If hate doesn’t mean hate, then love doesn’t mean love.
Hate is not the opposite of love. Selfishness is.
And just as we grow in grace, so also do we grow in love. The claim that God chooses us because we love Him is nonsense. It was while we were yet sinners...selfish rebellious pleasure seeking and Godless...that Christ dies for us. Yes, He died for us too, not only Calvinists.
No-one is saying here that we didn't come to repentance without God's help and encouragement. No-one here believes tha they now love God in their own strength, obey His commandments without the Spirit of God's enabling power. But the first commandment is
thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all your mind, all your strength, and all your heart. Love must be voluntary. God cannot impose upon anyone the will to love Him because the moment He does that, it ceases to be love. We must
choose to love. Being compelled to love is an impossibility, even for God to accomplish. Compulsory love is an oxymoron.
Now of course we did not love God when we first acknowledged our sin and need of a Saviour. And such acknowledgement came only at the conviction of the holy Spirit working upon our hearts and minds...but unless you, DaveL, preacher, and others have at some time yourselves
chosen to love God...decided to live for Him and place Christ first in all things...then you do not in all reality, love Him. I do not pretend to know what it is that you claim to have in this regard, but whatever it is, it aint love. No more so than your wife forced you to the altar at the end of a shotgun and threatened to remove your head unless you pronounced your unending love for her. Would that really be love? And if she decided to leave you, what would be your reaction? Would you love for her mean that you tie her to the bed and lock her in the room...or give her the choice and the freedom to leave? Which one is the true expression of love?
Is God truly a God of love and restrained power, or a God of power and restrained love?