Sovereign grace if you had a problem with my post on the other thread then you should have said something to me then. You could be right about the double standards, but I am afraid we are all capable of it, including you. On forum life it is just not easy to remember every single post and every single thing that you say. Sometimes we feel the need to say something, sometimes someone else says something , sometimes we just sit back.
There are many posts I do not agree with, many things that go on that I choose to add to, but many I choose to not speak up about.
I cannot comment of all that has gone on with Grace and Willie, In this case you are right about the double standards, I apologise if it caused you hurt or an issue- I stand corrected.
However i do not appreciate being told ' i hope in future that you be careful about intervening ' you can hold me to account, as we all can with one another, but it doesn't mean that you can dictate or be condescending, as that is how that sentence came across !
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Butterfly - I was trying to stop the ungodly exchange on that thread and shut it down so I stopped posting on it. And I could not have remarked about your double standard then because you
just applied a double standard here on this thread by admonishing Core Issue when you told my husband and Bobby Jo that I was perfectly capable of defending myself. I thought that you came across as judgmental - setting yourself up as my husband's and Bobby Jo's judge.
You just immediately deflected and pointed the finger at me - a common defense mechanism that you can read about below. We are all full of guile and have a well of defense mechanisms that we pull out and use at opportune times. It is why Scripture says that "the heart is desperately wicked and deceitful, who can know it?" I am fully aware that I am a sinner but I did nothing wrong to you, Willie, or Helen. Your words hurt because I had two ungodly "Christians" on here sinning openly and following me and attacking me. If anything I thought that you should have admonished
their behavior, not Bobby Jo's and my husbands
reaction to their attacks on me.
My intention was not to sound condescending; I wanted you to realize that your words against my husband and Bobby Jo stung when you said not a word about Helen and Willie's sinful attacks. Bobby Jo was the only one who acted with any integrity. Willie kept goading and even made a nasty crack and brought my husband into it - so I let my husband respond to him, and my husband's words were justified 100% because Willie was being very aggressive. No one should come on a "Christian" forum and be abused over and over and over when I did
nothing to them. If someone doesn't know the full story about whats going on in a situation it's better to stay out of it because you can make things worse - that was what I was trying to get across. That applies to me and everyone else.
"A person who is passing by and meddles in a quarrel that's not his is like one who grabs a dog by the ears." Proverbs 26:17
“It is foolish to belittle a neighbor; a person with good sense remains silent.” Proverbs 11:12
I appreciate your apology - it takes someone with courage to admit a wrong. I think that
all of us should measure our words, especially in a volatile situation. We all have feelings that can be hurt. I almost left because of that - it ceased to be a blessing coming here. Those kind of raucous exchanges are of the world not of God.
I hope that we can move past this. In spite of all that went on I see good in you, in Helen, and in Willie. It is my prayer that we can put aside the bad and focus on building one another up, especially since the days ahead look like they're going to grow worse as predicted in Scripture.
"Wherefore laying aside all malice, and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies, and all evil speakings." - 1 Peter 2:1
"For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile." 1 Peter 3:10
Deflection (The Coping Mechanism From Hell)
To deflect something is to cause that thing to change direction by interposing something. This turns it off of its straight course in another direction, even back in the original direction it came from. The best way to imagine this is to think of animation that involves laser beams. If one character shoots a laser beam at another character and he picks up his shield, the laser beam is deflected off in another direction, or ricochets back towards the one who shot it. This may be a good defense tactic when it comes to laser beams. But what if the “something” that is being sent in your direction is a plea or a piece of information that you have to take very seriously. Or even an opportunity for you to see yourself clearly.
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I think that we have to be aware of the work of the evil one. We can recognize his footsteps in different postings on here in different people. I'm guarded when certain people post. I was reading about it yesterday how Satan entered Judas. There is no indication that Judas was a Christian but I believe that Satan can and does work through Christians - I've seen it. I hope to get into a study of "religious spirits."
In peace,
SG