For how long I ask? For good he replies. I then found myself in the decade long challenge of taking care of someone in his eighties. With no help at all from family. Well... My dad dies... My sisters get wind of it... And now everyone is a tight family.... Until they heard he willed his entire inheritance to me. Now I am back by myself... Until my sisters need something.


So.... We are in the same boat! I remember the old hymn... We will work until Jesus comes and then be gathered home!

 

[amigo de christo]

Ten years ago my dad called... And he wants to stay... For how long I ask? For good he replies. I then found myself in the decade long challenge of taking care of someone in his eighties. With no help at all from family. Well... My dad dies... My sisters get wind of it... And now everyone is a tight family.... Until they heard he willed his entire inheritance to me. Now I am back by myself... Until my sisters need something.


So.... We are in the same boat! I remember the old hymn... We will work until Jesus comes and then be gathered home!

People do as people do
Sheep do as JESUS bids them to do .
Marvel not at the wickedness of man . For within the heart of man lies much evil .
And my oh my how man would marvel if he could see but the evil within his own self .
People do as people do . SHEEP DO as JESUS bids them do .
In the heart of man lies much wickedness
from even his youth and upwards .
OH i say in the heart of man lies much much wickedness indeed .
Oh how the time has been and now is to return to the scriputures , to submit to THAT GOD
HIS CHRIST , HIS SPIRIT , HIS WORDS .
There is not a man or a woman one who be without sin .
And budda
and muhammed
and any other ism cannot save or change the heart of man . JESUS CAN . but jesus cannot .
Thus let us all learn of THE BIG J and not the little j . for that , WE GONNA HAVE TO OPEN us a bible
and start seeing do we follow J or j , JESUS or jesus , GOD or another god .
BIG REASON i just wrote this .

 

[RepentingChristian]

And my oh my how man would marvel if he could see but the evil within his own self .

Amen. Fortunately the blood of Christ will free me from my bondage to sin, upon my physical death, to which I look forward.

 

[RepentingChristian]

People do as people do . SHEEP DO as JESUS bids them do .

Amen.

 

[ShineTheLight]

My son is 22 and lives in another country. My daughter is 13 and lives far away. My daughter contacts me when she wants something, and I always come through for her. Otherwise I never hear from her. But she's only 13 and so I sort of understand, but it still hurts.

My son and I used to be very close, or so I thought. I try to remember that, when I was his age, my parents were the last thing on my mind. But again, it still hurts.

Have you experienced this? Do you have any advice?

I have reasoned to myself that perhaps God is testing me. Maybe I'm sort of like the father of the Prodigal Son.

Anyway, your helpful feedback is appreciated!

Do you know about where Jesus says he came to bring division on the families of the earth? This is something a lot of people, including professed christians, don't want to get into. Mainstream christianity doesn't touch this.

 

[RepentingChristian]

Do you know about where Jesus says he came to bring division on the families of the earth? This is something a lot of people, including professed christians, don't want to get into. Mainstream christianity doesn't touch this.

Thanks. Please feel free to elaborate.

 

[Boaz1982]

My son is 22 and lives in another country. My daughter is 13 and lives far away. My daughter contacts me when she wants something, and I always come through for her. Otherwise I never hear from her. But she's only 13 and so I sort of understand, but it still hurts.

My son and I used to be very close, or so I thought. I try to remember that, when I was his age, my parents were the last thing on my mind. But again, it still hurts.

Have you experienced this? Do you have any advice?

I have reasoned to myself that perhaps God is testing me. Maybe I'm sort of like the father of the Prodigal Son.

Anyway, your helpful feedback is appreciated!

Is he working there or attending college??

Anyway, please don't feel too bad, everyone goes through difficult phases in life. You WILL get through it

 

[Marvelloustime]

People do as people do
Sheep do as JESUS bids them to do .
Marvel not at the wickedness of man . For within the heart of man lies much evil .
And my oh my how man would marvel if he could see but the evil within his own self .
People do as people do . SHEEP DO as JESUS bids them do .
In the heart of man lies much wickedness
from even his youth and upwards .
OH i say in the heart of man lies much much wickedness indeed .
Oh how the time has been and now is to return to the scriputures , to submit to THAT GOD
HIS CHRIST , HIS SPIRIT , HIS WORDS .
There is not a man or a woman one who be without sin .
And budda
and muhammed
and any other ism cannot save or change the heart of man . JESUS CAN . but jesus cannot .
Thus let us all learn of THE BIG J and not the little j . for that , WE GONNA HAVE TO OPEN us a bible
and start seeing do we follow J or j , JESUS or jesus , GOD or another god .
BIG REASON i just wrote this .

@amigo de christo

 

[Taken]

I am battling deep depression because I rarely hear from my children

@RepentingChristian

You can not control an others feelings or time.

Let you own feelings of Love and Missing your Children Be Known…

Text them regularly, short, sweet, with your message of Love and Missing them.
It will gladness to your own heart and theirs.

God Bless you.

Glory to God,
Taken

 

[shepherdsword]

My son is 22 and lives in another country. My daughter is 13 and lives far away. My daughter contacts me when she wants something, and I always come through for her. Otherwise I never hear from her. But she's only 13 and so I sort of understand, but it still hurts.

My son and I used to be very close, or so I thought. I try to remember that, when I was his age, my parents were the last thing on my mind. But again, it still hurts.

Have you experienced this? Do you have any advice?

I have reasoned to myself that perhaps God is testing me. Maybe I'm sort of like the father of the Prodigal Son.

Anyway, your helpful feedback is appreciated!

The way out of depression is to focus on Jesus. Consider his suffering for you and the joy that is to come.

Heb 12:2-3
Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.

Keep your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. Hang the thoughts that depress you on the cross. Consider yourself dead to them:

Col 3:1-3 If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.

Remember that the devil is an accuser. He not only accuses us before the throne. He also accuses God to us. He will say things like "God doesn't love you, if he did he would not let you suffer" Cast such thoughts down. Bring every thought that accuses God captive. A "stronghold" is a house made of thoughts that allows the enemy to have a place in our life. We can actually defend that stronghold by agreeing with the lies. Cast those thoughts down and the stronghold will dissolve and the enemy will flee.

2 Co 10:3-5 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

Speak the truth in your heart. God loves you and gave all to redeem you. Get into the Word. This will set you free:

Jn 8:31-32 Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

Blessings!

 

[amigo de christo]

I am battling deep depression because I rarely hear from my children

@RepentingChristian

You can not control an others feelings or time.

Let you own feelings of Love and Missing your Children Be Known…

Text them regularly, short, sweet, with your message of Love and Missing them.
It will gladness to your own heart and theirs.

God Bless you.

Glory to God,
Taken

The key to a troubled and down trodden spirit
Can be found in the scriptures , in the pslams .
Focus not on the loss , let not thine soul be disquieted within you .
HOPE THOU IN GOD and REMEMBER THE HOPE we have IN CHRIST .
WHY art thou troubled and why are thou disquited in me
HOPE THOU IN GOD . LET HE BE OUR FOCUS . Keep them in prayer .
But man gonna do as man gonna do .
Sheep gonna do as JESUS b ids them to do .
Hope IN GOD , not in man , not in govts , IN GOD , IN HIS CHRIST .
Why are thou downtrodden within me
HOPE THOU IN GOD . that is the solution by which the troubled soul can find its peace again , its rest again .
HOPE IN GOD and iN HIS CHRIST .

 

[amigo de christo]

The way out of depression is to focus on Jesus. Consider his suffering for you and the joy that is to come.

Heb 12:2-3
Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.

Keep your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. Hang the thoughts that depress you on the cross. Consider yourself dead to them:

Col 3:1-3 If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.

Remember that the devil is an accuser. He not only accuses us before the throne. He also accuses God to us. He will say things like "God doesn't love you, if he did he would not let you suffer" Cast such thoughts down. Bring every thought that accuses God captive. A "stronghold" is a house made of thoughts that allows the enemy to have a place in our life. We can actually defend that stronghold by agreeing with the lies. Cast those thoughts down and the stronghold will dissolve and the enemy will flee.

2 Co 10:3-5 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

Speak the truth in your heart. God loves you and gave all to redeem you. Get into the Word. This will set you free:

Jn 8:31-32 Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

Blessings!

Exactly my friend . i had no sooner posted my response when i then found yours .
THAT IS THE KEY . HOPE IN GOD , IN HIS CHRIST .

 

[soberxp]

Can't you take the initiative to contact them?

 

[Taken]

The key to a troubled and down trodden spirit
Can be found in the scriptures , in the pslams .
Focus not on the loss , let not thine soul be disquieted within you .
HOPE THOU IN GOD and REMEMBER THE HOPE we have IN CHRIST .
WHY art thou troubled and why are thou disquited in me
HOPE THOU IN GOD . LET HE BE OUR FOCUS . Keep them in prayer .
But man gonna do as man gonna do .
Sheep gonna do as JESUS b ids them to do .
Hope IN GOD , not in man , not in govts , IN GOD , IN HIS CHRIST .
Why are thou downtrodden within me
HOPE THOU IN GOD . that is the solution by which the troubled soul can find its peace again , its rest again .
HOPE IN GOD and iN HIS CHRIST .

I was quoting the OP title of this Thread…
Not making a declaration for myself, nor requiring a reminder of How to have peace.

 

[Marvelloustime]

The key to a troubled and down trodden spirit
Can be found in the scriptures , in the pslams .
Focus not on the loss , let not thine soul be disquieted within you .
HOPE THOU IN GOD and REMEMBER THE HOPE we have IN CHRIST .
WHY art thou troubled and why are thou disquited in me
HOPE THOU IN GOD . LET HE BE OUR FOCUS . Keep them in prayer .
But man gonna do as man gonna do .
Sheep gonna do as JESUS b ids them to do .
Hope IN GOD , not in man , not in govts , IN GOD , IN HIS CHRIST .
Why are thou downtrodden within me
HOPE THOU IN GOD . that is the solution by which the troubled soul can find its peace again , its rest again .
HOPE IN GOD and iN HIS CHRIST .

@amigo de christo

 

[RepentingChristian]

Is he working there or attending college??

He takes online college classes in the U.S. but lives abroad with his mother and has a part-time job.

 

[RepentingChristian]

Speak the truth in your heart. God loves you and gave all to redeem you. Get into the Word. This will set you free:

Thank you for sharing all of this with me. :)

 

[RepentingChristian]

Can't you take the initiative to contact them?

I have...innumerable times.

 

[KUWN]

These two verses in red may very well be what you are going through. The verses were a comfort to me after my wife's affair, but it didn't release me from the pain of suffering.

You wrote: "I have reasoned to myself that perhaps God is testing me."

Yes, and all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution. (2 Tim 3.12)

I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. (Rom 8.18)

Consider yourself a chosen one, be proud that the Lord is using you for a greater purpose. You should be honored. The depression and pain can be greatly helped by medicine.

RC, my recommendation would be to locate a licensed Christian Counselor, and begin sessions as soon as possible. I think everyone in this forum means well, but counseling of an issue of this nature takes one who is spiritually trained.