It is not a holiness issue. It is a sin issue. We are to go and sin no more. Go and break the law no more (1 John3:4). If you want to continue in sin, that is your choice. I choose to know what the law says and obey it so I don't sin. Also, we do not frustrate grace by obeying the law. We only frustrate grace by seeking to be made righteous by the law. I do not obey the law to be righteous. I obey the law to avoid sin and because we cannot truly love YHWH unless we keep His commandments (1 John 5:3).
You are contradicting yourself here....you do in fact try to obey the law...not only to be righteous but also holy. That is why you are so disturbed at those who choose a living holiness apart from the works of the law.
The Jews did what you are doing and missed the true righteousness. Yet the Gentiles...without the law..apprehended the righteousness of faith.
I fear that this remains a mystery to you.
There is a law that is beyond the law that reveals the death in men. That is the law of faith.
If you understood the life that is available to all men by faith...you would drop your own efforts at pleasing God through the law like a hot potato.
It takes a lot of mental gymnastics to miss Paul's point of not being perfected by the law. Such are not following the way of grace...which is the real holiness that Jesus gives us by His resurrection. We are to walk in HIS life...His resurrection life. No human observance can touch that.
NOT by works of the law. But by the grace of God which is given to us by faith.
Do we enter into the miraculous life and works of Christ by the law? Or by faith?