Is it really a zero-sum equation or could there be varying degrees of this understanding? And if so, couldn't it be that some understand it better than others? I mean, if you think there's nothing for us to talk about, why not just say so? :)
So for me, I prefer to discuss what the Bible says. Having determined what it does and does not say, I don't go on to make some kind of moral judgment over what I believe it says.
When someone suggests to me that even though this certain thing is said, we "know" that's "bad", therefore it can't be true, one of my responses is to acknowledge that the gap in understanding between man and God is infinite, and we shouldn't expect to see everything the way He does.
When someone victimized someone else, they are taking the place of God in that person's life, and the damage can go way beyond the simplicity of the act itself.
Let's take for example the man who molested me. He did it for the purpose of turning me into a child molester. He told me all about it over the course of the two weeks or so it was going on. It was done to him, and that's what he became. So now he was going to do that to me.
My understanding is that if he was successful at making me into a child molester, it would validate his choice, proving that the act had the power to change a person, and the person is helpless against it. It's not true, and I'm not a child molester. No thanks to him! Not that he would have had the chance to see the validation! But this was what he told himself. He had damage and this alleviated his pain for a short time. But his momentary "fix" ruins entire lives.
And that's the point. If he had his way, he would have not only ruined my life in the world, but he would have destroyed me from being able to have eternal life with God.
And even so . . . what has been the impact on my life? My fruitfulness? My eternal rewards? Just how much did he steal from me? I can tell you, the loss is incalculable.
He would have destroyed me forever! And rest assured I'm not his only victim! How many did he do that do?
What is God's righteous judgment? I understand his pain and suffering, and I understand the drives that produce such evil behavior. Physical damage to the brain happens, producing terrible results in the mind, I get that. Maybe like a lot of people don't.
There's another side to the coin . . . that even this works for my good. I suspect that had I not been destroyed in such a fashion, maybe I'd have been so self sufficient as to never come to God. This was likely for my salvation.
I hope somehow God reached him. I expect by this time he's likely dead. What about the ones who did that to him? What is the righteous judgment of God?
Sorry to just blat this out for you . . . but I wanted to illustrate better the considerations I have in mind.
Much love!