You are just not understanding the personal nature and Holy communion of it all, of what it means TO BE born again of God's Holy Spirit.
John 14:23
23 Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and
WE will come unto him, and make
OUR abode
[dwelling place] with him.
Rev. 3:20
20 Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man
hear my voice,
and open the door,
I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
John 11:26
26
And
whosoever liveth [in] AND believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this?
Rom. 8:9
9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you.
Now if ANY man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.