Men, Can you Tell If Other Men Are Good-Looking?

[A_Man]

yet chicks dig scars lol huh

My guess is the first one would win with the girls in a survey as the most attractive one-- scars and toughness. If a grad student did this, he could ask the girl out after the survey, then do a similar survey with good-looking guys and see which scenario led to the most dates. I wouldn't be surprised if he got statistically significantly more dates after the monster pictures.

 

[bbyrd009]

Probably so. I think my wife is beautiful. I'd have said at least 90th percentile for looks, certainly when I met her. But she's southeast Asian. I introduced her to a friend who was married to a Chinese who'd already commented on not finding the local southeast Asian population attractive. I asked if he thought she was pretty (right when I'd started getting to know her.) He refused to comment on her looks. I remembered he generally did not find women from the region attractive.

But there does seem to be some general consensus, at least among people who have similar phenotypes, as to what consistutes an attractive face. I can generally agree that most of the 'pretty' leading actresses are pretty, though I might think one is slightly attractive and someone else might think she is the most beautiful woman in the world. And there are a few I think are unattractive, physically, that seem to play female leads that should be played by an attractive women. So I think there some general consensus and some general variability.

But when it gets down to the level of most of us normal people who might be slightly attractive to some people and not to others, one person might think someone is strange looking that another finds attractive enough to pair off with and marry. And some people really care about looks, and others care more about charisma, persona, masculinity, feminity, and those things ring the subconscious emotional bells. Then there are more important issues like faith, values, and character, of curse, which are much more important than looks.

my sister is a stunner, mom too, 76 and still getting hits, and i'm not sure beauty is not a curse tbh

 

[Sabertooth]

...which are much more important than looks.

It is okay to include looks to a certain extent. (You gotta be able to look at her!) But you gotta be able to live with who's inside, too.

 

[A_Man]

In the Biblical sense, like Job's second set of daughters, the term was more about popularity.

There are female faces in my collection that I wouldn't be naturally attracted to that still represent an interesting type.

As I stated earlier, for casting purposes, yes. Looks, alone, cannot make a man more marriageable to a woman, so I cannot make any such recommendations.

"As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout,
So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion." Proverbs 11:22 NKJV

That goes for guys, too.

They say good-looking men have an easier time getting women than less attractive men. Women might be a little less into physical attraction, but it still a big part of it, especially with the younger women. The thing with attraction is that it is so instinctive and not usually related to the person's character.

I think we need to actively teach and warn young people of choosing a spouse based on looks. I think it's reasonable to choose someone one will have at least some level of attraction so one won't have a hard time makin' da babies with one's spouse, but that should not be the main or only concern.

 

[marks]

Fair enough. Sorry if I misunderstood you. This is not the most spiritual of threads, but there are scriptural-references to people being good-looking, like Rachel or David, or the woman chosen from among the captives a man might choose to marry. So it shouldn't be considered a forbidden topic, should it?

To clarify, do you men have a sense of what you think a good-looking man is. You could also comment on whether you would be able to perceive what the general populace (either everyone or just women) perceive a man to look like.

Really, what I am wondering what percentage of men are as clueless as I am on this issue. I suspect it is a minority but still a sizeable percentage or maybe as much as half.

I've just been reading about David and Saul. Both of them were described as good looking to everyone.

All I can really answer you is that I know when I think someone looks good to me, but whether my wife would think the same, I don't know.

I would suppose that the more I thought such and such a person had "classic good looks", the more perhaps others may find them good looking.

But at the end of the day, for me, no, the topic's certainly not "off the table", but just the same, aren't we better of not focusing on the physical appearances of others, and in how others rate in attractiveness to us?

Much love!

 

[marks]

It is okay to include looks to a certain extent. (You gotta be able to look at her!) But you gotta be able to live with who's inside, too.

There's a line I've always hated, but still . . .

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder . . . and I be holding you!"

The ones we love are beautiful, are they not? When we learn to see beauty?

Much love!

 

[A_Man]

I've got to admit tha tlooks were important when I was looking for a wife. She had to be a Christian, have good Christian character, be a virgin, and be stunningly beautiful-- at least to my tastes. Sorry, it was just something instinctual. I just wasn't attracted to every woman.

It's a good thing we are attracted to different types, to some extent at least, and looks aren't as important to one person as they are to another.

 

[A_Man]

i would maybe wonder "to whom?" viz your Q, but c'mon bro, you cant tell that Brad Pitt is/was obviously good looking? mark here, ntmy btw

Btw, when I brought this up elsewhere, some men respond like this. Other men think only women can tell if a man is good-looking. some have a vague sense of it.

When my son was probably about 11 or 12, he asked me about how to tell if a woman is good-looking. But nature took its course on that one.

 

[Sabertooth]

I just wasn't attracted to every woman.

God doesn't expect us to be. It helps to narrow down our selection.

 

[Enoch111]

With a man, I'd have to guess based on psychological research.

You might need to see a shrink. For most people, it is not rocket science to assess the appearance of others. A glance is sufficient.

 

[Prayer Warrior]

You might need to see a shrink. For most people, it is not rocket science to assess the appearance of others. A glance is sufficient.

LOL! Good one!

 

[Sabertooth]

i have a basso profundo voice and am tall--with a ridiculous giraffe neck lol--and old, and still getting attn. Weird to me.

Once when waiting to get into a parking spot, a younger guy behind me was getting bugged that he had to wait for me. He called out about something to do with my driving and referred to me as a "Romeo." I do not primp, and my clothes are usually T-shirts & jeans. I have no metro inclinations whatsoever. The way he said it sounded like he was a little jealous of me (not perversely interested). I have been called a lot of things, but that was the first and only time that a guy has ever called me a "Romeo" and been jealous of my looks...!?

I get hit on by women from time-to-time, but not so often that it goes to my head.

 

[Sabertooth]

I find the villain in this movie to be creepily pretty. It is very unsettling.

Stargate: Ra

 

[A_Man]

You might need to see a shrink. For most people, it is not rocket science to assess the appearance of others. A glance is sufficient.

I've got a PhD and I did study some psych, just not this field. Neither field is clinical psychology. That is where my psychology interest comes from.

Are you saying you perceive other men attractive and you think I am the one with the psychological problem? Some men have a sense of whether other men are good-looking and some of us don't. I'm just trying to get a sense of what percentage cannot. It's not a psychological problem. Perceiving other men as god-looking does not fulfill much of a social function for us men.

 

[Helen]

as AM has just noted, symettry is attractive to ppl generally speaking i guess.


i dont think women value appearances the same way we do though. I am prolly closest to the bottom image there now, but i have a basso profundo voice and am tall--with a ridiculous giraffe neck lol--and old, and still getting attn. Weird to me.

I’ve seen photos of you on Facebook before you removed them. And one with your mum.

No, you are not old...and you have good height.
I believe we are all drawn to different types. I personally don’t think the pretty boys like Brad Pit are etc good looking. I like the more rugged types. When I was 17 and dating, I dumped a very good looking guy , he did not appeal to me at all...but I went with him for three months , just because all my girlfriends drooled and swooned over him, but I was the girl he was going out with.

Trouble is, he himself also thought he was good looking...he was so shocked when I dumped him.

You may not look like Brad Pitt , you do have a handsome face with much more character than him, .. I would have gone for you 60 years ago
When young I thought Clint Eastwood... and Tom Sellek were lovely ...so you are in good company! They can keep all your Brad Pitts . LOL
(Plus Johnny Dep can out act him any day...even with his problems....)
Brad Pit has to wear an ear bug and someone to feed him his lines.

 

[A_Man]

I find the villain in this movie to be creepily pretty. It is very unsettling.

Stargate: Ra

Looks like a dude, so he is not 'good-looking' to me at all. The drag queen look combined with the demonic sounding voice sure is creepy though.

 

[Enoch111]

Are you saying you perceive other men attractive and I am the one with the psychological problem?

There is a huge difference between men perceiving other men as *attractive* (a homosexual orientation) and men seen other men as either (a) good looking or (b) not so good looking. That just takes a glance. On the other hand, homosexuality is an aberration -- a sexual perversion -- condemned in the Bible.

 

[A_Man]

There is a huge difference between men perceiving other men as *attractive* (a homosexual orientation) and men seen other men as either (a) good looking or (b) not so good looking. That just takes a glance. On the other hand, homosexuality is an aberration -- a sexual perversion -- condemned in the Bible.

Good point. Some of us cannot tell with a glance if another man is good-looking. For me, it's guesswork or a case of asking someone if I have a reason to find out (e.g. trying to figure out who is going to be the love interest in a movie or if i were to try to do some sort of match-making.) I know I am not the only man who has basically no clue about this. there is no reason to be incredulous or to insult me.

I say 'no clue' but I can tell the monster halfling off the Lord of the rings is probably rather ugly.

I saw the actor in the movie 'The Breakup' this eek. My guess is that he is not good-looking because his face looks oddly shaped to me, but he played the male lead.

Women... I can easily tell with a glance. But that makes sense since it serves a biological function for the species. I am curious how many men are like me and have little to no perception of this. I did not really realize that it was a common thing for men to have much perception of this until I was in my 40's. American men rarely discuss it, and it was rare to come up in conversation overseas.

 

[Sabertooth]

The drag queen look combined with the demonic sounding voice sure is creepy though.

They made no attempt to feminize his chest (like a drag queen or trans), but his face still struck me as feminine.

 

[Sabertooth]

...and men seen other men as either (a) good looking or (b) not so good looking.

In just the body department, I have no interest in their sexual parts, but if they are well-built, I would wonder what it would take to have similar build myself. Usually, it involves a bigger time commitment than I am willing to invest.

My brother-in-law was telling me that the weight of muscle strains one's heart is just as bad as the same weight in fat does. So bulk seems to have a down side.