I don't know where else to put this. I am struggling internally with problems revolving around older men. I used to prefer older men, but after some "events" in my life I'm starting to think that they all get very angry at some point and end up dangerous.
Regardless of whether or not I was with someone older or closer to my age, aging is inevitable and I would eventually have to deal with them being that age anyway at some point and then I have a fear that they will turn on me and just be angry constantly.
This has caused me to live in an emotional cocoon, closing myself off from the idea, and having a fear of relationships.
I know that this is a little bit unrealistic and probably my brain exaggerating, but I don't have a lot of experience with Christian men and the ones I have had weren't the best example. So I can't really tell the difference too much between the believers and non-believers, even though they always make it sound like you'll be totally safe *as long as* he is a believer.
Can anyone change my mind?
Regardless of whether or not I was with someone older or closer to my age, aging is inevitable and I would eventually have to deal with them being that age anyway at some point and then I have a fear that they will turn on me and just be angry constantly.
This has caused me to live in an emotional cocoon, closing myself off from the idea, and having a fear of relationships.
I know that this is a little bit unrealistic and probably my brain exaggerating, but I don't have a lot of experience with Christian men and the ones I have had weren't the best example. So I can't really tell the difference too much between the believers and non-believers, even though they always make it sound like you'll be totally safe *as long as* he is a believer.
Can anyone change my mind?