While the following verses are definitely OT, they also definitely speak to us of the mind of God. Has His mind ever changed?I'll be honest, at 25 years old this is not a subject that I've given much study to. It is discussed from time to time, but I've never experienced helping / being there for someone going through this type of situation being the age I am - so I'm just curious. @Episkopos I agree with what you said. If people knew that it was just initial then they could have the mindset of just asking for forgiveness. I then ask myself, well is that true repentance? But after repentance if they continue staying with the individual then it becomes a lifestyle of sin. Either way it is adultery and not what God desires for marriage.
"For they have taken of their daughters for themselves, and for their sons: so that the holy seed have mingled themselves with the people of those lands: yea, the hand of the princes and rulers hath been chief in this trespass.
And when I heard this thing, I rent my garment and my mantle, and plucked off the hair of my head and of my beard, and sat down astonied." Ezra 9:2-3
"And Shechaniah the son of Jehiel, one of the sons of Elam, answered and said unto Ezra, We have trespassed against our God, and have taken strange wives of the people of the land: yet now there is hope in Israel concerning this thing.
Now therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all the wives, and such as are born of them, according to the counsel of my lord, and of those that tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law." Ezra 10:2-3
"And Shechaniah the son of Jehiel, one of the sons of Elam, answered and said unto Ezra, We have trespassed against our God, and have taken strange wives of the people of the land: yet now there is hope in Israel concerning this thing.
Now therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all the wives, and such as are born of them, according to the counsel of my lord, and of those that tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law." Ezra 10:2-3
This story in Ezra may be especially hard to receive when we consider that not only were the unequally yoked spouses to be put away but also the children born of those wrong marriages also being put away. The children had no direct fault, but they certainly suffered because of what the parents did for their own selfish purposes without due consideration.
The children of Israel were selfish then and people are selfish today... selfish to the point even of taking actions that will needlessly hurt innocent children. In Ezra anyone who refused to put away their strange spouses and their offspring would have been cut off from Israel. For them with God that would have been the end.
People can go ahead and divorce for their own reasons, even for good reasons [such as physical, mental and emotional abuse], but if they knowingly go against what God has made clear to them is His Way... why should they ever expect mercy while they are able to correct the error?
We should not try to set in place here hard and fast black and white rules regarding divorce, but neither should we presume that it is OK to by pass what we see is displeasing to God in order to get what is for the moment pleasing to us. We may be faced with difficult decisions as they were in the Book of Ezra, but will not God help us to make the right decision according to His will rather than our own? Think of the decision Jesus had to make. In his flesh was also a desire to escape the suffering which he knew he was facing. He asked that that "cup" be removed, but he willing went with God even though the "cup" was still his to drink. What cup is ours to drink?